I listen to some very loud, very angry music and watch lots of anime...
... it's worked for me so far!
... it's worked for me so far!
Rejection
- Thread starter SCAFC Chimp
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I go to the only friend I can count on to cheer me up when I'm in that low. Whenever I get rejected or go through a break up, she cracks jokes for me. Little does she know that while she isn't the girl I'm in love with, she's the only girl I'd actually want to have sex with. Awkward.
I just watch Umineko No Naku Kuro Ni again or replay one of the Phoenix Wright games, they always cheer me up
Not that i've had many chances for rejection anyway due to my sheer awesomeness!
[sub] Note that the above statement may or may not be slightly embellished[/sub]
Not that i've had many chances for rejection anyway due to my sheer awesomeness!
[sub] Note that the above statement may or may not be slightly embellished[/sub]
I've never been rejected, because I've never built up enough courage to ask a girl out.
Here's a typical scenario that plays out in my head, when I see a girl I like.
"Well she's nice, maybe I should go talk to her."
"Wait what if she says no?"
"She won't."
(Pauses to think) "Yeah she will, she's far to pretty to even consider going out with a guy like me and besides I've got about as much confidence as Eeyore (Probably didn't spell that right) from Winnie the Pooh.
"I guess I'll just move on."
Here's a typical scenario that plays out in my head, when I see a girl I like.
"Well she's nice, maybe I should go talk to her."
"Wait what if she says no?"
"She won't."
(Pauses to think) "Yeah she will, she's far to pretty to even consider going out with a guy like me and besides I've got about as much confidence as Eeyore (Probably didn't spell that right) from Winnie the Pooh.
"I guess I'll just move on."
I tend to avoid situations where i am at risk of rejection, such as asking out a girl i think is far too good for me etc. It's called Avoidant Personality.
I used to have problems with asking out girls, and a little of it lingers in a helpful kind of way. As a result, even if I do and get rejected, I'm still internally more glad for having tried than for not trying at all. It also gives a chance either way to try out what one could ostensibly call "moves."
I would probably drink, but I've never experienced 'rejection.'
Sure, I've been rejected from things, but most of the time I just say "fuck it" and move on; I almost always hedge my bets so I have a backup plan anyway. When the contingencies fail, I experience frustration instead, which I deal with in a number of ways depending on how plausible it is to achieve a favorable solution (if no favorable solution is available, yeah, usually default to drink and really, really good food).
Sure, I've been rejected from things, but most of the time I just say "fuck it" and move on; I almost always hedge my bets so I have a backup plan anyway. When the contingencies fail, I experience frustration instead, which I deal with in a number of ways depending on how plausible it is to achieve a favorable solution (if no favorable solution is available, yeah, usually default to drink and really, really good food).
I wish I had your optimism, but being 0 for 10 for even getting a first date is taking its toll on what confidence I have and makes me start thinking that I'll always be alone. The thing is, I don't just go asking out girls just because of their looks (the one time I did, she way OVERREACTED by slapping me and kicking me in the crotch in the middle of school), so I don't think I'd ever be the type to go to bars to hit on girls. I try to get to know them a bit for their personalities and interests to see if we'd be at least a bit compatible. The few times I actually find these type of women they're either already in a relationship, genuinely not interested in dating at the time, or pull the "friend's zone" bullshit. It doesn't help that I'm dense when it comes to reading body language, so if any women have been subtly flirting with me, they're waiting for me to make the first move and I blow it.Aylaine said:I accept that I was rejected, put a smile on and move forward? That person may be nice, attractive, or unique, but no means no. Also, there are plenty of other people out there I could be pursuing and wasting time being all hung up on rejection doesn't seem smart to me knowing that.SCAFC Chimp said:
OT: Probably sulk a bit more than most people and play some mind-numbingly violent games to dull the pain. I don't have any friends close enough to help me sort out my messed-up emotions unfortunatly.