Rejection
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I go to the only friend I can count on to cheer me up when I'm in that low. Whenever I get rejected or go through a break up, she cracks jokes for me. Little does she know that while she isn't the girl I'm in love with, she's the only girl I'd actually want to have sex with. Awkward.
I just watch Umineko No Naku Kuro Ni again or replay one of the Phoenix Wright games, they always cheer me up
Not that i've had many chances for rejection anyway due to my sheer awesomeness!
[sub] Note that the above statement may or may not be slightly embellished[/sub]
Not that i've had many chances for rejection anyway due to my sheer awesomeness!
[sub] Note that the above statement may or may not be slightly embellished[/sub]
I've never been rejected, because I've never built up enough courage to ask a girl out.
Here's a typical scenario that plays out in my head, when I see a girl I like.
"Well she's nice, maybe I should go talk to her."
"Wait what if she says no?"
"She won't."
(Pauses to think) "Yeah she will, she's far to pretty to even consider going out with a guy like me and besides I've got about as much confidence as Eeyore (Probably didn't spell that right) from Winnie the Pooh.
"I guess I'll just move on."
Here's a typical scenario that plays out in my head, when I see a girl I like.
"Well she's nice, maybe I should go talk to her."
"Wait what if she says no?"
"She won't."
(Pauses to think) "Yeah she will, she's far to pretty to even consider going out with a guy like me and besides I've got about as much confidence as Eeyore (Probably didn't spell that right) from Winnie the Pooh.
"I guess I'll just move on."
I tend to avoid situations where i am at risk of rejection, such as asking out a girl i think is far too good for me etc. It's called Avoidant Personality.
I used to have problems with asking out girls, and a little of it lingers in a helpful kind of way. As a result, even if I do and get rejected, I'm still internally more glad for having tried than for not trying at all. It also gives a chance either way to try out what one could ostensibly call "moves."
I would probably drink, but I've never experienced 'rejection.'
Sure, I've been rejected from things, but most of the time I just say "fuck it" and move on; I almost always hedge my bets so I have a backup plan anyway. When the contingencies fail, I experience frustration instead, which I deal with in a number of ways depending on how plausible it is to achieve a favorable solution (if no favorable solution is available, yeah, usually default to drink and really, really good food).
Sure, I've been rejected from things, but most of the time I just say "fuck it" and move on; I almost always hedge my bets so I have a backup plan anyway. When the contingencies fail, I experience frustration instead, which I deal with in a number of ways depending on how plausible it is to achieve a favorable solution (if no favorable solution is available, yeah, usually default to drink and really, really good food).
I wish I had your optimism, but being 0 for 10 for even getting a first date is taking its toll on what confidence I have and makes me start thinking that I'll always be alone. The thing is, I don't just go asking out girls just because of their looks (the one time I did, she way OVERREACTED by slapping me and kicking me in the crotch in the middle of school), so I don't think I'd ever be the type to go to bars to hit on girls. I try to get to know them a bit for their personalities and interests to see if we'd be at least a bit compatible. The few times I actually find these type of women they're either already in a relationship, genuinely not interested in dating at the time, or pull the "friend's zone" bullshit. It doesn't help that I'm dense when it comes to reading body language, so if any women have been subtly flirting with me, they're waiting for me to make the first move and I blow it.Aylaine said:I accept that I was rejected, put a smile on and move forward? That person may be nice, attractive, or unique, but no means no. Also, there are plenty of other people out there I could be pursuing and wasting time being all hung up on rejection doesn't seem smart to me knowing that.SCAFC Chimp said:
OT: Probably sulk a bit more than most people and play some mind-numbingly violent games to dull the pain. I don't have any friends close enough to help me sort out my messed-up emotions unfortunatly.
Step 1.Mass consumption of alchohol
Step 2. Go to sleep.
Step 3. Wake up with hangover
Results: You forget the girl since you're occupied with your body.
Step 2. Go to sleep.
Step 3. Wake up with hangover
Results: You forget the girl since you're occupied with your body.
I have been rejected once... and knew it would happen, I was more just informing the girl that I had a thing for her, and I took it well, as in "got that done, bravely too, now to enjoy my weekend"
Wait, what? That's not true at all! I've certainly never had to deal with being rejected...SCAFC Chimp said:
... because like RanD00M I systematically avoid scenarios where rejection is a possible outcome - it's pretty much impossible to reject someone who hasn't ever actually made any overtures. Yay science!RanD00M said:
But seriously, I honestly have no idea what the hell being rejected feels like, I'm solitary and reclusive by nature, and I actually like being alone so I've never gone particularly out of my way to behave in a manner that contravenes my innately introverted nature. I don't even really have any friends out here in meatspace - acquaintances and people I'm friendly with sure, but I never just "go out and do stuff with friends" unless I'm tagging along with one of my siblings on the rare occasions where they convince me to leave the house for purposes other than 'gainful employment'. Consequently the social interactions I do experience tend to be uniformly positive, if only because other people are the ones who mainly go about initiating them.
As for romantic overtures, I never make any, and since I'm a guy I don't really have to worry much about women hitting on me all the time, so I've never had to do any rejecting of my own. There are social settings where that might not be the case of course, but those also tend to be the type of social settings where you will absolutely never find me under any circumstance, so that works out well.
Soooo... I don't really have any advice for handling rejection to offer to the people who find themselves dealing with it, since I live my life in a fashion that neatly avoids it entirely; telling people "Don't define yourself through others" and/or "Learn to be happy when you're alone" is all well and good, but depending on how you're wired it probably isn't going to be particularly helpful - some people just need the sort of human connections that I find almost entirely extraneous.
Sleep it off. The true coward's way. That, or I get very drunk and play through Portal for the umpteenth time. Or read some Wodehouse or Durrell, because they make me laugh.
Alcohol, lots and lots of alcohol.
My self-esteem is in the shitter, as this being a common occurrence for me, so I just sit and sulk. Oh and I either play a game like God of War until I feel better, or something mindless like Pokemon until I forget why I was sulking in the first place.
My self-esteem is in the shitter, as this being a common occurrence for me, so I just sit and sulk. Oh and I either play a game like God of War until I feel better, or something mindless like Pokemon until I forget why I was sulking in the first place.