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Once again, similar boat as you. live in the country, spend a lot of time at my PC playing various games.aprilmarie said:
"Chinese lettering" - 90% of people I know with those kinds of tattoos have no idea what they mean, and since I speak Mandarin, I find it funny. I bet I could start a tattoo parlour and charge douche bags for tattoos of Chinese characters that mean nothing what they think it means. Imagine if you found a guy with a tattoo for "Fag" on his arm?neonsword13-ops said:This is why, My dear friend. Remember, girls love 'em.
I've always been told that im a nice guy and good looking to boot but I was not that good at starting conversations with anyone but I have since fixed that problem and I am very excited for my new intel class because the level of girls is very high and I like my chances with at least one of them.
Well, I guess I can't fault you for the amount of effort that you're putting in, as futile and somewhat misguided/inconsiderate as it may be.RAKtheUndead said:
Single at the moment. I quite like it though, as I'm spending the summer off uni to dedicate time to myself and make myself a better person. The freedom's a nice thing to have. Of course, that may all change once uni starts up again.
Waaghpowa said:Once again, similar boat as you. live in the country, spend a lot of time at my PC playing various games.aprilmarie said:"Chinese lettering" - 90% of people I know with those kinds of tattoos have no idea what they mean, and since I speak Mandarin, I find it funny. I bet I could start a tattoo parlour and charge douche bags for tattoos of Chinese characters that mean nothing what they think it means. Imagine if you found a guy with a tattoo for "Fag" on his arm?neonsword13-ops said:This is why, My dear friend. Remember, girls love 'em.
hahahaha I love that photo. not the first time i've seen it. I'd like to either get kanji or mandarin for bunny on my back but i don't trust people enough because of that so I won't do it unless I can start learning it for myself
I finally have a working computer that runs games on it well enough for me to play so not limited to just my ps3 anymore. Now to take all my music off my ps3 and put it on my computer
Give me a socially awkward pale ass gamer boy with a little stubble and I'll take that over your stereotypical douche any day and be 10 times happier than any other girl with one of them
hmm... my relationship life is good now but when i was younger it wasnt fun.
i lived in a town of about... 2400 people, and im a lesbian. yeah. not good.
i lived in a town of about... 2400 people, and im a lesbian. yeah. not good.
No-one needs another person to make them happy, you find happiness on your own. Then perhaps you will find someone, perhaps not, but don't sweat being single, just enjoy it. Don't get into a relationship because you don't want to be single, it's not fair on your partner and it's not fair on yourself.
Don't put everything into one person because, when that person is gone, there goes your little world.
Don't put everything into one person because, when that person is gone, there goes your little world.
According to a lot of my male and female friends, I don't seem like the type to know what "romantic" is or means. What is that supposed to mean?
I wasted my youth pining after a girl I now know to be an intolerable ***** (general consensus, not just my opinion), and threw away three or four potential relationships in the ultimately fruitless pursuit of her. My problem? I was just an asshole. In fairness, she did ask me to our prom and generally loved me, but not in quite the right way. But yeah, I've made a lot of mistakes in the past but self-pity isn't my style, so I'll just have to not make those mistakes again.
Never 'officially' had a girlfriend, but I've had... things that make putting quotes around officially acceptable. Not sure the best way to describe it w/o going into detail (which I won't).
Anyway, my girl-related circumstances can be summed up very simply: Girls like me, then I go herp derp.
Level of satisfaction with current situation: good enough for now.
Anyway, my girl-related circumstances can be summed up very simply: Girls like me, then I go herp derp.
Level of satisfaction with current situation: good enough for now.
hooboy...
Back in my early teens I had rat-tailı. Said rat-tail was nothing new as I had had it all my life but there was something different about this piece of hair as soon as I went to Middle-School. What I am trying to say is that I was ostracized for the late 12th and early-mid 13th of my life because I my haircut was completely different than that of the entire student body that made up my 7th grade class. Needless to say, my view of society and the human race itself has had a much more cynical look to it ever since. Being left alone everyday allowed me to become more observant and really take note of my classmates which led to this discovery: everyone is terrible. This is, of course, a view point that was created by a teeny-bopper (or however you spell it) and has been changed over time to reflect the evolution of my understanding of the people I went to school with since.
The next major factor (yes there are at least two of them) was, and still is, my father. My father went to an all-boys school for high school and junior high which meant, I'm assuming, that he did not have much of a chance to test the waters of a relationship in his youth. Thu-sly, he would tell me once or twice a week that, "you should really get a girl friend or else you'll regret not seeing what a relationship is like later in life," or something attuned to that. Being the slightly rebellious teenager that I was, I decided that it would be best to stay away from getting into a relationship and declared myself an asexual.
I never had a girlfriend till this year. We were both in the same college class and both in our second year. Up to this point, two other girls had asked me. I had given thought about dating one of them but she had a tendency to get liquored up whenever she could. Any who, the night that my ex and I became a couple I asked myself "Am I okay with this?" The answer turned out to be yes but I had no idea what "love" felt like up to that point in my life. Long story short, she left me two days later, though not because of anything we had done, more of a financial thing.
At this point I've begun my third year of college and here is what I've come up with for being single: More data required.
I've known what being single is like, but I only had a couple of days to try and figure out what being in a relationship was like. I suppose at this point that I don't mind being single, but I wouldn't half mind giving another relationship a go.
ı: I got rid of the rat-tail my 10th year in high school.
Back in my early teens I had rat-tailı. Said rat-tail was nothing new as I had had it all my life but there was something different about this piece of hair as soon as I went to Middle-School. What I am trying to say is that I was ostracized for the late 12th and early-mid 13th of my life because I my haircut was completely different than that of the entire student body that made up my 7th grade class. Needless to say, my view of society and the human race itself has had a much more cynical look to it ever since. Being left alone everyday allowed me to become more observant and really take note of my classmates which led to this discovery: everyone is terrible. This is, of course, a view point that was created by a teeny-bopper (or however you spell it) and has been changed over time to reflect the evolution of my understanding of the people I went to school with since.
The next major factor (yes there are at least two of them) was, and still is, my father. My father went to an all-boys school for high school and junior high which meant, I'm assuming, that he did not have much of a chance to test the waters of a relationship in his youth. Thu-sly, he would tell me once or twice a week that, "you should really get a girl friend or else you'll regret not seeing what a relationship is like later in life," or something attuned to that. Being the slightly rebellious teenager that I was, I decided that it would be best to stay away from getting into a relationship and declared myself an asexual.
I never had a girlfriend till this year. We were both in the same college class and both in our second year. Up to this point, two other girls had asked me. I had given thought about dating one of them but she had a tendency to get liquored up whenever she could. Any who, the night that my ex and I became a couple I asked myself "Am I okay with this?" The answer turned out to be yes but I had no idea what "love" felt like up to that point in my life. Long story short, she left me two days later, though not because of anything we had done, more of a financial thing.
At this point I've begun my third year of college and here is what I've come up with for being single: More data required.
I've known what being single is like, but I only had a couple of days to try and figure out what being in a relationship was like. I suppose at this point that I don't mind being single, but I wouldn't half mind giving another relationship a go.
ı: I got rid of the rat-tail my 10th year in high school.
Oh god, the cynicism.
Personally, I've had quite a few relationships, but I'm single now [sub]Ladies?[/sub]. Actually, since I've been about thirteen I've been as much in relationships (relationships with varying degrees of seriousness) as not, which I suppose is odd for The Escapist. Probably because I'm such a dashing bastard. Being single and 'free' is a myth. You get way less sex when you're single.
Personally, I've had quite a few relationships, but I'm single now [sub]Ladies?[/sub]. Actually, since I've been about thirteen I've been as much in relationships (relationships with varying degrees of seriousness) as not, which I suppose is odd for The Escapist. Probably because I'm such a dashing bastard. Being single and 'free' is a myth. You get way less sex when you're single.
But, by posting in these threads, you displace the better threads of which you speak. I never see you post in other threads either. Just relationship ones.RAKtheUndead said:
Eh, I really can't be bothered to rant. For some reason I seem to be invisible to girls, even when I try to get noticed. I honestly couldn't tell you why. I usually have a pretty sunny disposition, I can talk and listen very well and I don't look too bad either, if I may say so myself.
I mean sure, I get it why most girls get turned off on me after they really get to know me, with my geeky interests and all, but no one seems to give a damn about me even before that stage. Really, I don't know what I'm doing wrong. I honestly don't.
And honestly, I'm getting lonely as well. I've been okay with the single thing for quite some time, but seeing people hook up around me... It stings, really. I want the warmth it brings, the companionship, knowing that someone really loves you for the person you are. But that seems too much to ask.
For some reason you just seem to really want to rub your own nose in what you think of yourself. Mental self-flagellation, as it were, making what you tell of yourself a self-fulfilling prophesy. You're sabotaging yourself, and you think you deserve it. A man's mind can be oh so very odd.
Girls like that are supposed to be myths, y'know. At least over here they are. Ahhh the delights of the countryside.
I mean sure, I get it why most girls get turned off on me after they really get to know me, with my geeky interests and all, but no one seems to give a damn about me even before that stage. Really, I don't know what I'm doing wrong. I honestly don't.
And honestly, I'm getting lonely as well. I've been okay with the single thing for quite some time, but seeing people hook up around me... It stings, really. I want the warmth it brings, the companionship, knowing that someone really loves you for the person you are. But that seems too much to ask.
Awful excuse, because you know just as well as I do that it doesn't help one little bit. I don't even think I have to explain why.RAKtheUndead said:
For some reason you just seem to really want to rub your own nose in what you think of yourself. Mental self-flagellation, as it were, making what you tell of yourself a self-fulfilling prophesy. You're sabotaging yourself, and you think you deserve it. A man's mind can be oh so very odd.
My friend, this is The Escapist. We've seen raunchier topics. No need to be afraid to announce you had one night stands and fuckbuddies.burningdragoon said:
...aprilmarie said:
Girls like that are supposed to be myths, y'know. At least over here they are. Ahhh the delights of the countryside.
So that actually happens? I picture something like that taking place every time I consider asking someone out. Doesn't help that I have problems making eye contact or smiling at people, which my friends have told me occasionally makes others nervous.Captain_Fantastic said:
I'm a geek girl who had similar experiences to most people here for all of middle school/junior high and most of high school. Liked some guys, tried in my socially awkward way to let them know, was friendzoned and treated as 'one of the guys'. School dances just exist to torture people I swear. But I decided that I would never date somebody who I didn't honestly think I could have a relationship with, so I held off even when I possibly had the option a couple times. Ended up with some creepy stalkers who either tried to annoy or guilt me into dating them, but wasn't having any of that. BUT then I met a guy at my Dungeons and Dragons group who was funny and cute, and we became friends, stayed that way for many months... and becoming a couple just sort of happened. I think that really the whole idea that if you're friends with someone then you've assed up is stupid. For a relationship to work you've got to be friends first, I mean for every day of doing couple stuff there's the rest of the week of just being friends, nothing but kisses and roses can't be sustained across several months. I've been with my boyfriend over 2 years now, I used to be desperate for a boyfriend and sure something was wrong with me but now I tell my friends... try to just wait and let it happen. My boyfriend had a brief relationship with another girl before me that was mostly just based on feeling like he should have one, and he deeply regrets it now. Having a boyfriend is great, but also includes fights and a lot of time and effort. Just enjoy doing whatever you want, and eventually someone will come along, and it'll just happen. And for god's sake, I understand how it seems, but if you're 16 or 18 or whatever you've got PLENTY of time left to find someone, don't go panicking just because the popular kids get a new girlfriend every week. Those relationships mean nothing, if you want something real you've just got to be patient.
well in order to clear up some of the parts of my story yeah the girl i was friendzoned by is currently my best female friend so close we litterally call each other brother and sister on occasion. and yeah i have come to terms with the entire being single thing but this just comes back to haunt me sometimes. mostly because of the first one of them (the one that moved away after three days) was.... well the first person who seemed genuinely interested i was 16 at the time so the sheer fantasy of it had me hooked. and finally the town where i live is a small canadian boom bust town and we have plenty of people moving here (and out of here) from places like south africa where the second girl is from. and the friends that convinced her i was the closet rapist are also from there they apparently all knew eachother before they moved here so none of them really knew my history, i was the odd child without any close friends before the seventh grade and i got into plenty of fights in the past because of this but on the other hand i am a big guy 6'1 200 some pounds (NOT ALL FAT im built kind of like a football player) and my choice of fashion could be kind of intimidating ie: leather coat,baggy jeans,large grad ring,long hair,nicely trimmed beard, but its the fact that she judged me on what she was told rather than what she knew that pissed me off and the fact she got somebody else to tell me to back off
{also sorry for bad punctuation i failed english for a reason}
{also sorry for bad punctuation i failed english for a reason}
I've pretty much accepted the fact I'll probably be single most of my life, but the only thing that's bothered me (lately, lol) is the fact a guy friend of mine recently started dating this lady (he's around 30ish, I believe, first gf even), and now they're engaged. After what, 2 months of dating? So, I get the selfish "Why not me, too? Why can't I be that lucky?"
Just one of those things. I'm over it. I promise. lol.
Just one of those things. I'm over it. I promise. lol.
Funny, I'm a small town Canadian too It is hard to be in that bubble where if you don't like any of the people your age your options are pretty limited... but eventually you'll move out, or get a car, and your options will expand. For me it was a half hour drive there and back to DnD. Better to wait and find a good match then to try and make somebody who isn't really right fit- even if you make it work for a while it'll end in bitterness later. I know a guy who was very eager with any girl who'd date him, shy and everything, and he was head over heels every time... but it always ended in a breakup and he was more depressed than when he started.
It is hard to be in that bubble where if you don't like any of the people your age your options are pretty limited... but eventually you'll move out, or get a car, and your options will expand. For me it was a half hour drive there and back to DnD. Better to wait and find a good match then to try and make somebody who isn't really right fit- even if you make it work for a while it'll end in bitterness later. I know a guy who was very eager with any girl who'd date him, shy and everything, and he was head over heels every time... but it always ended in a breakup and he was more depressed than when he started.