Relationship Deal Breakers
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Is it wrong or raciest that this made me laugh?krazykidd said:
Also what if she's short and plump like 5,3-5,4 and 170-180lbs
Funny that I should see this today considering not 20 minutes ago I just had a massive arguement with a kinda ex/classmate (can't wait for the next lectures now...).
A deal breaker for me is being a self important arse, arrogant and bitchy for no reason...
A deal breaker for me is being a self important arse, arrogant and bitchy for no reason...
How is that controlling?Colour-Scientist said:
If you went out with somebody and demanded they changed, then yes, that'd be controlling.
But this topic is about deal breakers. Traits that would mean you would not want to be in a relationship with them. If you do not go out with somebody or split up with them over a behaviour/trait that you do not like, then you are not controlling them.
Okay 'deal breakers' well here is what I need/reject from a guy in a relationship 
1. He must like video games
2. He must be intelligent
3. Don't try to hit me.
4. Must have a sense of humour and not think coasters or similar are a good Christmas present ( that's my judgement of whether someone has gotten 'old')
5. Don't do drugs or have STD's. Smoking is tolerable...I guess.
7. Have a massive comic book collection/ library that you will let me read... okay that one is kind of specific but I think a lot of ladies would have married The Beast at the library part, am I right.
8. I don't care about religion but don't expect me to convert to it or act like I'm inferior to you because some dude in the sky said so.
9. Don't be right wing. Just don't.
10. Don't be racist.
It's kind of easier to write it this way
1. He must like video games
2. He must be intelligent
3. Don't try to hit me.
4. Must have a sense of humour and not think coasters or similar are a good Christmas present ( that's my judgement of whether someone has gotten 'old')
5. Don't do drugs or have STD's. Smoking is tolerable...I guess.
7. Have a massive comic book collection/ library that you will let me read... okay that one is kind of specific but I think a lot of ladies would have married The Beast at the library part, am I right.
8. I don't care about religion but don't expect me to convert to it or act like I'm inferior to you because some dude in the sky said so.
9. Don't be right wing. Just don't.
10. Don't be racist.
It's kind of easier to write it this way
Well, I have no experience with the subject, but I would never be able to date someone with no interest in video games.
Unreasonable? Maybe. But hey, you hear that, world? IT'S MY TURN TO BE UNREASONABLE NOW BWAHAHAHAHHAHHH
...sorry.
And of course all of the normal stuff, like bigotry, zealotry, stupidity and the like.
And I would prefer for that person to be female, but I'm pretty flexible.
Unreasonable? Maybe. But hey, you hear that, world? IT'S MY TURN TO BE UNREASONABLE NOW BWAHAHAHAHHAHHH
...sorry.
And of course all of the normal stuff, like bigotry, zealotry, stupidity and the like.
And I would prefer for that person to be female, but I'm pretty flexible.
You know that if you end up dating a person who's read this thread that'll be the first Crimbo present you get, right?Moonlight Butterfly said:Okay 'deal breakers' well here is what I need/reject from a guy in a relationship
Oh yeah... but that would only make me love them moreAmethyst Wind said:You know that if you end up dating a person who's read this thread that'll be the first Crimbo present you get, right?Moonlight Butterfly said:Okay 'deal breakers' well here is what I need/reject from a guy in a relationship
- Excessive clingyness.
I need my personal space.
- Close mindedness.
"You cannot explain that, therefore ghosts/god(s)/magic."
- Ironic close mindedness.
"You cannot explain that, therefore ghosts/god(s)/magic, and you're close minded if you don't believe my explanation."
- Excessive spending.
Clothes can be worn more than once.
I need my personal space.
- Close mindedness.
"You cannot explain that, therefore ghosts/god(s)/magic."
- Ironic close mindedness.
"You cannot explain that, therefore ghosts/god(s)/magic, and you're close minded if you don't believe my explanation."
- Excessive spending.
Clothes can be worn more than once.
Not sure if serious, but whatever;krazykidd said:
1: That's weird, but each to their own.
2: Also kinda odd, it's only a skin tone and facial structure, really, which are often discredited by hereditary traits anyway.
3: Fair enough.
4: What the fucking fuck. That's obscene in my mind and you're the type of person I steer to avoid. Unless you can provide an understandable explaination.
5: Welfare isn't that bad. As long as they can manage their money. And it means you have more free time together! Yay!
And I found your perfect match. She lives in Alabama, she weighs 400 pounds, she helps her cousins fix their third gens for a job, and she's white as dirty chalk. She's also a genuine ol' god fearin' Christian.
-snip-
Went on a rant there. My bad.
Hygiene is one deal breaker. I don't want to be with a slob who doesn't shower on a regular basis. Decent health, too. I don't need a guy that's ripped or anything. I find a little bit of pudge to be really cute, actually.
Also, someone who can make me laugh.
Went on a rant there. My bad.
Hygiene is one deal breaker. I don't want to be with a slob who doesn't shower on a regular basis. Decent health, too. I don't need a guy that's ripped or anything. I find a little bit of pudge to be really cute, actually.
Also, someone who can make me laugh.
Deal breakers, eh?
1) Average intelligence or below. I prefer my women very intelligent, preferably college educated. I'm very intelligent myself, and need someone to converse with and chew through all the experiences life has to offer at a pace we can agree on. If she's smarter than me, that might even be a bonus.
2) In bad health, or has exceedingly unhealthy habits. This includes smoking (even weed), obesity (morbid or otherwise), being an alcoholic, or refusing to exercise.
3) Ascribes to gender stereotypes. I'm not talking about fashion, I'm talking about personality. If she thinks all men want to be ape-grunting sex-machines that require a "Man Cave" and would rather chew off an arm than feel emotions, then she'll find herself out of my company faster than the smokers. Likewise, if she believes women need to be subservient and docile, or that women should be seen as queens and treated as princesses for the good fortune of carrying around boobs and a vagina, then it's out the door (the same goes for men are 'simple' and women are 'complex' - which is really just a bullshit excuse to do something selfish). I don't put up with that shit, and it's annoying as fuck when it's brought up anywhere. It's just a giant "I DON'T WANT TO THINK ABOUT HARD TOPICS" sign, and then it goes back to #1.
4) Mannish face and blonde hair. The latter just isn't my cup of tea (I much prefer brunettes and redheads), but the former should be obvious as a personal bias. I don't like cleft chins, square jaws, long/tall chins, or similar features on women. In the same vein I don't like the ultra-innocent or childlike faces. But smoldering or oval features kill me every single time.
1) Average intelligence or below. I prefer my women very intelligent, preferably college educated. I'm very intelligent myself, and need someone to converse with and chew through all the experiences life has to offer at a pace we can agree on. If she's smarter than me, that might even be a bonus.
2) In bad health, or has exceedingly unhealthy habits. This includes smoking (even weed), obesity (morbid or otherwise), being an alcoholic, or refusing to exercise.
3) Ascribes to gender stereotypes. I'm not talking about fashion, I'm talking about personality. If she thinks all men want to be ape-grunting sex-machines that require a "Man Cave" and would rather chew off an arm than feel emotions, then she'll find herself out of my company faster than the smokers. Likewise, if she believes women need to be subservient and docile, or that women should be seen as queens and treated as princesses for the good fortune of carrying around boobs and a vagina, then it's out the door (the same goes for men are 'simple' and women are 'complex' - which is really just a bullshit excuse to do something selfish). I don't put up with that shit, and it's annoying as fuck when it's brought up anywhere. It's just a giant "I DON'T WANT TO THINK ABOUT HARD TOPICS" sign, and then it goes back to #1.
4) Mannish face and blonde hair. The latter just isn't my cup of tea (I much prefer brunettes and redheads), but the former should be obvious as a personal bias. I don't like cleft chins, square jaws, long/tall chins, or similar features on women. In the same vein I don't like the ultra-innocent or childlike faces. But smoldering or oval features kill me every single time.
Deal Breakers for me would be:
Self-destructive behavior/livelihood
Bigotry
Controlling/Restrictive
Clingy/Needy
Distrusting/Needlessly Jealous
Hypocritical (Really ties with being distrusting)
"Loose"/Promiscuous
Believe those are instant drops for me. Got other stuff that is distasteful but it really depends on the degrees of it for it to weigh negatively for me.
Self-destructive behavior/livelihood
Bigotry
Controlling/Restrictive
Clingy/Needy
Distrusting/Needlessly Jealous
Hypocritical (Really ties with being distrusting)
"Loose"/Promiscuous
Believe those are instant drops for me. Got other stuff that is distasteful but it really depends on the degrees of it for it to weigh negatively for me.
You know this was the first thing that came to mind surprisingly and I didn't see it anywhere else. I actually have to say at least 6" shorter than me, but then again I'm 6' 4" so it isn't super common to find girls within 6" of me anyways.Cyfu said:
No Smoker, abusive, unwilling to compromise.
Prefer that they keep themselves in shape though I don't need a body builder or a super model.
Beliefs similar to mine though not exactly the same.
Most other stuff I think I could accept to certain degrees.
Drinking, smoking, or drugs. I think that would end it pretty quickly for me.
Being too religious would probably annoy me as well, I don't like people with weird sexual anxieties or being woken up to go to church.
Getting fat. I know I'm probably going to get flamed with a torrent of "BYOOTIFUL ON THE INSIDE U JURK IF ALL U CARE ABOUT IS APPEARANCE U DON'T DESERVE HER U SELFISH BASTARD!!1!one" but if you honestly think that I doubt you have ever been in a real relationship. Putting me in a position where I have to force myself to stay with someone who I am no longer physically attracted to because she couldn't be bothered to take care of her own body is fantastically disrespectful, in my opinion.
Clinginess. Being with the person you love is great, but I need my personal space too. I can't stand those couples that are with each other 24/7. I would find a girl/woman who forced herself into every aspect of my life incredibly unappealing.
Being too religious would probably annoy me as well, I don't like people with weird sexual anxieties or being woken up to go to church.
Getting fat. I know I'm probably going to get flamed with a torrent of "BYOOTIFUL ON THE INSIDE U JURK IF ALL U CARE ABOUT IS APPEARANCE U DON'T DESERVE HER U SELFISH BASTARD!!1!one" but if you honestly think that I doubt you have ever been in a real relationship. Putting me in a position where I have to force myself to stay with someone who I am no longer physically attracted to because she couldn't be bothered to take care of her own body is fantastically disrespectful, in my opinion.
Clinginess. Being with the person you love is great, but I need my personal space too. I can't stand those couples that are with each other 24/7. I would find a girl/woman who forced herself into every aspect of my life incredibly unappealing.
Deal breakers... uhh
1. Not tolerant of my smoking. I'll smoke outside if you don't want me smoking inside but don't try to force me to quit.
2. Bad Hygiene
3. Bigoted in any sort of way towards gays, other races etc. I just don't want to deal with closed minded people on that sort of level.
4. Too eccentric. I'm a laid back person and I don't like being rushed or ALWAYS having to do something.
5. Oh and no hard drug or alcoholism. I smoke marijuana occasionally so I don't mind but no hard stuff or excessive marijuana smoking.
6. And if you cheat on me I will not forgive you.
1. Not tolerant of my smoking. I'll smoke outside if you don't want me smoking inside but don't try to force me to quit.
2. Bad Hygiene
3. Bigoted in any sort of way towards gays, other races etc. I just don't want to deal with closed minded people on that sort of level.
4. Too eccentric. I'm a laid back person and I don't like being rushed or ALWAYS having to do something.
5. Oh and no hard drug or alcoholism. I smoke marijuana occasionally so I don't mind but no hard stuff or excessive marijuana smoking.
6. And if you cheat on me I will not forgive you.
1)Needs to be interested in cultural/academic type activities. Museums and festivals are a love of mine
2) Needs to love my curves and booty
3) Needs to not be disgusted by my skin condition
4) Needs to be a kind hearted person
5)Must love comics and geeky things
6) Limited sexual inhibitions and a predisposition to certain kinks of mine
7) Must be polite and have some general understanding of how to interact with other human beings
this is no particular order
2) Needs to love my curves and booty
3) Needs to not be disgusted by my skin condition
4) Needs to be a kind hearted person
5)Must love comics and geeky things
6) Limited sexual inhibitions and a predisposition to certain kinks of mine
7) Must be polite and have some general understanding of how to interact with other human beings
this is no particular order
Well now this is an... Interesting thread. Why not, here's my list:
(1): Cheating on me is clearly the biggest offender. I'm generally a pretty forgiving guy to those I love, but if you decide to sleep with someone else, you're out on your ass. I'm sorry, but in an intimate relationship, romantically and sexually speaking, I had damn well better be your one-and-only for the duration of the relationship itself. Because trust me, I'd hold myself to the same standards.
(2): Being racist, sexist, or generally discriminating is another sore issue with me. I can tolerate making fun of my religion to a pretty large extent, since hell, even though I happen to be religious, I'll go that route sometimes, so if I feel its fair game for me to go that way, you can too. But when it comes to stuff like racism? Fuck no.
(3): Weak and overly-timid personalities are not only a turn-off, but also hard for me to mesh well with, in any kind of relationship. Give me a girl that's loud, proud, and headstrong. Of course, being physically strong would be nice too, but by no means required. But, a girl with a strong personality is not only nice, but pretty sexy.
(4): They need to communicate with me. This is not only due to the fact that, hell, sometimes I just want to talk to someone, but a relationship cannot work without communication. Did I do something wrong? Tell me, and tell me why. If I don't know, I can't prevent myself from doing it again, or defend myself if I feel justified in doing what I did. If they like something? Tell me! I want to know these things, so that way a relationship runs more smoothly. It wont be sunshine and rainbows all the time, god no, but it can be that way most of the time if we communicate and things work out.
(5): They need to be fair to themselves. I've met people that have been too harsh on themselves in general, as well as those that think they do no wrong. I can't really stand both, so I'd like someone who is fair on themselves when they make a mistake, or if they're an artist of any kind, when they judge their work or skills.
Now, ideally, they'd be a gamer too, and hold at least somewhat-similar interests. And other than what I've listed, I can't think of anything else just offhand.
(1): Cheating on me is clearly the biggest offender. I'm generally a pretty forgiving guy to those I love, but if you decide to sleep with someone else, you're out on your ass. I'm sorry, but in an intimate relationship, romantically and sexually speaking, I had damn well better be your one-and-only for the duration of the relationship itself. Because trust me, I'd hold myself to the same standards.
(2): Being racist, sexist, or generally discriminating is another sore issue with me. I can tolerate making fun of my religion to a pretty large extent, since hell, even though I happen to be religious, I'll go that route sometimes, so if I feel its fair game for me to go that way, you can too. But when it comes to stuff like racism? Fuck no.
(3): Weak and overly-timid personalities are not only a turn-off, but also hard for me to mesh well with, in any kind of relationship. Give me a girl that's loud, proud, and headstrong. Of course, being physically strong would be nice too, but by no means required. But, a girl with a strong personality is not only nice, but pretty sexy.
(4): They need to communicate with me. This is not only due to the fact that, hell, sometimes I just want to talk to someone, but a relationship cannot work without communication. Did I do something wrong? Tell me, and tell me why. If I don't know, I can't prevent myself from doing it again, or defend myself if I feel justified in doing what I did. If they like something? Tell me! I want to know these things, so that way a relationship runs more smoothly. It wont be sunshine and rainbows all the time, god no, but it can be that way most of the time if we communicate and things work out.
(5): They need to be fair to themselves. I've met people that have been too harsh on themselves in general, as well as those that think they do no wrong. I can't really stand both, so I'd like someone who is fair on themselves when they make a mistake, or if they're an artist of any kind, when they judge their work or skills.
Now, ideally, they'd be a gamer too, and hold at least somewhat-similar interests. And other than what I've listed, I can't think of anything else just offhand.
Let's see. Deal breakers for me:
1) Cheating. If we're dating exclusively, I'm not going to be macking on someone else, and I expect the same in return.
2) Extremism in any form. Extremely religious, extremely right-wing/left-wing, sexism, extreme anything if it's to the point of "I must endlessly proselytize about how this view I hold is superior to all others." Similarly, close-mindedness is a deal-breaker.
3) Smoking is a major deal breaker. I'm asthmatic and allergic to cigarette smoke. I start having coughing fits whenever I walk by someone who is smoking. Dating a smoker wouldn't work out.
4) Commonly/habitually drinking to excess. I'm not a fan of idiocy, and copious amounts of alcohol induce this quite often.
5) Violence. I'm not going to let my guy hit me. Just... no.
6) Not having things in common. Call me crazy, but I'd like to be able to hold a conversation with my significant other.
7) Being "controlling" or trying to change me. I don't try to change the people I date, and I'd like them to return the courtesy.
8) Last but not least: clinginess/neediness/whatever you want to call it. The sort where I feel like I've been put on this bizarre sort of pedestal, where the guy feels like he needs to spend every moment possible beside me because he's got this mental image of me as something I'm not. I mean, I love having a boyfriend. It's wonderful. ...But I don't need to spend every moment with him, either. I've got other friends, and hell, I'm only human.
1) Cheating. If we're dating exclusively, I'm not going to be macking on someone else, and I expect the same in return.
2) Extremism in any form. Extremely religious, extremely right-wing/left-wing, sexism, extreme anything if it's to the point of "I must endlessly proselytize about how this view I hold is superior to all others." Similarly, close-mindedness is a deal-breaker.
3) Smoking is a major deal breaker. I'm asthmatic and allergic to cigarette smoke. I start having coughing fits whenever I walk by someone who is smoking. Dating a smoker wouldn't work out.
4) Commonly/habitually drinking to excess. I'm not a fan of idiocy, and copious amounts of alcohol induce this quite often.
5) Violence. I'm not going to let my guy hit me. Just... no.
6) Not having things in common. Call me crazy, but I'd like to be able to hold a conversation with my significant other.
7) Being "controlling" or trying to change me. I don't try to change the people I date, and I'd like them to return the courtesy.
8) Last but not least: clinginess/neediness/whatever you want to call it. The sort where I feel like I've been put on this bizarre sort of pedestal, where the guy feels like he needs to spend every moment possible beside me because he's got this mental image of me as something I'm not. I mean, I love having a boyfriend. It's wonderful. ...But I don't need to spend every moment with him, either. I've got other friends, and hell, I'm only human.