So there is this girl I know, aged 16, who I've recently learned has a crush on me (it must be snowing in hell). Now, since I'm 22 (turning 23 in just a couple of weeks), there is a good 7 year age gap. I'm flattered but not sure if I'm interested - largely because of the age gap. Please note that if something did happen, then nothing physical would. We're both Christians so waiting until marriage for that (in general)!
My initial reaction was "likely not interested", but since then 2 big realizations have come into play.
1) My parents and her parents (who happen to be friends) are very gung-ho about it - they just think it'd be the best thing ever if we dated, which certainly shocked me at first. Reflecting on it, it's likely because of the 6 year gap between my parents and the 8 year gap between hers.
2) I'm in teacher training at the moment, very soon to be on my first placement. If all goes well, I will be a fully qualified high-school maths teacher this time next year. Meanwhile, she will have 2 years left of school... I seem to be the only one who finds that really off. For example, in 2 years time she'll be going to her high-school formal (prom). If I'm dating her, I guess I'll be going with her. Usually teachers are invited to go to those as well... as teachers - not the students dates!
I know the age gap will be more trivial when she's like 19-20, but until she at least leaves school I find it hella strange. It may not just be the age gap so much as the fact that she IS 16. Granted she does seem very mature for her age - I was too for a 16 year old. But I've still done a lot of maturing and had a lot of experiences since then so it seems we're at very different stages of life.
She herself seems lovely - I know very little about her since we haven't talked much. My parents seem intent on playing matchmaker and if I decide that I'm not interested then I need a way of convincing them to lay off.
What do you guys think? Should I try to get to know her first, or just say no now?
UPDATE: After a very heated discussion, in which my own mental maturity was called into question, my parents finally decided (in desperation) to call a few friends of ours who are teachers and ask for their professional opinions. And every one of them agreed that while it was still legal, it would be extremely unprofessional, unethical and possibly career suicide. I'm in the clear.
Thank you all for the support and for confirming that I wasn't the insane one.
My initial reaction was "likely not interested", but since then 2 big realizations have come into play.
1) My parents and her parents (who happen to be friends) are very gung-ho about it - they just think it'd be the best thing ever if we dated, which certainly shocked me at first. Reflecting on it, it's likely because of the 6 year gap between my parents and the 8 year gap between hers.
2) I'm in teacher training at the moment, very soon to be on my first placement. If all goes well, I will be a fully qualified high-school maths teacher this time next year. Meanwhile, she will have 2 years left of school... I seem to be the only one who finds that really off. For example, in 2 years time she'll be going to her high-school formal (prom). If I'm dating her, I guess I'll be going with her. Usually teachers are invited to go to those as well... as teachers - not the students dates!
I know the age gap will be more trivial when she's like 19-20, but until she at least leaves school I find it hella strange. It may not just be the age gap so much as the fact that she IS 16. Granted she does seem very mature for her age - I was too for a 16 year old. But I've still done a lot of maturing and had a lot of experiences since then so it seems we're at very different stages of life.
She herself seems lovely - I know very little about her since we haven't talked much. My parents seem intent on playing matchmaker and if I decide that I'm not interested then I need a way of convincing them to lay off.
What do you guys think? Should I try to get to know her first, or just say no now?
UPDATE: After a very heated discussion, in which my own mental maturity was called into question, my parents finally decided (in desperation) to call a few friends of ours who are teachers and ask for their professional opinions. And every one of them agreed that while it was still legal, it would be extremely unprofessional, unethical and possibly career suicide. I'm in the clear.
Thank you all for the support and for confirming that I wasn't the insane one.