And not a single fuck was given that day. I forgot how toxic it was to say anything on The Escapist.Father Time said:
Seriously, why do some guys pull this shit?
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If it's a bit much, why are you the first person to mention it?McMullen said:
And this is the point where I "upgrade" you to delusional because you're trying to reading things I never actually said and using that to make assumptions as to what I could be thinking.
If any story involving being lead on involves an about of time spanning twelve months during which she's had multiple relationships and sexual partners... I hate to say this...Doc Theta Sigma said:
She wasn't leading you on. You were leading you on. This is ENTIRELY on yourself.
The rest of your post is just more of this self-pitying nonsense, so I'm going to ask you straight out.
Did she, at any time during that year, state that she wanted you as a boyfriend, ask you out, touch your dick, lick your ear, or do anything sexual or romantic as an indication of her desires? No.
Cause [n]THAT IS LEADING SOMEONE ON.[/b]
Fact is, yeah, she might not be brave enough to say 'Look, you're being a bit creepy' or 'Hey, no, nothing is ever going to happen' because maybe she doesn't want to hurt you, especially if you're emotionally vulnerable.
But let's be absolutely clear... unless she is propositioning you then turning you away, she is not actually leading you on. You're just being clingy. There's a huge difference.
I'm just being honest, which might not be a wise choice on a forum like this... but you are the one calling me out, you are referring to 'people like me', as if somehow my opinion is void because I'm not a typical escapist Aesexual. You have me pegged as some sex pest because of stuff I remotely mentioned I did as a teenager. I'm guessing your teen years have been pretty uneventful so far.Fagotto said:
Really though, I am careful about the term 'friend' - see a friend should be someone you are really close to, not just a list on facebook. Have you actually read the OP?, it tends to end badly in every situation I know of, it ends badly in the OP situation, it ended badly for every creep and stalker out there seething at the world. Chemistry always gets in the way, it becomes awkward, are you saying you don't know anyone who has experienced this?
This might be my opinion, but it's just as valid as your trollish garbage you like to post, your opinion that my opinion is worthless, is somehow more valid - just how arrogant are you!.
I had something similar last year at uni. There was a guy who kept following me, he stared at me in class, he barely knew me but apparently was ?madly in love with me? tho I know he'd done this to other girls previoulsy. He whined about everything, kept going on about how his parents don?t hug him, spouted out lovely statements like ?do you ever think about just killing everyone?? and kept pulling the suicide card probably hoping for a pity date. I kept telling him I wasn?t interested but he wouldn?t stop. I supose my mistake was not being a complete dick to him at the start. It got to the point where I was skipping classes just to avoid him and I had to be rude to him and tell to fuck off (which is major to me, I?m only rude to people I know lol) but even that didn?t work and then at the end of the year got he accused of ?leading him on? despite the fact that he kept coming up to me not the other way around, I told him no right of the bat and was as clear as possible that I wasn?t interested and after the first few weeks didn?t even want to talk to him.
Several of my friends have encountered the same sort of thing more than once. Especially ?you lead me on?, apparently in order to not lead a guy on you need to punch him in the face as soon as he opens his mouth or then are you just ?playing hard to get??
BUT guys I know and some of my friends who are bi have also had the same thing from girls. It seems to happen allot. I hope this is only a teenager thing.
Several of my friends have encountered the same sort of thing more than once. Especially ?you lead me on?, apparently in order to not lead a guy on you need to punch him in the face as soon as he opens his mouth or then are you just ?playing hard to get??
BUT guys I know and some of my friends who are bi have also had the same thing from girls. It seems to happen allot. I hope this is only a teenager thing.
Being nice to someone isn't leading them on. It's being nice to someone.CODE-D said:
Leading someone on requires actual flirtation and intention. This bullshit 'leading someone on' crap is self-delusional misogyny that's literally the same logical format as 'she showed her belly so she must want to be raped.'
It's the guy leading himself on with delusions of mediocrity. Nothing more. Stop blaming women for boys' self-inflicted miseries.
Grow. The. Fuck. Up.
In a thread where people are seriously suggesting that, it's really hard to find the sarcasm.CODE-D said:
Hm.. Thought my sarcasm was heavy enough.. Guess not.. Gotta work on that huh? Anyway yes you are right, but at the same time this guy is exhibiting a lot of personality traits that aren't good for ANY kind of relationship. He is super clingy, he has shown that he is unwilling to really accept things for as they are, and right now while he is in the stage of denial he could very well pose some sort of harm to the OP. Maybe not physical harm, but some mental and social issues may very well crop up because of his inability to process a harsh reality.McMullen said:
Hehe, poor guy...Fagotto said:
I think that my point is his situation is what often happens when you try to be friends with someone you want more from, and they aren't prepared to give it. Women should be careful about who they let onto their facebook page, I mean there's nothing mentioned about this guy that explains why she's friends with him in the first place.
I know a girl who's 'best friend' for 12 years pulled this sort of stunt, got drunk one night and told her that if they didn't hook up, he was done with her as a friend... that got pretty damn creepy. It's creepier to think about what was going through his mind for 12 years before his implosion. Anyway, I'm detecting more humour in your posts, thanks for that - maybe we should stop farting in this thread.
Oh Christ, you're that guy I accidentally included in the quote.. Look, I didn't mean to quote you, I don't know how I got your username in the tag, whatever. I never had any dispute with you, but you keep replying and it's hard to keep track of who's who.DracoSuave said:
Please, it'll just be easier if you stop responding, I have no argument with you that I know of. I didn't mean to quote your post, and frankly I still haven't even bothered to read it because I had no interest in it and still don't. The person I did mean to quote was being sarcastic anyway.
Next time someone accidentally quotes you for a post you didn't write, try not to keep replying to them, because it keeps making you look like the person they meant to quote, and they're going to keep arguing with you about posts you didn't make.
Hmm. I thought my sarcasm was thick enough in that post.. Guess not.. Gonna have to work on that huh??McMullen said:
Now while I agree that guys are often given the harsh end of the stick at times from girls. This isn't one of those times, this man is exhibiting a lot of signs that he is bad for ANY kind of relationship, even friendship. He is being super clingy, latching onto someone he hardly knows and professing a love that hasn't had any time to manifest itself. On top of that he is not respecting the fact that she doesn't feel the same way and is pushing the issue. If he keeps going down this path then it could be rather problematic for the both of them.. And potentially dangerous depending just how enamored he is with the fantasy he has cocked up in his head.