I would settle for 3/4. Chirpy just makes it easier to deal with my delightfully chipper attitude. I figure it's all about compromise, a healthy sex life and trust. Anything else you deal with as it comes!TheDooD said:
Seriously, why do some guys pull this shit?
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That's precisely what I said. Not 'I hate most of other guys and here are legitimate reasons why', simply 'Everyone sucks but me'. Great job encapsulating that, but I guess leaving the rest of my post in would have been contradictory to your barely legitimate point.Father Time said:
The guy is probably lonely, depressed, and desperate, as well as socially inept. You don't have to and shouldn't bother "fixing" him. But if you really don't understand WHY he does it, it's because you've never been hopelessly, desperately wanting someone you can't have. I don't think it's a reason to hate on the guy, but you don't have to deal with his issues.Rin Little said:
SO, just forget him and cut off from him completely. It's really not worth dealing with the awkwardness that would result from trying to hang out and betting on him trying to control himself from creeping you out.
He was a lonely guy that got fixated on dating you apparently. Its not that hard to figure out really. Been there once, got over it. Learned my lesson and back to normality.
I know that feel, sis.
Thinking about it, how many movies are there where if a guy likes a girls and she's clearly not interested, if he persists, she'll eventually fall for him? Doesn't work like that in real life.
they're like, "aw come on, dump your good looking, gentlemanly, funny boyfriend for me and we'll paint my Warhammer figures together."
No offence to any warhammer fans of course. Just using this as an example...
I'm gonna guess this guy is one of those "OMG she shuch a *****!1!! friend zoned! *****! Why won't she go out with me, I'm a nice guy!"
If I were in your shoes, I'd give him a bit of advice and tell him to stop being so desperate as it really freaks girls out. Blocking him is a good idea, although that would add to his bad social skills, I reckon...
Thinking about it, how many movies are there where if a guy likes a girls and she's clearly not interested, if he persists, she'll eventually fall for him? Doesn't work like that in real life.
they're like, "aw come on, dump your good looking, gentlemanly, funny boyfriend for me and we'll paint my Warhammer figures together."
No offence to any warhammer fans of course. Just using this as an example...I'm gonna guess this guy is one of those "OMG she shuch a *****!1!! friend zoned! *****! Why won't she go out with me, I'm a nice guy!"
If I were in your shoes, I'd give him a bit of advice and tell him to stop being so desperate as it really freaks girls out. Blocking him is a good idea, although that would add to his bad social skills, I reckon...
Because sympathy is easier to earn than respect, and when you don't even respect yourself, self-deprecation tends to be the closest thing you have to flirting. At least that's all I've ever been able to glean from this kind of behaviour.
Sounds to me that the guy who is giving you a hard time might of thought there was a little something between you. Not strictly speaking romance, but a bond. But if he's acting like that, I'd have a serious think about what to do about him...
Well, the guy sounds like a moron and a bit of a dick.
It seems you're not completely blameless in this either though. You seem to think that he should be able to infer the nature of your relationship from the way you treat him.
For a normal person, that might work fine; but with people like this guy you need to speak in clear. You can't expect him to read even the most obvious subtext. You might even end up unwittingly leading him on.
Chances are he doesn't even realize he's bothering you. He might just think you're a pretty reserved person since you don't really reply to his IMs.
You need to meet him face to face, and explain to him with absolute sincerity and clarity that you aren't attracted to him in the slightest and there will never, ever be anything between the two of you, and then cut off all communication.
At this point, there is no reason to attempt to stay friends.
But know that if he grows up a bit afterwards and approaches you again after some months/years with the intention of friendship, you shouldn't shoot him down right away. Try to see if he really sees the error of his ways and honestly just wants to be friends again.
It seems you're not completely blameless in this either though. You seem to think that he should be able to infer the nature of your relationship from the way you treat him.
For a normal person, that might work fine; but with people like this guy you need to speak in clear. You can't expect him to read even the most obvious subtext. You might even end up unwittingly leading him on.
Chances are he doesn't even realize he's bothering you. He might just think you're a pretty reserved person since you don't really reply to his IMs.
You need to meet him face to face, and explain to him with absolute sincerity and clarity that you aren't attracted to him in the slightest and there will never, ever be anything between the two of you, and then cut off all communication.
At this point, there is no reason to attempt to stay friends.
But know that if he grows up a bit afterwards and approaches you again after some months/years with the intention of friendship, you shouldn't shoot him down right away. Try to see if he really sees the error of his ways and honestly just wants to be friends again.
WHOA WHOA WHOA!!! I did NOT write ANYTHING about serial rapist or anything like that!!!! You have absolutely NO right to change what was written to suit your tastes and then try to pass it off as a quote by that person. Figure out where you went wrong with your 'quote' before things get nasty.McMullen said:
Below is my original reply word for word:
Gothproxy said:
Bobic said:Wait. . . Amy, is that you? I'm sorry! I just really like you! Can't blame a guy for trying right
I like posts like these. They keep threads humorous and nice.majora13 said:I don't know baby, but let me show you how a woman should be treated
jk,jk
I'm sorry, but I just don't take to discussions about dating on the internet all that well. I dunno, I just don't take to them too well when they happen with strangers on the internet. And prefer a good nice joke like this.
I'm sorry, but topics like dating and relationships are probably one of the worst and most annoying things to discuss online. Some people say it's religion, but that's poppycock. It's the dating type stuff that gets really annoying online. And I would never seek advice for something like that online.
I'd say you're completely wrong.zama174 said:
Assumptions like that are part of why some socially awkward teenage males are so afraid of interaction with the opposite sex; they're afraid that simply looking at a woman, let alone talking to them, will result in them being accused of being a stalker or some such. For that reason I used to have such trouble making eye contact with women that, ironically, they thought I was creepier for it.
If you're a woman, you should know that your assumption really doesn't help the situation. Try not assuming that men are all creeps. Most just don't know how to talk to you. Partly because they're afraid you think they're creeps.
I knew a chick EXACTLY like this so it's definitely not a man problem, also I attribute this more with women because any man who does this shit loses man status in my eyes.Rin Little said:
I call it a people problem. It's just people who are too sensitive and force it on other people, it's like that guy who always shows he is insulted if he does not get a hello from somebody and worse he goes up to that person and goes "derp i was really insulted you did not say hi when we passed in the corridor."
I assume this guy is an overweight/unattractive nerd type. I'm in the same boat, by my life is great, and I don't have the same problems that this guy does. You just have to learn to accept reality and make your life good regardless. A man with no hands will never be a great pianist, a man with no legs will never win an Olympic gold medal, and a dude like this will never have a girlfriend. He just needs to learn to live with it. Let him know that there are actually a lot of happy people who go their entire lives without ever finding anyone. He doesn't need a girl to be happy. In fact, the more time you spend alone, the more you really start to like it.
This is a good post. I'm sure most won't agree with the sentiment...cthulhuspawn82 said:
There is a million great ways to spend your time. So I've never understood why people get whiny and mopy over being single. Take up some sports, play some music, read some books, watch some films...be an interesting person.
Today's been a great day. I got to use the phrase(s) "Good day sir. I SAID GOOD DAY!" and now someone gets a No Scrubs reference? I think today would be a great day to die.Colour-Scientist said:
What's wrong with that? We all say some pretty (weird, interesting, stupid) things from out of nowhere at times. And if we don't we should. I mean, why be all politically "HOLY POOP MY BUTT IS ON FIRE!!! (Should NOT have eaten that chilli for lunch.)" correct at all times. Boring if you ask me.idodo35 said: