Sex.

[OldKingClancy]

Her: ?Yeah but sometimes I think about that choice. These are modern times and the frigid ***** comments at school get to me at times. I don?t want to fuck the next guy I see but I wouldn?t mind if it was with someone I loved.?

I think my cousin's view on sex is the one I follow.

Having sex because you are afraid of being called a "frigid *****" is really no better of a reason than not having sex because someone told you it was immoral. It should be no one else's business. Slut, prude, 40-year old virgin, gay, straight, lesbian, bi, polyamorous, swinger, fetishist, boring old missionary... no one has any right to say that these things are wrong. The only time anyone can be doing it wrong is if they and their partner(s) aren't happy with the way they are doing it.

I understand what you're saying but that's not what I was getting at, my cousin was making the point that sometimes you don't have to wait until you're married - like she was - and just being with someone you love and care for would be enough not to regret anything. The 'frigid *****' comments weren't making her want to go out and fuck someone they were just highlighting her doubt about waiting that long.

 

[djs.specs]

Sex with someone you just met is fun enough I suppose. But its even better with someone that you know and care about.

 

[Vault101]

That's the topic. But what do you think about sex? Like, do you think it's sacred, do you think it's just an activity, do you think it's something that you should wait to do, or dive right in on the first date? Would you do it with a stranger, or only with someone you truely know? Just your thoughts on sex. And why?

I think that sex is something that should be saved til the wedding bed, personally. I think that it is the ultimate act of love and it bonds you with the person you share it with. It's like you take the core of yourself and place it in the other person's possesion and if you do it with lots of people regularly, you split that core and violate yourself. But thats just my opinion

EDIT: When I say sex, I mean making love as well, not defining between sex and love making.

I dont think theres anything wrong with belive sex is...well what you described it as

HOWEVER limiting yourself to "no sex before marrage" I think just doesnt work in todays society...and is really uneccisary, SURE it made sense back when everyone was getting married really young and marrage was "the thing you did"

BUT thease days....I mean marrage is a huge commitment, I dont WANT to get married anytime soon and I dont think people should get married too soon (or get preasued into marrying)

I mean if somone doesnt want to get married then why should they sexually repress themselves? its not right and its not healthy

that said people CAN have deep and intimate relationships without a ring, a ceremony and a peice of paper....fuck that! I say its unessicary if you really love each other those things dont make a difference

oh sure theres religious reasons but thats somthing different entirely

anyway persoanally "no sex before marrage" I think is a relic from a bygone time

 

[DanielDeFig]

Love, Sex, Marriage.

I do it in that order. I wouldn't have sex with someone I didn't love, and I wouldn't marry someone I hadn't had sex with.(For me, marriage is more about being at a stage where you are comfortable with spending the rest of your life with another person, and create a family with them. You need to have lived, slept, quarrelled, laughed, and cried with that person enough times before you could possibly be ready to make such a decision.)

I can look at sex very simply, and sometimes I can't fathom how people think there is some HUGE difference between masturbation and sex, especially when we live in an age where sex between same-sex couples is still considered sex (If what two lesbian women to with each other is still sex, how can you define it as simply as we used to?). But I also realize that sex is an emotional experience, and that's one of the main differences (on a more technical basis, I define sex as two people causing each other to orgasm. How they choose to do that is up to them. This way masturbation is not sex, as it only involves one person).

Sex is not as big a thing as pple make it out to be, nor is it so simple as others would like to dismiss it to be. In my opinion, anyway.

 

[Mariena]

Best thing in existence, followed by strawberry sundaes.

Should be done daily. Sundaes not too often.

 

[GigaHz]

That's the topic. But what do you think about sex? Like, do you think it's sacred, do you think it's just an activity, do you think it's something that you should wait to do, or dive right in on the first date? Would you do it with a stranger, or only with someone you truely know? Just your thoughts on sex. And why?

I think that sex is something that should be saved til the wedding bed, personally. I think that it is the ultimate act of love and it bonds you with the person you share it with. It's like you take the core of yourself and place it in the other person's possesion and if you do it with lots of people regularly, you split that core and violate yourself. But thats just my opinion

EDIT: When I say sex, I mean making love as well, not defining between sex and love making.

Sex is really not the be all and end all of life.

The problem with saving sex for marriage is that you commit yourself to one partner, assuming the marriage doesn't end in divorce. Like it or not, you learn many things about the act of sex from different partners. And while it is certainly possible to get creative on your own, there is a possibility that you might miss something that you may have learned through a new partner. Plus I think it also does a world of good for you psychologically but that's an entirely different discussion.

As for your first paragraph, What do I think about sex? Great tool for expressing love but devastating if you have it with someone you're not so fond of. At least if they were satisfied, girls seem to develop a deeper emotional attachment to you after the act. This is also why it is bad to have sex with friends as it can ruin the friendship if things don't work out.

Do I think it's sacred? Mostly, no. I think it's just a natural urge that we as mammals need to have every so often.

Should you wait to do it or have it on the first date? Usually the faster you have it, the more interested you are in the sex and less in the person. If both parties are aware of that fact, it can lead to a decent one night stand. But obviously if you like the person you'd want to take things slower. It's just more respectful that way.

Stranger or someone I know? I have done it with strangers just because I am an opportunist, but every single time it felt cheap. In my experience, the sex is always better with someone you know. Emotions contribute to the overall pleasure of sex for both parties, whether or not men want to admit it.

 

[gamerguyal]

It's like you take the core of yourself and place it in the other person's possesion and if you do it with lots of people regularly, you split that core and violate yourself.

So basically it's like making a horcrux?

 

[Jake the Snake]

There is no "right way" sex should be viewed; it's different for every person. My opinion on it...um, well, it's kind of in the middle? I don't see casual sex, ie, just fucking the first person you see without any thought at all, is a good idea. I don't think you should associate THAT kind of detachment with something that is, after all, inherently intimate. But it isn't sacred. Sorry. You're needlessly glorifying it and are setting yourself up for a lot of frustration and heartbreak if you think sex is something reserved for marriage. (An institution that was once important, but has since become watered down into the realm of "Casual" thanks to high divorce rates. I don't like it. I still take it very seriously, but this is how the world is now.)

I'm going to be frank here. Men and Women are both programmed to enjoy and seek out having sex. Sure maybe for guys it's more direct, and for girls it's more emotional, but it ultimately leads to the same place. If you're in a relationship, sex is an important part of connecting and solidifying that relationship. People change after they have sex. The relationship changes. And sometimes, not for the better. If you wait until you're married, you're putting yourself at risk of causing the dynamic of your entire relationship change with no easy way out. Does that sound selfish? Maybe. But how bad would it be to discover you can't love a person fully because you're incompatible sexually after you're married? Sex is an important part of any relationship. And if it isn't working, it can only breed disappointment, anger, resent and eventually hate.

TL;DR: Sex is not sacred nor should it be abused/tossed away. If you like someone, do it. Literally. You will be happy you did, one way or the other.

 

[funguy2121]

That's the topic. But what do you think about sex? Like, do you think it's sacred, do you think it's just an activity, do you think it's something that you should wait to do, or dive right in on the first date? Would you do it with a stranger, or only with someone you truely know? Just your thoughts on sex. And why?

I think that sex is something that should be saved til the wedding bed, personally. I think that it is the ultimate act of love and it bonds you with the person you share it with. It's like you take the core of yourself and place it in the other person's possesion and if you do it with lots of people regularly, you split that core and violate yourself. But thats just my opinion

EDIT: When I say sex, I mean making love as well, not defining between sex and love making.

I think the people whom you've given control of your mind have romanticized love-making to make accepting their way of life easier.

This only makes sense if you don't think about it and if you've never experienced sex.

The truth is, sex is such an important part of a relationship that you owe to to both yourself and your (future/potential) lover(s) to ensure that it is good sex. Which, if it is your first time, it very definitely will not. A woman will not have an orgasm the first time she has sex. In fact, in all likelihood, it will hurt a lot and be monumentally uncomfortable for her, regardless of whether she likes or loves the guy. Most guys don't exactly last more than a few minutes on their first go-round, and if you think quality sex can be had in less than eight minutes, or that your first time should be a quickie, then you don't know how to have good sex. So, if your wedding night is truly sacred, and you're both virgins until that night, you'll be setting yourselves up to share a lie for the rest of your relationship, the lie of how great this is gonna be that becomes the lie of how akward this totally wasn't.

It sounds like you don't want to spread your seed around in some nasty hos, and I certainly can't fault you for that. But believe me, you're gonna have a hard time keeping your hands off of your woman, especially if she's beautiful, especially if she's amazing. There's nothing wrong with consummating your relationship with her before you've given yourselves to each other legally, which is antiquated, obsolete bullshit none too far removed from eye-for-an-eye anyway. In other words: it's barbaric. Your above statement, that I bolded, is not based on pragmatism. Reality is rarely so perfect and neat as what you've described. You can have failed relationships or ones that end, or you can have failed marriages or ones that end. Which would you prefer?

 

[similar.squirrel]

Again, the distinction between having sex and making love should not be overlooked. There's a time for both, and there's nothing wrong with either. As long as you're both consenting and of the legal age, there's no problem. It's just a basic human function.