Sex

[TheRightToArmBears]

Sex.

It's fun.

So long as both people involved are consentual and know what's what (generally that one rules out most people under the age of about 200. But the law says 16, so what the hey!), then I don't care what you get up to. If you know what you're doing you'll only get what you're after (unless they lied about something), and I think it would be presumptuous of me, and of most people, to tell others what is right and wrong when it comes to sex.

And I can't fathom the 'save it until marriage' mindset. Sex won't kill anyone, why would you force yourself to miss out on one of the joys in life for no apparent reason?

 

[Rofl-Mayo]

The internet teaches everything! Some of the stuff you see on the internet is best avoided though! For the record I am a nerd stuck with my virginity.

 

[Something Amyss]

So I have to have a conversation about sex for my general studies class. Sadly, I'm with my family for the holiday, so rather than have an extremely awkward talk with people I have to see I decided to talk with the anonymous internet community.

So what are you beliefs on sex and where did you learn them from? I have to write a full page on this so the longer your answer the better.

Could you be more specific on what "beliefs" entail?

 

[warprincenataku]

My parents were always open about sex. Basically I view sex and something to be shared between two consenting partners who care about each other. I was never that big into sex for pleasure only with someone I didn't care about.

Regardless, what sex means to you may be totally different to someone else.

 

[Asuka Soryu]

Sex is like playing a card game. "You do it on a table, and you always feel deep shame when it's finished. Also, the older you get the less fun it is. So, remember. Always wear a condom when playing card games."

 

[brunothepig]

Sex is fun. It's perfectly natural (I hate that phrase, don't know why) and I don't know why some think it should be so embarrassing. Me, I'd probably only have sex with someone I love. But I don't care if you want to go out and pick up random strangers. Have fun. Although, I'd suggest periodical checkups lol.

 

[manic_depressive13]

When my mum gave me the sex speech, she said "Sex is just like taking a shit. It's a natural bodily function and it's not really a big deal, but you feel better when it's done." This leads me to suspect that my mum either enjoys shitting THAT much, or she is extremely jaded. I've never done it, so um... I guess I'll take her word for it.

My dad, on the other hand, gave me the "a woman loses her appeal after she loses her virginity" speech. Yeah...fuck you too dad. When I looked upset at his sexism, he shook his head and said "You've already lost it, haven't you?" I was fourteen! /horrible parenting

My point is, my mum was always open about sex and I don't think it's a big deal if it's between two consenting adults- but I do think it's kind of icky.

 

[Redlin5_v1legacy]

Its something I haven't had yet. I'm personally waiting until I find the woman I love enough to have children with. I'm also kind of waiting until I have the resources to be a father.

My knowledge stems from classes in Highschool and from what I've seen on TV/movies. I feel the urges but I'm not going to risk my entire life because of them. The time will come and when it does...

 

[JochemDude]

O.T. well sex to me is something that should be between 2 people that love each other but hey everybody has their beliefs right now it's not so important but then again people keep saying that sex is like oxygen you aren't complaining unless you ain't getting any

What about between two people that love each other and one open minded roomate? Does that count?

Sex is like baking a cake. It's messy, hot, and delicious, but a pain to clean up afterwards.

I could make a remark about "Licking the Bowl", but I'm above that.

I probably should have mentioned that I'm open-minded about sex you wanna go have a threesome go for it

My beliefs regarding sex are that it is a sacred thing that was designed by God and is thus a good thing, but like all such things it is easily abused. I believe it is intended for a married, mixed-gender couple. I believe that sexual preference is a far more fluid thing than people talk about it being (at least in terms of labeling people heterosexual, homosexual, and so on). I also believe that sex, when engaged in outside of its intended purposes (not only procreation, but also emotional/psychological bonding and, obviously, pleasure between a husband and wife) can be terribly destructive, ruining relationships, spreading venereal diseases, causing unwanted pregnancies, creating emotional bonds that result in damage when the participants don't give the proper respect and care to those bonds that they've created, and generally degrading what is a beautiful and pleasurable act into something tawdry and selfish. I believe Jesus when he said that when a man looks at a woman [that he's not married to] with lust, he's committing adultery in his heart and sinning against God.

My beliefs regarding sex mostly stem from the Bible, but are corroborated by personal experience, what my parents taught me, reading essays and reports on the subject, and from observing other people's lives and the effects sex has had on them, both positive and negative, both in obedience toward God and in defiance of Him.

My atheist body is emitting high pitched laughter right now.

Religion is the enemy of clear judgement

 

[BoredRolePlayer]

I hate personal touch to be honest. I don't even like hugs for the most part.

 

[BonsaiK]

So what are you beliefs on sex and where did you learn them from? I have to write a full page on this so the longer your answer the better.

What do you mean "beliefs on sex"? That's such a weird and vague question. Sex is just sex. I think you need to be more specific about what it is exactly that you're asking us.

 

[ThrobbingEgo]

Sex is fun. It's perfectly natural (I hate that phrase, don't know why)

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Naturalistic_fallacy
Scratch that. This is the one you want.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Appeal_to_nature

There you go. Now your intuition is accompanied by a name and reason.

 

[Kurokami]

For men, it's a physical thing. For women it's an emotional thing... for the most part.

From the people I know, that's bullshit.

Sex is sex, it's something people can do nowadays for whatever reason they please, but for the most part its for pleasure imo.

Personally, my views on Sex is that there's a huge hypocricy with it, we all tend to consider it somewhat taboo, yet we'll admit its appeal. Shows and advertisements will feature sexually appealing content to better address their audiences, but we're expected to consider sex itself a private thing. Girls dress in sexually provocative clothes yet they wish to not be 'objectified', which is what tends to happen when someone is sexualised.

 

[William Dickbringer]

O.T. well sex to me is something that should be between 2 people that love each other but hey everybody has their beliefs right now it's not so important but then again people keep saying that sex is like oxygen you aren't complaining unless you ain't getting any

What about between two people that love each other and one open minded roomate? Does that count?

Sex is like baking a cake. It's messy, hot, and delicious, but a pain to clean up afterwards.

I could make a remark about "Licking the Bowl", but I'm above that.

I probably should have mentioned that I'm open-minded about sex you wanna go have a threesome go for it

My beliefs regarding sex are that it is a sacred thing that was designed by God and is thus a good thing, but like all such things it is easily abused. I believe it is intended for a married, mixed-gender couple. I believe that sexual preference is a far more fluid thing than people talk about it being (at least in terms of labeling people heterosexual, homosexual, and so on). I also believe that sex, when engaged in outside of its intended purposes (not only procreation, but also emotional/psychological bonding and, obviously, pleasure between a husband and wife) can be terribly destructive, ruining relationships, spreading venereal diseases, causing unwanted pregnancies, creating emotional bonds that result in damage when the participants don't give the proper respect and care to those bonds that they've created, and generally degrading what is a beautiful and pleasurable act into something tawdry and selfish. I believe Jesus when he said that when a man looks at a woman [that he's not married to] with lust, he's committing adultery in his heart and sinning against God.

My beliefs regarding sex mostly stem from the Bible, but are corroborated by personal experience, what my parents taught me, reading essays and reports on the subject, and from observing other people's lives and the effects sex has had on them, both positive and negative, both in obedience toward God and in defiance of Him.

My atheist body is emitting high pitched laughter right now.

Religion is the enemy of clear judgement

Hey, don't compare me to someone using Christianity in this discussion this is just my opinion nothing to chew me out for would it be better if I changed it to cared about

 

[loc978]

Sex is both a science and an art. First study the anatomy involved, next study the psychology involved, and finally study the partner(s) you wind up with. Miss any step along the way, and you're guaranteed to be bad in bed, man or woman.

 

[Gentleman_Reptile]

Sex is alot like air. Its no big deal unless your net getting any.

It's also alot like pizza. When its good, its REALLY good, when its bad, its still pretty good.

 

[BlueGlowstick]

I'm an 18-yr-old virgin. I learned about sex from my family. They taught me that men just want sex from me. I was born in a Christian home & I'm waiting until I meet the right guy to have sex for the first time. That might mean waiting until marriage. I wouldn't mind waiting because that means I'm sticking to my beliefs.

Like I said, I learned about sex from my family. My grandparents are 87 & 90 yrs old & have 7 kids. I actually received a cake in the shape of a penis in March as a belated bday cake. I'm not allowed to speak of anything though.

 

[loc978]

Some people don't believe me when I say sex is like steak to me. When it's good, it's among the best things available to humankind. When it's bad, it's terrible... and I have no qualms about telling her (or the chef) exactly how terrible... and what went wrong.
For instance... never eat beef in Germany. They let 'em rot a little on the hanger over there.

 

[Squilookle]

Considering we're one of the few animals on the planet that indulge in sex purely for pleasure, I'd say sex is a pretty natural urge. People's beliefs about how sex should be handled, I find, reveals more about their social situation than sex itself. For example, there's still a lot of 'no sex before marriage' sentiment, and yet marriage is merely a social institution. Sex was around long before marriage was invented, and the belief the two should be interwoven is a social device to minimise those awkward moments when you find someone you like is banging someone else.

It's one solution for avoiding that, though I prefer the system where you act like an adult and not get hung up on those you have casual sex with. As long as it's plain as day from the get-go that it's casual, there shouldn't be a problem. I've had a few casual relationships before finding someone I considered worth having a long term, loving exclusive relationship with, and you know what? I had sex with them BEFORE falling in love with them. I don't really see anything wrong with this system as we're both very happy and faithful to each other. And we're not even close to marriage.

And for education- I got the usual condom on the cucumber sex ed in school, and built up in my mind the idea that the first time is not special, it is just awkward. The irony being when my first time came around all I wanted to achieve is make it seem like I'd done it before. I wasn't expecting it to be amazing, I wasn't even expecting orgasm. As a result of taking a realistic view going in (as opposed to idealistic), I actually had a great time

Bottom line is sex is what you make of it. If a couple wants to use it to consumate their deep love for each other that's wonderful. But to deny other people from screwing casually is to deny the fact that at a base level, sex feels good. As long as people engage in sex in a mature, laid back -and legal- way, then it doesn't matter how they do it, nor does anyone have the right to dictate how they do it.

No sex before Marriage? I don't think I could ever subscribe to that one though...

 

[Devin Parker]

And I can't fathom the 'save it until marriage' mindset. Sex won't kill anyone, why would you force yourself to miss out on one of the joys in life for no apparent reason?

There are a number of AIDS patients who might differ with you on that.

EDIT: Your argument also assumes that sex is best enjoyed outside of marriage. I'm arguing that it's the opposite: that sex is designed to be at its best and most fulfilling within marriage, so engaging in sex outside of marriage is actually indulging in a lesser version. Also, bear in mind that I'm arguing potentials, here - it's not always going to be fantastic in a marriage, and extramarital sex can be very exciting, but in the long run, you're cheating yourself out of something better.

Religion is the enemy of clear judgement

Nonsense. True religion demands clear judgment.

If you want to argue lust is a sin, you've rigged the game to make nearly everyone a sinner (again save for the asexuals). And just like The Game (tm) thinking about it means you lose.

The Bible says that no one's without sin. So, yeah.