Sex

[A Raging Emo]

Sex is fun, sex is good, not everybody does it, but everybody should!

My name is James, I am a 16 year old white male, and I lost my virginity at 14, to a beautiful young woman, who I am sadly no longer with.

I have had sex with 3 different people, and I only regret sleeping with one person, however, as she and I were not seeing each other, and she is my best friend, and now it's slightly awkward, but we've worked things out. When I did it with all three, however, it was very emotional, because as I said, I was seeing the other two people, and the third is my best friend, and I love her (In a "Best friends" way, but still).

I learned the basics of sex in School, but I was at a public school, so it was basically just "Put it in, take it out, put it in, take it out, put it in, take it out, shake it all about". After that, much fun was had doing the Hokey Cokey. This was all at about age 12.

I got there before most of the people who were my age that I knew, as no one really had the balls to go all the way in our area, as it was the same people who did Sex Education in every school, and they had drilled it into our minds that condoms were evil, we shouldn't have sex, and we should believe in God, and not have sex until we were married.

Then, at about age 15, everyone grew the fuck up, and started doing it.

I was still pretty pleased that I did it before everyone, though.

I have done some pretty strange things with people, as I have read "The Picture of Dorian Gray", and I couldn't resist Lord Henry's charm, and have almost the same outlook on pleasure as Dorian does after meeting Lord Henry. PM me if you'd like to now more about the things I've done, as creepy as that sounds!

Does that answer your question?

 

[TheHecatomb]

Sex is overrated.

Sure, it can be fun. It can also be rubbish. I can enjoy it but I'm perfectly fine without it. Really nothing else I could say about it. /shrug

 

[Naheal]

I learned about both the opposite sex and sexual intercourse from browsing the internet and finding pictures of naked women and free online porn sites...Though later on after that my parents tried to impress upon me the idea that its a very special and intimate act to be shared only between a man and a woman who have married. And they kinda succeded, I like watching porn but I intend to wait and marry before i have sex my self

...Well you learn something new everyday

Don't act surprised.

OT: Um, as far as I'm concerned, if God didn't want us to have sex, he wouldn't have made it enjoyable for most.

That said, why isn't it enjoyable for folks who should be breeding?

 

[370999]

My beliefs about sex: as long as it's consentual you have no right to stop it from happening. Some people would disagree, and those people need to get laid.

So a twelve year old and a twenty five year old are A-okay in your book?

OK, guess I should have phrased that a little better. As long as it's consentual and with someone who's at least in their late teens, it's alright to have sex.

To be honest, I was just trying to be akward.

B) "Your argument also assumes that sex is best enjoyed outside of marriage"- No it doesn't. It implies that you're not letting yourself do something fun for possibly ever for no reason. Sex is neither better or worse inside or outside of marriage (or at least there's minimal difference), it mostly depends on who you're doing it with and how good at it they are

Agree here. Marriage is just an insitituion, some people can get the same feelings of love and devotion other ways.

 

[StarStruckStrumpets]

I grew up on a diet of Japanese games where friendship speeches are prominent and the romance side-plots are all about star-gazing. You can probably already see where this is going.

There's a lot of personal stuff I don't want to go in to that have also helped formulate my beliefs, but I really do think that sex should only be for relationships. Not marriage, but it should be between two people that have strong feelings for each other. Not saying that it should all be about love, by all means, enjoy yourselves, but as it stands, my two cents on this subject are those already mentioned.

I'm 15, British, and yet to have sex. Maybe my attitude will change when I've lost my virginity, but I'm in no hurry whatsoever. I don't think it will though, as I perceive sex solely for pleasure to be a very hollow thing, but hey, whatever floats your boat. I won't preach.

 

[Pholark]

I was told to keep my "special purpose" (yes it was called that, leave me alone) to myself until I found a girl I truly loved. I recently lost a Friend - with - benefits so looks like it's back to that again.

 

[BENZOOKA]

I've learned about from sex by myself, from parents, from porn, from friends, from girlfriends, from one-night stands, from literature, everywhere... Quite seamlessly and without any problems.

 

[AdmiralMemo]

I'm 28 and still a virgin. I believe in waiting for marriage.

(My beliefs are my beliefs, and you can do what you want. In everything that I believe is wrong and you may not, I say this: if you're not hurting anyone, then any problems that may exist are between you and God, and it's not my concern, because there's really no way I could stop you from doing what you want to do.)

Also, I believe sex is highly over-rated. It's all about endorphins in your brain, and you can get those other ways, too.

While I have nothing against you for waiting till you're married, I think you're a fool for saying it's highly over-rated, since you've never had it, you actually have no idea.

I think personally sex is great, and as long as it's consensual between two parties of legal consenting age then I don't think it's that big of a deal to be honest. I lost my virginity at 16 and I think I turned out alright.

OK... Not saying that you aren't alright, but...

How many people in the world think there's something wrong with them? Not too many. How many people in the world is there something wrong with? A whole lot more. That means there's a whole lot of people who have something wrong with them and think they're alright, so thinking you're alright isn't a good test to tell whether you actually are alright.

Again, not saying you've actually got a problem. Just pointing out a logical fallacy.

As for being over-rated, I know the science behind it. Just like never hitting a tree with a car, never skydiving, never being on the moon, I know how it works.
Why is sex enjoyable? Because our brains tell us so. Why do our brains say so? Because having sex releases endorphins into your brain, causing pleasure. Is sex the only way to release those endorphins? No.

I think sex is simply the easiest way to release those endorphins, and that's why there are so many people who do it.
I mean, "Stick pole in hole and rub it around..." There's very few ways to get that wrong.

 

[Geekosaurus]

Probably from films. I never had the awkward 'talk.'

 

[bassdrum]

Sex is something people should be more willing to talk openly about. One of my best friends and confidantes is so because, among many other reasons, she's a lesbian who's not afraid to talk openly about sex and relationships. She's therefore in a position to offer advice about women from both sides of a relationship with women, as well as offer... certain insights.

That's more my view of society, though, so... sex. Well, it's a natural part of being human, so I don't see why there should be any sort of stigma placed on when/if people choose to engage in it. I leave it entirely up to the two (or more) people involved what they do with their own bodies. If they want to save it until marriage, great. If they want sex on the first date, fantastic. Sex isn't something that people should get too worked up about in society.

 

[Neo10101]

Honestly, I think sex should be much more casual than it is today, and that safe sex should be the center of education rather than abstinence. The majority of students will still have sex one way or the other, and if they werent really taught about safe sex then they may end up 16 and pregnant. Also with sex as such a taboo many people look at this great interaction between two people where most of the time both parties end up having a great time, being reserved on for married or people in "love" yet what defines love and whose to say who is and isn't in love. If sex were much less taboo then casual sex would be almost normal and there would prolly be a lot less high strung kids, and a lot more people open with their bodies. Many people may say, "Oh what about STD's?" Well hence why safe sex should be taught. Granted this is just my opinion and I can see why so many people can't look at sex like it should be casual, but in short I say Casual Sex.

 

[AmayaOnnaOtaku]

Well there is different kinds of sex: making love, having sex and fucking. Fucking is the dirty, raw, rough, animalistic with no emotional or romantic connotations. Having Sex is where there is a little bit of emotion or romance, and making love is very passionate romantic and highly emotional intimate connection.

My own history with it was fucked up to say the least. I don't want to get into details but it formed my perverted sense of sex.

 

[ActivatorX]

Many people have different views regarding sex.
Some say, that you shouldn't do it with someone you don't love.
Some say, that you shouldn't do it before marriage.
Some say, that you shouldn't do it with the same gender.
Some say, that you shouldn't do it with protection.
etc.

Sex, in all forms (excluding sick shit like necrophilia, bestiality and paedophilia), shouldn't be frowned upon.

What I believe is right:

- Sex outside of marriage
- Homosexuality
- If someone is single, they should be able to "screw around" all they want, with whomever they want (as long as it's agreed upon by both "parties")
- Prostitution should be legal, as long as the prostitute is doing it as a choice, not by force

I learnt about sex mostly from TV and of course, from experience.
Amongst my friends, I'm regarded as a kinky psycho, because I love

Spoiler

anal sex.

They usually present "theories" to me, that I'm 25% gay because I love

Spoiler

anal sex.

P.S.

Spoiler

I'm not turned on by "receiving". I'm straight, but even though I like anal sex, doesn't mean that I want to "get it".

 

[Nieroshai]

1. Reproduction, obviously
2. Pleasure. Much more obviously.
3. Emotional bonding, apparently not-so-obviously.
Not many people seem to even think about how sex continuously with one partner makes that person THAT MUCH MORE IMPORTANT to your emotional well-being. For good and bad.

EDIT: What I know comes from experience, both personal and witnessing the lives of people I know. It's a sad story, but that's neither here nor there. I don't like how casually sex is portrayed on TV.

 

[Kirch Libre]

I'm gonna be straight with you. There is a chance that you will not find your "soul mate" and you will not live forever and you are not getting any younger. With that said, Sex is fun. Have fun. Repeatedly, in as many places as possible. Just don't forget to bring a raincoat. All of this other crap about morality and whatnot just complicates shit. As long as your out of your mother's house and your smart about it I wouldn't care if you decided to screw a Christmas ham while juggling hamsters. It's your genitals and nobody has the right to tell you where, who, what, or when you should stick your penis in or grind your vagina on.

As to how I have come to this conclusion. Just life experiences.

 

[The Small Cheese]

As much as i hate to say that I'm "old-fashioned" (on a site where liberalism is more prevalent), I believe that sex, due to its ability of continuing our species and its intimate nature, is something that shouldn't be taken lightly. To me, it's the bonding of two people with an intense emotional bond through a manner created by biology, and given meaning by love. I believe that sex should happen between people who intend to stay together to help and protect each other for a long time.
To me, it's being together in mutual vulnerablility and tenderness.

If you disagree, then that's cool; we all have different values and points of view, which I respect and praise.

Have fun and play safe!

 

[ThrobbingEgo]

Sex is fun. It's perfectly natural (I hate that phrase, don't know why)

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Naturalistic_fallacy
Scratch that. This is the one you want.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Appeal_to_nature

There you go. Now your intuition is accompanied by a name and reason.

I think that might be it... Thankyou. Yes, natural fallacy didn't seem to fit. Appeal to nature, that's it. Why is it being natural automatically a free pass? My position on sex is unchanged lol.

You may want to read the article more closely...

It's not a "free pass." It's not a pass at all. Appeal to nature is a fallacy. It means "it's natural" is not a reason backed by sound logic. In this case, it's not sound because whether or not something is natural is not relevant to it being good or even desirable.

 

[vento 231]

For me, it is a very selfish act, If you know what I mean. This describes it better, this was on forever before there was a big fit about it.:

 

[ThrobbingEgo]

My beliefs about sex: as long as it's consentual you have no right to stop it from happening. Some people would disagree, and those people need to get laid.

So a twelve year old and a twenty five year old are A-okay in your book?

OK, guess I should have phrased that a little better. As long as it's consentual and with someone who's at least in their late teens, it's alright to have sex.

Or one could reason that a minor is not capable of giving informed consent. Children are vulnerable, have untested judgement, and still have a ways to go in terms of cognitive development. Law in most western countries recognizes this - that's why a child doesn't retain certain criminal records in adult life.

Children can't legally sign to any contract for these reasons. They can't sign up for grocery store credit cards. (On their own.) A contract is an agreement, and sexual consent is an unspoken agreement of greater importance than a grocery store credit card.

 

[blankedboy]

For men, it's a physical thing. For women it's an emotional thing... for the most part.

Eh, but women seem to be getting sluttier rapidly these days. At least they are in my hometown.

Even the guys are getting slutty now... @_~

For me, it is a very selfish act, If you know what I mean. This describes it better, this was on forever before there was a big fit about it.:

That's brilliant xD
I wish we had more than one decent ad in New Zealand... just that one that's long gone now :/