hyperhammy said:
A little backstory first. My class took a week long trip to Lake Constance. Our beds were barely big enough for 1 person, but a bunch of girls would sleep in our room (No sex) so most of us had to share their bed. No problem.
But one night, after hanging out with some other girls, I went back to my room at around 4 am. I went straight to bed, dressed and everything. I woke up around 2 hours later to get up, and noticed that I had spent the night with another guy sleeping in my bed, since 2 girls were sleeping in his bed. None of us really cared. A week later I told a friend from America the story and all she said was: "That's kind of creepy".
That commment made me think of a bunch of questions I would like to ask the Escapist:
1.1) Would you share your bed with a person of the same sex?
1.2) If no, what bothers you about it?
2) Can you openly talk about sex or sexuality?
3) How do you act aroundd up-tight people?
I blame the media, especially modern comedy for this to be honest.
Let's be honest, as most people here know I'm anti- gay men. Yet I see no paticular reason why two guys who are travelling or whatever can't share a bed, or why two guys can't share a tent.
Truthfully, I think the problem is that since things were not all that uncommon a lot of people decided to make jokes out of it, by subtly arranging the situations to seem really gay, or having some guy who was obviously gay (unknown to the other guy) exploiting it or whatever. The skits vary.
I think stuff like that had the unintentional effect of making people feel that any degree of closeness to attachment with another person must be sexual. If it's with a member of the opposite sex you must be interested in them, if it's with a member of the same sex it must be gay.
It's sort of like how if you pull out something like old Buddy Cop movies, or even things like "The Dukes Of Hazard" occasionally people will raise some eyebrows, because of jokes made that were funny because they were NOT true.
I'm probably not articulating this terribly well, but the point here being that it's part of social paranoia (which you can find a lot of stuff written about if you look, not just this kind of thing, but manifested a ton of other ways as well).
At any rate, while unpopular here, take it from one of the few people who isn't afraid to say that he's anti-gay men, that I'm not going to nessicarly jump to conclusions just because two guys share the same bed for some reason. Other things might lead me in the direction of it being gay, but not simply being in a bed together sleeping.
