Slight personal dilemma....

[Fairee]

So as some people on here may know (that is, my Twitter followers) last night I realised that I am not straight, as I always thought, I am actually bisexual. Now this is something that I am totally comfortable with, I personally have no issues with being bi, and so far I haven't had any insults/derogatory comments from the people I've told (so if you have any problems with me, keep them to yourself).

The dilemma is, whether I tell my parents and what I say. The thing is, they are Christians, pretty old fashioned ones who still believe that gay is wrong (although apparently they would have no problem with me or David being gay, which I cannot understand). Therefore I'm not exacty sure how they would react if I told them I am bi.

So, what would other people do in this situation? Would you tell, or wait and see if you dated somone of the same sex? Or would you always keep it secret? Also, has anyone else had problems telling other people something? Did you tell, and did it go well if you did?

 

[New Troll]

Talk it over with them. Better to have a civil discussion with them now than just showing up with a same sex partner during Christmas.

I'm generally fairly honest and straight to the point. The only dreadful conversation I ever had was telling my ex-wife I wanted a divorce, especialy since I didn't. But luckily she made it very easy for me to say when she brought up seperating for awhile.

 

[SomeLameStuff]

I'd say go ahead and tell them. There's nothing wrong with being bi (Not that I am). If they really do love you, I'm sure they can overlook that fact.

Had a bit of trouble telling my CHRISTIAN parents I was atheist... but hey, I'd say it worked out pretty well so far. Seeing as they refuse to believe I'm atheist...

 

[The Infamous Scamola]

You're bi, not gay, so no, no need.

 

[Cpt_Oblivious]

So as some people on here may know (that is, my Twitter followers)

I didn't know this. But then again I don't backtrack on Twitter.

Anyway, I'd sit down and discuss it with them over a cup of tea. Better that than, as New Troll said, turn up with a same sex partner at Christmas or something.

 

[Sissas]

Regardless of their beliefs, parents rarely neglect their children. They may be shocked for a while, which is understandable, but bottomline you're their child and they do love you. From what I get from your post you and your parents get along and all and it's best to do it soon, as New Troll said!

 

[Labyrinth]

I broke it to my parent in a letter I left in my mother's diary when she went to work, then spent that night huddling at my best friend's place in dread. They haven't mentioned it since... Hard to say.

For you? Pick the way you think will be gentlest. You know your parents, I don't, so I can't give you any direct advice I'm afraid. If they do decide to bring hell down upon you I'm so very sorry and you have all the support I can provide.

 

[Lord George]

Only tell them if it comes up or they ask, otherwise just keep on going out there, I don't think my parents have a clue who I sleep with, I don't think they particularity care that much anyway.

But being Bi is the best, always twice the opportunity's .

 

[Chipperz]

Wanna swap parents? I'm having a hard time convincing my mum I'm straight, and I think that short of getting a girlfriend (which I'm now fairly certain is impossible...) or leaving a bunch of porn on my bed (which I'm sure she'll think is staged), she'll keep telling me how she'll "love me just the way I am..."...

<.<

 

[The Infamous Scamola]

Ok, maybe that wasn't sound advice.

How do you know you're actually bi? I'm going to take for granted the fact that you haven't actually had any gay intercourse, how do you know you're not just maybe a little curious, or in the mood for experimenting (like many other people your age), neither of which I would call being bi?

 

[bodyklok]

The US military policy on gays in the army pretty much sums up my advice. "Don't ask, don't tell." Unless you get a girlfriend then don't tell them.

 

[Fairee]

So as some people on here may know (that is, my Twitter followers)

I didn't know this. But then again I don't backtrack on Twitter.

Don't bother backtracking on Twitter, it takes WAY too long with all of Sky's Tweets.

 

[Cpt_Oblivious]

So as some people on here may know (that is, my Twitter followers)

I didn't know this. But then again I don't backtrack on Twitter.

Don't bother backtracking on Twitter, it takes WAY too long with all of Sky's Tweets.

I did, it took 5 page extensions to find anything by you.

 

[HardRockSamurai]

My policy is "if you see a problem up ahead, run towards it, in hopes you might break through." Talk to your folks as soon as possible, even if it's not a good time to tell them. Don't procrastinate with an issue such as this; besides, considering all modern-day parents have to put up with these days, you might find yourself surprised at how accepting they can be.

Good luck.

 

[Legion]

So, what would other people do in this situation? Would you tell, or wait and see if you dated somone of the same sex? Or would you always keep it secret? Also, has anyone else had problems telling other people something? Did you tell, and did it go well if you did?

My opinion on sexuality is the same as it is for religion. It isn't that important.

I have never understood "coming out" to be honest. It's what you are and there is no need to explain yourself to anyone.

If you feel they might need to understand, then by all means sit them down and talk them through it, otherwise I'd just leave it. It's not "keeping a secret" it's just keeping your business to yourself.

 

[Sexual Harassment Panda]

You don't need to share everything with your parents. Unless you have a long term girlfriend at some point that would warrant a meeting with the parents, then I wouldn't bother with it at all. Your sexuality doesn't define you, you aren't somebody new now.

 

[Disaster Button]

The dilemma is, whether I tell my parents and what I say. The thing is, they are Christians, pretty old fashioned ones who still believe that gay is wrong (although apparently they would have no problem with me or David being gay, which I cannot understand). Therefore I'm not exacty sure how they would react if I told them I am bi.

So, what would other people do in this situation? Would you tell, or wait and see if you dated somone of the same sex? Or would you always keep it secret? Also, has anyone else had problems telling other people something? Did you tell, and did it go well if you did?

I told my mom I was bisexual and she was totally fine with it and nothings changed at all. Haven't told my dad yet on acocunt of him probbably going batshit. But if you don't want to tell them then I don't think you should until you find someone you're serious wtih. Or if you wanna tell them, go for it if they haven't got a problem

 

[Time Travelling Toaster]

Keep it a secret.
Parents are not meant to know things about your personal life - its none of their business, really.

But then what happens if you bring home someone of the same sex as you as "more than friends"?
I kind of get what you mean though, telling them could make things worse, or they could be cool about it and accept what you feel.

 

[NewClassic_v1legacy]

If they're cool with full-blown homosexuality, then I don't see why still having the opportunity to have grandchildren would bother them. Seems to me like you're just nervous about talking to them.

Just catch them when they aren't doing something else, and aren't rushed, and have a talk about it. Honesty is an easy enough policy, and your parents seem like pretty cool people if they aren't bothered by it already.

Take it easy, ask for someone along like a good friend if you're too nervous about it. It only needs to happen once, then it'll never be a bother again. Besides, I learned the very hard way that parents aren't around forever. One of mine went away very suddenly...

Relish the time you have, beats the hell out of dreading seeing them every time you do until you can have that discussion with them.

 

[SmilingKitsune]

I advise you to tell them, keeping things like that bottled away can really screw around with your own well being.
They're your parents, and if they have already said they would have no problem with you or your brother being gay, there shouldn't be a problem.
Sit down with them and tell them you are.