So I play games, read comics, and the like so this by defualt makes me a man child that is immature
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I'm a brony who's college education is so lackluster that I have to use most of my free time to educate myself on things that actually matter in the work place.
I don't think I need to say more.
I don't think I need to say more.
my primary hobby is playing video games. i play a lot of video games. i am 21. my 2-3 friends (i dont have many friends coz am social anxietic) say am immature for playing video games and not having a gf etc.
they say real man do manly things not play video games like kids and not have gf. i dont have a job either coz am still studying. they say that outgrow your childish and immature behavior and grow up be a man and do manly things. i get so irritated hearing these things i wanna slap them in the face but they thr only friends i got. they dont understand
they say real man do manly things not play video games like kids and not have gf. i dont have a job either coz am still studying. they say that outgrow your childish and immature behavior and grow up be a man and do manly things. i get so irritated hearing these things i wanna slap them in the face but they thr only friends i got. they dont understand
Spartan X1 said:
You go uni and work..and get decent grades?..And have hobbies and past times you enjoy? In my book that means you are doing pretty well and are a well balanced person.
The dangerous thing here is letting their bullshit get to you and then actually messing up. It can be like a self forfilling prophecy.
Oh and as someone else has already mentioned..the people who criticise the maturity of your interests are doing some equally lame stuff but think it's good.
The people you described sound ignorant and close-minded. If their definition of "Success" is anything but "Be healthy and happy", then their's are not opinions you should pay attention to.
If you're doing what makes you happy, then that's all there is to it. You don't owe them some kind of social debt to conform to their twisted, arrogant notions of success.
If you give up on the things that bring you joy because of dogmatic paranoia, you will regret it for a long time.
If I had the choice between making 1280 a month and playing Dark Souls, Persona 4, Mass Effect, Red Dead: Redemption, KOTOR II and all the great works of art this so called "Junk" has to offer, and working a desk job making 2540 a month and never playing these games again, just so I could make some extra cash and sit in a cubicle for the rest of my life, I'll take the games.
P.S: Keep them away from your stuff
If you're doing what makes you happy, then that's all there is to it. You don't owe them some kind of social debt to conform to their twisted, arrogant notions of success.
If you give up on the things that bring you joy because of dogmatic paranoia, you will regret it for a long time.
If I had the choice between making 1280 a month and playing Dark Souls, Persona 4, Mass Effect, Red Dead: Redemption, KOTOR II and all the great works of art this so called "Junk" has to offer, and working a desk job making 2540 a month and never playing these games again, just so I could make some extra cash and sit in a cubicle for the rest of my life, I'll take the games.
P.S: Keep them away from your stuff
Well, obviously you need to do the whole "go fuck yourself" thing. It might be worth bringing up all of the incredibly successful people who collect comics and figures.
yeah, this attitude is terrible. That whole "grow up" thing drives me nuts. I can't remember where I read it, but I saw a thing that basically said telling someone to grow up is immature. It suggests that the person is obsessed with looking like an adult, just like most kids are. "Look at me, Daddy, I'm a man, too!" kind of thing. The original quote was better worded...
Also, a thousand points to The Ubermensch for the Spider Jerusalem picture. It helps illustrate the point that comics can be more grown up than half the shit "adults" read.
yeah, this attitude is terrible. That whole "grow up" thing drives me nuts. I can't remember where I read it, but I saw a thing that basically said telling someone to grow up is immature. It suggests that the person is obsessed with looking like an adult, just like most kids are. "Look at me, Daddy, I'm a man, too!" kind of thing. The original quote was better worded...
Also, a thousand points to The Ubermensch for the Spider Jerusalem picture. It helps illustrate the point that comics can be more grown up than half the shit "adults" read.
The immature man-children who partake in these hobbies don't do much to mitigate that stigma honestly.
If you want my opinion, Tell them you are wary of their concern and assure them that its merely something you do as a hobby like most people.
Though why are they saying this? Are they doing it to rile you up or are they genuinely concerned you are not going out of doors or talking to others enough? Concerns which I think are valid, considering that social interaction and sociability is an honest to goodness wonderful trait to have. Not to mention having friends and the like.
I would avoid writing them off completely, that would only confirm their suspicions of you being some sort of evil man-child.
If you want my opinion, Tell them you are wary of their concern and assure them that its merely something you do as a hobby like most people.
Though why are they saying this? Are they doing it to rile you up or are they genuinely concerned you are not going out of doors or talking to others enough? Concerns which I think are valid, considering that social interaction and sociability is an honest to goodness wonderful trait to have. Not to mention having friends and the like.
I would avoid writing them off completely, that would only confirm their suspicions of you being some sort of evil man-child.
Eh, I see a fair bit of mockery for the heavy drinkers, gamblers, and sports fans as well. And it all comes from the same place - people who feel that they can be dismissive of any side-interest that they don't share.Gnmish said:
Ideally, I'd hope that most people are capable of making a decent salary and still hanging on to their hobbies. I see zero relationship between a desk job (or any higher level professional career path) and hobbies.sumanoskae said:
Well obviously if you've got both that's great, no conflict there, but the point is that you shouldn't give up on doing what you love to make money.Raikas said:
You know what they say... Misery loves company.
Most "self-assured adults" I know are just insanely miserable people. What you're experiencing is worse in blue collar areas, a lot of blue-collar types don't respect you unless you're completely miserable like they are. All they do is gossip about each other when the door shuts.
Also, rampant alcoholism and promiscuity.
Most "self-assured adults" I know are just insanely miserable people. What you're experiencing is worse in blue collar areas, a lot of blue-collar types don't respect you unless you're completely miserable like they are. All they do is gossip about each other when the door shuts.
Also, rampant alcoholism and promiscuity.
I guess there's a whole notion of video games and comics as being 'anti-social' activities. They're certainly much less socially stimulating than joining a debating club or playing a team sport, and whether we like it or not we're all going to have to deal and engage with people in our future at some stage.
There's absolutely nothing wrong with playing games and reading comics, my life would stink without those things, but just don't fall into the stereotype of the 'anti-social, awkward, loner, loser, no-life, lazy video gamer', because that's very much a reality for many people.
There's absolutely nothing wrong with playing games and reading comics, my life would stink without those things, but just don't fall into the stereotype of the 'anti-social, awkward, loner, loser, no-life, lazy video gamer', because that's very much a reality for many people.
I wouldn't let my 9 year old younger brother read my Walking Dead or The Darkness collections, just like I wouldn't let him play Dead Space or Mortal Kombat.
You know what else I wouldn't let him do? Watch my copies of Taxi Driver, Apocalypse Now, Akira, or Pulp Fiction. Why? Because that shit is ADULT, SON. You cannot say that playing games or reading comics/graphic novels makes someone a manchild. They are just an entertainment medium, like films, music, and the like. I bet these friends have a favourite film. Does that make them childish?
Being adult, or childish is down to the way that you behave, not what hobbies you enjoy, and decide to immerse yourself in.
You know what else I wouldn't let him do? Watch my copies of Taxi Driver, Apocalypse Now, Akira, or Pulp Fiction. Why? Because that shit is ADULT, SON. You cannot say that playing games or reading comics/graphic novels makes someone a manchild. They are just an entertainment medium, like films, music, and the like. I bet these friends have a favourite film. Does that make them childish?
Being adult, or childish is down to the way that you behave, not what hobbies you enjoy, and decide to immerse yourself in.
Sure, but what I'm saying is that I don't think that's actually a real choice that people are making. A person making $1280/month working full time is actually making less than minimum wage (at least where I am) - and I have genuinely never seen anyone have to choose between living on the brink of poverty and having hobbies. Never. I mean, I have friends who work absurd shifts in oil sands jobs who still have hobbies, my sister is a doctor, my SIL is a nurse and I have cop friends who regularly work 12+ hours at a time and they still all have hobbies. And compared to all of them the folks working standard business hours have way more free time.sumanoskae said:
Yeah, I've met people who claimed they were working low-wage retail jobs because they felt that they'd have to give up on whatever fun thing they were into, but it was never a real thing for any of the people who eventually "sold out".
Obviously for plenty of people it's not a choice, but this example is clearly about someone who has other options.
When I was younger, my family werent very understanding of how I would spend some nights, going to a friends house and game till the sun came up, waking up late the day after and feel like shit..
Until I compared it to going to town and drinking ones brains out. (Which is the norm here in Denmark)
And from that day, I didnet hear another ill word about it.
Until I compared it to going to town and drinking ones brains out. (Which is the norm here in Denmark)
And from that day, I didnet hear another ill word about it.
I really couldnt care what people think about me, I do my own thing. I AM an immature game playing beer swilling slobbish man child and no one can change me. I'm only 24 and already most of my friends are married, with kids, expecting kids, engaged, mortgages blah blah blah, and are trying to get me to "grow up", "be more mature" or "settle down". I'm twenty four! Not forty fucking two. I work hard for the things I enjoy and I will spend my hard earned cash on my favourite pleasures in life.
I turned up to my cousins baptism in jeans and an assassins creed hoodie. I went paint balling instead of attending my college "prom". I went to watch the Dark Knight with my ex-girlfriend instead of going to my university graduation ceremony. I got reprimanded in the army for skipping an officers cocktail ball in favour of being on the practice ranges with the squaddies. I got fired from one of my old jobs because I called my BNP supporting supervisor out for being unfair to the immigrants. I "missed" my friends wedding because I was too badly hungover from an all night drinking and FIFA tournament. I missed another baptism because I went to Anfield for an FA cup game and said I went to the wrong church "by mistake". I dropped out of a works "team building conference" because it was the same day Mass Effect 3 was out. I am immature at heart and theres plenty of time yet for me to become boring.
I AAAM WHAT IIIIII AAAAAAAAAAAAM!! *Takes bow*
I turned up to my cousins baptism in jeans and an assassins creed hoodie. I went paint balling instead of attending my college "prom". I went to watch the Dark Knight with my ex-girlfriend instead of going to my university graduation ceremony. I got reprimanded in the army for skipping an officers cocktail ball in favour of being on the practice ranges with the squaddies. I got fired from one of my old jobs because I called my BNP supporting supervisor out for being unfair to the immigrants. I "missed" my friends wedding because I was too badly hungover from an all night drinking and FIFA tournament. I missed another baptism because I went to Anfield for an FA cup game and said I went to the wrong church "by mistake". I dropped out of a works "team building conference" because it was the same day Mass Effect 3 was out. I am immature at heart and theres plenty of time yet for me to become boring.
I AAAM WHAT IIIIII AAAAAAAAAAAAM!! *Takes bow*