So i'm going to confess my feelings to my crush.
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^^ Basically what he said.
EDIT: Or she, gender inclusiveness and all.
I'm doing something similar soon. Good luck mate!
EDIT: Or she, gender inclusiveness and all.
I'm doing something similar soon. Good luck mate!
Well if it's someone he knows for quite some time, admitting and then getting rejected will wield more than a few awkward moments.Catalyst6 said:
Just don't faff about with it. Be direct. Don't come across too needy though. And for fuck sake, DO IT IN PERSON.
This a thousand times this.No_Remainders said:
Seriously saying you have crush on someoene via texting/Facebook is just douchy as hell and I am sure the girl/guy would aprreciate it a lot more if you just did it in person.
You are perhaps looking for this: http://www.escapistmagazine.com/forums/index/538-Advice-ForumIma842 said:
Yeah, good luck with confessing your feelings and all. Haven't really got any advice, other than asking for it in the appropriate place [http://www.escapistmagazine.com/forums/index/538-Advice-Forum], since I have never had a girfriend, or a crush I'd felt the need to confess my feelings to. Just go for it, I guess.
A lot of it depends on how long you've known the person and if you know they have any interests in anyone (ie, they have a significant other).
Most of the time, a simple, "Hey, want to go to lunch with me sometime?" is a good way to get to know them better and figure out if they're actually worth dating. I've done this a few times and the results were mixed, but that's why you do sort of like a pre-date date to test the waters.
If it's someone you know, or more specifically, know well, approach it kind of like, "Hey, I've liked you for a bit and I was wondering if maybe you'd be interested in being a little more than friends."
If you've gotten the, "You're my best friend/You're like a brother/sister to me." lines, you're dead in the water, and stop now. I tried to go out with my best female friend and it was nothing but torment for a long, long time. She said no, but it's hard to let go of something like that if you're really close and whatnot.
Most of the time, a simple, "Hey, want to go to lunch with me sometime?" is a good way to get to know them better and figure out if they're actually worth dating. I've done this a few times and the results were mixed, but that's why you do sort of like a pre-date date to test the waters.
If it's someone you know, or more specifically, know well, approach it kind of like, "Hey, I've liked you for a bit and I was wondering if maybe you'd be interested in being a little more than friends."
If you've gotten the, "You're my best friend/You're like a brother/sister to me." lines, you're dead in the water, and stop now. I tried to go out with my best female friend and it was nothing but torment for a long, long time. She said no, but it's hard to let go of something like that if you're really close and whatnot.
For the love of god do not say: "Ummm....", "Weeeelllll....", or "Y'know?" Most annoying mood killer ever.
Don't throw yourself to the ground at their feet, don't make a big fuss about it, and don't beat around the bush. Dragging what you're saying out is usually really annoying.
Don't throw yourself to the ground at their feet, don't make a big fuss about it, and don't beat around the bush. Dragging what you're saying out is usually really annoying.
As many other people said, just do it. Unless he/she's already seeing someone else, then you're just setting yourself up for pain. However, since you didn't say anything about that, I think it's safe to assume you're in the clear there. So yeah, just tell her, in person if at all possible.
Don't say you "love" her, don't be needy, EYE CONTACT (or at least the face region - I know it's hard with the lovelies just 8 inches south, but try your best), don't worry about sounding nervous (as long as you're coherent), don't rehearse too much beforehand.
