If everyone is happy then I don't think there's a problem. But I can't help but think that a girl, or a guy, who is so willing to be in such a relationship is really a long-term prospect, or one for committing. Perhaps inaccurate presumptions on my part, but there it is.
So I'm in this three way relationship
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Yea I tried that once with two girls...ended horribly...basically, girl 1 thought I was giving more attention to girl 2 and then they fought and that was the end of that beautiful 3 weeks.
Yea, open relationship. I'm in one myself right now. I'm quite happy to let my boyfriend sleep with whomever he would like to, long as he's careful, etc. I have the same privilege. The same goes with dating. As long as the middle party (in your case, Emily) doesn't turn to Dave and just up and dump him cold-heartedly, and all 3 of you remain friends no matter what, then there's nothing to worry about.
Just remember that you're the 3rd party in THEIR relationship at this point. If Dave or Emily decide no more and the other agrees and tries to say to you "no more", be respectful of their decision. Same goes with the other way round. If Emily wants to be with you exclusively, as long as you both sit down with Dave and explain it calmly and he lets her go (respecting yours and her decision), then that's fine too. Just don't risk a good friendship over something like that. That's the best advice I can give.
Just remember that you're the 3rd party in THEIR relationship at this point. If Dave or Emily decide no more and the other agrees and tries to say to you "no more", be respectful of their decision. Same goes with the other way round. If Emily wants to be with you exclusively, as long as you both sit down with Dave and explain it calmly and he lets her go (respecting yours and her decision), then that's fine too. Just don't risk a good friendship over something like that. That's the best advice I can give.
2 words: Trust and Communication.
With those two things front and center in this relationship, you have as good a chance in this open relationship as anyone has in a standard monogamous one. Good luck, to all 3 of you!
With those two things front and center in this relationship, you have as good a chance in this open relationship as anyone has in a standard monogamous one. Good luck, to all 3 of you!
Its funny how you called them Emily and Dave because that's me and my boyfriends names, made me think it was about me for a second.
Anyway, I hate the thought of doing anything like that, but it's just me personally. I couldn't share myself, and knowing my boyfriend was doing stuff with another girl... *shudder* she'd be dead within minutes.
BUT, you're young so have fun and experiment. I hope you don't get hurt by this, keep in mind it's a bit of fun I suppose and try not get attached.
(Don't think all relationships should be like this though... I think most girls only want the one guy).
Anyway, I hate the thought of doing anything like that, but it's just me personally. I couldn't share myself, and knowing my boyfriend was doing stuff with another girl... *shudder* she'd be dead within minutes.
BUT, you're young so have fun and experiment. I hope you don't get hurt by this, keep in mind it's a bit of fun I suppose and try not get attached.
(Don't think all relationships should be like this though... I think most girls only want the one guy).
Totally support this.
It's not something I would do, I don't think, but I'd hardly do relationships in general - I'm just all for pushing the boundaries of culture. Thinking that the way it has always been done is right to the point that it starts becoming the only way is bad. Variety is the spice of life, and whatnot.
Go forth and prosper, good sir (and of course stay weary of the things that others have mentioned).
It's not something I would do, I don't think, but I'd hardly do relationships in general - I'm just all for pushing the boundaries of culture. Thinking that the way it has always been done is right to the point that it starts becoming the only way is bad. Variety is the spice of life, and whatnot.
Go forth and prosper, good sir (and of course stay weary of the things that others have mentioned).
And you people wonder why humanity is taking a dive straight into the ground. Those standards are so low you could trip over them. This is so sickening, you humans are so stupid.
With all due respect, how is Ramona Flowers having 7 exes at around 25 bad? If anything, I'd say that she has been in fewer relationships than the average for her age.CODE-D said:
I personally agree that monogamy is important for my relationships, but being cheated on/being a cheatee is not what the OP is talking about. Everyone is aware of what's going on, and everyone is okay with it. They have different beliefs and opinions on monogamy than the two of us do, and that's okay.Shark Wrangler said:
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That sound almost unreal. In fact, it sounds way more awesome than suspicious! I don't even know what else to say but "congratulations on somehow getting this to work!" I haven't been in any kind of "three way relationship" before so that's that. One on one is the only way I've had it and it will probably stay that way. Hope it works out to be even better later on!
As long as it's totally consensual and everyone's on board, I can't see what the problem is.
Now if you or Dave start feeling like you don't want to share anymore, then it's time to take a step back and talk it out, all three of you. I remember, I think maybe it was a topic on here? But someone was talking about being in a polyamorous relationship and they were getting all ragey and bitter when the other two people were like making out and shit, because it meant she wasn't making out with the dude herself, and the first thought that comes to my mind is "Hey guess what, that probably means polyamory isn't for you."
Now if you or Dave start feeling like you don't want to share anymore, then it's time to take a step back and talk it out, all three of you. I remember, I think maybe it was a topic on here? But someone was talking about being in a polyamorous relationship and they were getting all ragey and bitter when the other two people were like making out and shit, because it meant she wasn't making out with the dude herself, and the first thought that comes to my mind is "Hey guess what, that probably means polyamory isn't for you."
While generally, all my relationships have been monogamous unless stated specifically otherwise (which I'm fine with), I can't help but feel a lot of relationships experience drama because people seem to have grown to expect that kind of thing. I'm not saying there can't be unavoidable drama in a relationship, but a lot of the people I know seem to have social and sexual relationships that look just like something out of one of those slightly depressing sitcoms that seem to be sweeping the UK at the moment. This is slightly reinforced in that I've listened to some of these people for a while and have arrived at the conclusion that (some of them) are idiots, hypocrites and self-absorbed tools. Quite frankly, I'm still slightly amazed that people barely out of secondary school are cheating on their partners, committing minor sexual assault, and all manner of things you'd expect from drama queen TV land.EmperorSubcutaneous said:
On the other hand, I'll use a friend of mine as an example: let's give him the fake name Tim (because everything's slightly more amusing if someone is called Tim). Tim met his girlfriend through pretty much a random encounter. They attend separate schools (or, A level colleges rather) and despite this, there's non of that "ooh, they're around people of the opposite sex and I'm not there!" BS. They're incredibly chilled and don't go in for any of this self absorbed overreacting jealousy crap. Quite frankly, that's the way to go.
Sorry, I've gone on a bit of a rant here, but the vanity of some people infuriates me.
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Lol? And you aren't a human then I presume, what are you btw? Badger? Those standards you speak off are nothing more than a societal construct and if the OP and his friends are all fine with it, what's the problem, not like it's harming anyoneZephyrFireStrom said:
