So, what about this idea? (Relationship help sorta)

[kouriichi]

I think its a horrible idea. If a woman slipped my a peice of paper with a number on it, id eather think she was a prostitute, or a horrible prank was about to be pulled on me.

If you want my advice, drop the shyness. I know its going to be hard to do, and it may seem impossible, but just walk up to him, tell him youve seen him in class, and ask if hed like a coffee or something.

See, we guys are like a fortress. Everyone is solid steel and protected by cannons. But the front gate is wide open. Being direct with a guy is the best idea. Its the easyest way from us to catch on. You tell me were in the same class, and im going to think, "Oh yeah, shes that one chick". And thats where you want to start from.

Heck, you can even admit your shy! Alot of guys find that attractive in a woman. Say that you dont do this kind of thing oftin, and that he seems different then the other jackholes youve met.

But thats just me.

 

[SixWingedAsura]

Okay, I need a guy's opinion on something.

See, there's this guy in one of my classes and I really think he has a small thing for me (some of you may remember that thread, and I really appreciate all the help I got on it!). Nothing big, I know that much, since we never really get the chance to talk to each other. Well, long story short, I'd really like to get to know him too. Only problem is that I tend to be really shy with that kind of a thing, I have yet to work up the nerve to just march up to him and talk to him.

Well, I'm going to be dropping the class too, so I won't see him again anyway. I always walk past him on my way out the door, so I was thinking of maybe slipping him a small piece of paper with my phone number with a small little message. I figure it's simple enough and gets the message across.

Or does this seem like the worst idea ever? :/ It seems okay to me, but I dunno how a guy would take it.

Also, any tips on a clever little message? I just keep coming up with really simple stuff like "call me" and that's just...really simple.

I appreciate it, guys.

Depending on how thick the guy is it might work.

If he's kind of thick, it might work.

If he's six foot wall of reinforced concrete, *coughmecough* the only way it'll get through his head is to outright talk to him in simple plain language.

 

[EvilMaggot]

Guys are dense. A note might be the subtlest idea that will actually work.

HEY!... we are not dense !... our brains just not work as fast as girls..

 

[Naheal]

Guys are dense. A note might be the subtlest idea that will actually work.

HEY!... we are not dense !... our brains just not work as fast as girls..

As far as relationships go? Yes, we are.

 

[EvilMaggot]

Guys are dense. A note might be the subtlest idea that will actually work.

HEY!... we are not dense !... our brains just not work as fast as girls..

As far as relationships go? Yes, we are.

true that ^^

 

[SpAc3man]

Sit next to him. Smile. Say hi. Exchange small talk like: "what do you think about this class?" At the end of the class write your name and number on a piece of paper and give it to him say "this is for you." and go to your next class. Done. Win.

 

[thahat]

Okay, I need a guy's opinion on something.

See, there's this guy in one of my classes and I really think he has a small thing for me (some of you may remember that thread, and I really appreciate all the help I got on it!). Nothing big, I know that much, since we never really get the chance to talk to each other. Well, long story short, I'd really like to get to know him too. Only problem is that I tend to be really shy with that kind of a thing, I have yet to work up the nerve to just march up to him and talk to him.

Well, I'm going to be dropping the class too, so I won't see him again anyway. I always walk past him on my way out the door, so I was thinking of maybe slipping him a small piece of paper with my phone number with a small little message. I figure it's simple enough and gets the message across.

Or does this seem like the worst idea ever? :/ It seems okay to me, but I dunno how a guy would take it.

Also, any tips on a clever little message? I just keep coming up with really simple stuff like "call me" and that's just...really simple.

I appreciate it, guys.

does he know your name?, if yes, call me, name
NUMBER will do fine., your a natural

if not, more tricky, but i guess that if you share a class and he already kinda likes you call me and your name will do. XD
but make sure the note real gets to him, and not something he could MISS.
i had this with my girlfriend once, ive learned afterwards: always think of the stuff that could go wrong with your plan.
for instance, if you slip it into his bag, he will mis it. ( i mean, who checks all the random piece of paper in his bag XD?

that kinda stuff., how were you planning on slipping it to him?

 

[Brandon237]

Guys are dense. A note might be the subtlest idea that will actually work.

HEY!... we are not dense !... our brains just not work as fast as girls..

Not dense, but crap at reading the signals, yes we are. Don't deny it, as I guy I know how bad we are at reading things that aren't put in black and white, simple speak.

Personally I am a bit of a hopeless romantic, so something like a note would work wonders on me if I wasn't already happy with a romantic girlfriend.

But if he is not so much a romantic, then maybe speaking to him outright is better. It all depends on the person really.

But I hope all goes well, if it does, hope you guys stay happy. If not, there's always next time.

 

[EmzOLV]

Guys are dense. A note might be the subtlest idea that will actually work.

Definitely, exactly this. I once sat down with my best guy mate and we once ended up talking for hours about why when I was flirting with people it seemed like I wasn't. I mean, he never knew I was until I said I was!

The fact is, most guys just don't seem to pick up on that stuff. I think a note is literally the most subtle but yet obvious enough to trigger something for him to realise and I think its incredibly sweet.

Hope you keep us up-to-date with it and let us know how it goes always love a good mushy story!

 

[Secret world leader (shhh)]

Okay, I need a guy's opinion on something.

See, there's this guy in one of my classes and I really think he has a small thing for me (some of you may remember that thread, and I really appreciate all the help I got on it!). Nothing big, I know that much, since we never really get the chance to talk to each other. Well, long story short, I'd really like to get to know him too. Only problem is that I tend to be really shy with that kind of a thing, I have yet to work up the nerve to just march up to him and talk to him.

Well, I'm going to be dropping the class too, so I won't see him again anyway. I always walk past him on my way out the door, so I was thinking of maybe slipping him a small piece of paper with my phone number with a small little message. I figure it's simple enough and gets the message across.

Or does this seem like the worst idea ever? :/ It seems okay to me, but I dunno how a guy would take it.

Also, any tips on a clever little message? I just keep coming up with really simple stuff like "call me" and that's just...really simple.

I appreciate it, guys.

Damn!, until i checked your profile I thought that you may have been the girl from my modern studies class, what you described sounds exactly like what i assume (if she had a thing for me, which i suspect she may) she would write down to the fact i'm only in one of her classes and walk down the same corridor after class

WARNING!: I HAVE NO EXPERIENCE WITH THIS SORT OF THING SO I PROBABLY DON'T KNOW WHAT I'M TALKING ABOUT!

Anyway, I think you should try getting to the point of smiling or saying hi when you pass eachother. If you do that already then i'd try your idea.

 

[Skobvs]

Guys are dense. A note might be the subtlest idea that will actually work.

+1 for that. Guys will either take the smallest thing as flirting (even when it clearly isn't) or the largest thing as normal (actual flirting). We truely are as Naheal says "dense".

 

[Naheal]

Guys are dense. A note might be the subtlest idea that will actually work.

Definitely, exactly this. I once sat down with my best guy mate and we once ended up talking for hours about why when I was flirting with people it seemed like I wasn't. I mean, he never knew I was until I said I was!

The fact is, most guys just don't seem to pick up on that stuff. I think a note is literally the most subtle but yet obvious enough to trigger something for him to realise and I think its incredibly sweet.

Hope you keep us up-to-date with it and let us know how it goes always love a good mushy story!

I find it the opposite in my dating experience.

Every time I hit on a girl, they seem to just think I'm friendly or don't notice at all. But a guy picks it up straight away - sometimes even when I'm not flirting. XD

Might be the gender?

 

[EmzOLV]

I find it the opposite in my dating experience.

Every time I hit on a girl, they seem to just think I'm friendly or don't notice at all. But a guy picks it up straight away - sometimes even when I'm not flirting. XD

Strange isn't it?
You know what I think it is though, if we're talking girls flirting with girls, in my experience, they don't realise it because its still not that common for the average girl to be hit on (where I live) so they just think its a bunch of compliments! I always fail ><

But with guys they seem to pick up eventually. This always happens to be the ones I really like - the guys that you just don't feel the same for always pick up on something that I never meant to portray!

Ahh, tis life I guess!

 

[DJDarque]

Personally if a girl did something like this to me, I would feel all warm and fuzzy inside. Hell, even if I hadn't been interested I might become more interested, depending on how well I knew the person of course.

Also, I agree. Men are dense. I am terrible at picking up signals.

 

[Danzaivar]

Two options that should work.

Your number thing.

Spoiler: Or...

Or...

Yours is more subtle though, I'd do that.

 

[messy]

Tell him straight. The only way you can make sure the exact message you want to get is given. However if this ever does becomes something notes are a good way to express further feelings romantically.

 

[silasbufu]

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Take into consideration the fact that the way you have issues talking to him face-to-face, he might have for doing it on the phone.
I'm just giving that example because it happens to me sometimes. If I just met someone, I would find a phone conversation seriously awkward and would prefer something more personal.
But if you're that shy, you could go for it I guess.

 

[silasbufu]

Feel free to use this:

1. Write your phone number on a folded up piece of paper with "call me" written on it and maybe a smiley face.
2. After class or something follow him, tap him on the shoulder, and say "hey you dropped this!"
3. Leave before he can respond like the smooth criminal you are.
4. PROFIT

...and if a girl did that with me, that piece of paper would go straight into the trash.

What if she were seriously hot?

 

[Kranay]

Guys are dense. A note might be the subtlest idea that will actually work.

I think a megaphone might be more suitable actually.

Touche, my good sir. A megaphone is indeed required when talking about anything other than food, alcohol, sport or women.

 

[Stephanos132]

Don't fuck around with notes, that's too open to misinterpretation/abuse. Be direct, you just want to get to know him after all (initially at least). Maybe he's equally shy, and just needs to be coaxed out a bit.