So, what about this idea? (Relationship help sorta)

[Scobie]

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[EmzOLV]

>_>

You're not allowed to say things like that. I blush sooo easy and I hate it. Even my ears go read, lol.

Sorry, I forgot about that >< it just came out!

See why can't this happen where I live?! girls get all like "oh, thanks" and that's it. If only they knew...

 

[Outright Villainy]

Honestly, as awkward as it might seem, the best thing to do is pull him aside sometime and talk to him. A note would work, but it's rather juvenile. You will gain instant respect points if you just tell him you need to talk to him, go to a spot that's not completely full of people, and talk to him about it. And in that conversation, tell him straight-out that you're interested in getting to know him better. Don't beat around the bush. Don't be pushy either, and start small, but let him know your intention right off.

This is much more difficult, but it will gain you much more respect. An alternative might be to simply wait for him to move, but if you won't be seeing him as often anymore this might be your only real option.

Really, this is the best option.

Just talk to the guy. It doesn't have to be flirty or even have to say that much, but making the effort to talk will mean that much more than a note.

And whilst guys are dense, he'll probably pick up the hint pretty quickly if you take him aside to talk to him.

Easy start: Ask him to lunch.

 

[Kasper Gundersen]

I've never really seen a note as a good choice, because "call me" makes you sound, I don't know, a bit slutty (I'm not calling anyone slutty here, but I just get those thoughts when i hear it...) But the best thing you could do, would probably try and talk to him and confess, however embarrassing it may be

 

[Mr Montmorency]

Be friends with him first. It's kinda more respectful than you treating him like an object who you could potentially bone in the future.

 

[EmzOLV]

You can flirt with me all you like - you're gorgeous.

I'll just have to suck it up and learn to blush with grace. Poor me.

Yeah you're making it sound so terrible I'm sorry to have put you through SO much haha!
After going dramatically off-topic though I'm going to save my flirting with you

 

[Vrach]

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Note is fine! Don't be subtle, most men are too stupid for it, I know I sure as hell am ^^

 

[Folio]

Feel free to use this:

1. Write your phone number on a folded up piece of paper with "call me" written on it and maybe a smiley face.
2. After class or something follow him, tap him on the shoulder, and say "hey you dropped this!"
3. Leave before he can respond like the smooth criminal you are.
4. PROFIT

...and if a girl did that with me, that piece of paper would go straight into the trash.

What if she were seriously hot?

Oh, I wouldn't trust it in a million years! It's an obvious trap. Just to try her number and call someone's brother or something. She'd just laugh at you for thinking you were in her league.

'Call me ' Is enough to let my Bullshit-meter go apeshit! Even beginning with a wide smile before the conversation is started I think: 'What do you want from me, now?'

If the conversation GOES somewhere and I can see in her eyes that she's really curious, then I know it's legit.

 

[Asuka Soryu]

Guys are dense. A note might be the subtlest idea that will actually work.

Alot of people are dense, gender doesn't make a difference.

 

[Mr.Pandah]

Okay, I need a guy's opinion on something.

See, there's this guy in one of my classes and I really think he has a small thing for me (some of you may remember that thread, and I really appreciate all the help I got on it!). Nothing big, I know that much, since we never really get the chance to talk to each other. Well, long story short, I'd really like to get to know him too. Only problem is that I tend to be really shy with that kind of a thing, I have yet to work up the nerve to just march up to him and talk to him.

Well, I'm going to be dropping the class too, so I won't see him again anyway. I always walk past him on my way out the door, so I was thinking of maybe slipping him a small piece of paper with my phone number with a small little message. I figure it's simple enough and gets the message across.

Or does this seem like the worst idea ever? :/ It seems okay to me, but I dunno how a guy would take it.

Also, any tips on a clever little message? I just keep coming up with really simple stuff like "call me" and that's just...really simple.

I appreciate it, guys.

Hey there Chancie,

I'm certainly no expert on this situation since I mostly just attempt to talk to people I like, regardless of failure being involved. If this is the only way you feel you can reach out to him, then do it. No harm no foul at the end of this situation in my eyes. If you're dropping the class, you won't really ever see him again, so theres no worries if he doesn't respond. IF he does respond, than you'll be happy that you did so. You never know until you try it.

If a girl that liked me gave me a little note and gave me a phone number and a nice little message attached, I'd be extremely happy. Its nice when the opposite sex actually puts a little effort out there to talk to me once in a while.

I say go for it!

 

[Whichi]

Okay, I need a guy's opinion on something.

See, there's this guy in one of my classes and I really think he has a small thing for me (some of you may remember that thread, and I really appreciate all the help I got on it!). Nothing big, I know that much, since we never really get the chance to talk to each other. Well, long story short, I'd really like to get to know him too. Only problem is that I tend to be really shy with that kind of a thing, I have yet to work up the nerve to just march up to him and talk to him.

Well, I'm going to be dropping the class too, so I won't see him again anyway. I always walk past him on my way out the door, so I was thinking of maybe slipping him a small piece of paper with my phone number with a small little message. I figure it's simple enough and gets the message across.

Or does this seem like the worst idea ever? :/ It seems okay to me, but I dunno how a guy would take it.

Also, any tips on a clever little message? I just keep coming up with really simple stuff like "call me" and that's just...really simple.

I appreciate it, guys.

Most guys aren't people that catch on to subleties. if you leave a note in his locker, he could think that its some guy trying to trick him. don't slip a note in his locker, as it might just sit there on the bottom of the locker or fall out without him even knowing it's there, just put it in his hand, so you know he has it, and he acknowleges he has the note.

best that you be forward, cause as soon as there's some attention whore just rolling all over him and then *snap* he's taken.

 

[superbatranger]

Honestly, as awkward as it might seem, the best thing to do is pull him aside sometime and talk to him. A note would work, but it's rather juvenile. You will gain instant respect points if you just tell him you need to talk to him, go to a spot that's not completely full of people, and talk to him about it. And in that conversation, tell him straight-out that you're interested in getting to know him better. Don't beat around the bush. Don't be pushy either, and start small, but let him know your intention right off.

This is much more difficult, but it will gain you much more respect. An alternative might be to simply wait for him to move, but if you won't be seeing him as often anymore this might be your only real option.

i dont know if this works for you, but if a guy did that with me i would be shocked and turned off, plus if she misread his signals that would be crazy embarrassing, and miscommunication does happen, i have been on both sides of that and its embarrassing and painful enough without such an blunt confrontation.

heck even if it was a guy i liked who did that, i would have second thought if he was so blunt, and shyness is hard to overcome, imagine if the poor girl got shot down.

Honestly, this is why I'm hesitant to ask him about it face-to-face. There's a part of me that's paranoid I'm misreading the signals, and a note would be painless enough. Give it to him, walk out the door, never HAVE to see him again, and what happens happens...that's what I was thinking.
But then again, that's also why I'm asking for other opinions on it. xD;

I have that same problem. I can never tell if a girl is flirting with me, or if she's just talking to me like she would any other person. But, whatever you do, don't try to get so stressed about it.

 

[dogenzakaminion]

The note idea seems sweet, just make sure it doesn't seem slutty...
Guys are pretty simple though, you might just want to find an excuse to spend some time with him (bumping into him so he drops all his papers or some other romantic clichee).

 

[RollForInitiative]

Only problem is that I tend to be really shy with that kind of a thing, I have yet to work up the nerve to just march up to him and talk to him.

I'll be blunt.

Get over it. Period. Anything less than speaking directly to him won't come off as "cute." It will just come off as "childish." You're a big girl. Open your mouth and talk to him. If you want to get to know him, break the ice by inviting him for coffee or something similar where you'll have a chance to sit down and talk. If he turns you down, you've got a pretty clear answer then and there. If not, then you've got yourself an opportunity to get to know him better.

You never know. He might be just as shy. Besides, we're guys. We generally like being approached by girls. Use that to your advantage.

 

[Kukakkau]

Just on the way past ask if he wants your number - if he says no you know he's not interested and it saves the awkwardness of slipping him a note and having him get confused and you embarrassed

I'm not exactly a professional at these things but just getting to the point is the best way to go really

EDIT: Oh and good luck miss

 

[Blights]

If you know him well enough, do something he may find funny, or cute, I guess. Hell, I got a girlfriend through a Scrubs quote once. As for the note thing? You could try it, though he may just ignore it, I don't think I would call the person, it would be too vague.

 

[Yureina]

Okay, I need a guy's opinion on something.

See, there's this guy in one of my classes and I really think he has a small thing for me (some of you may remember that thread, and I really appreciate all the help I got on it!). Nothing big, I know that much, since we never really get the chance to talk to each other. Well, long story short, I'd really like to get to know him too. Only problem is that I tend to be really shy with that kind of a thing, I have yet to work up the nerve to just march up to him and talk to him.

Well, I'm going to be dropping the class too, so I won't see him again anyway. I always walk past him on my way out the door, so I was thinking of maybe slipping him a small piece of paper with my phone number with a small little message. I figure it's simple enough and gets the message across.

Or does this seem like the worst idea ever? :/ It seems okay to me, but I dunno how a guy would take it.

Also, any tips on a clever little message? I just keep coming up with really simple stuff like "call me" and that's just...really simple.

I appreciate it, guys.

Hmm... I don't really think that a note is a good idea.

Obviously I don't know your situation well enough, but am I right to assume that this "game" has been going on for a little while? The longer it has been going on, the worse the idea of dropping a note probably is. Why do I say this? Because if this has been going on for a while, chances are the guy also is a bit shy himself and is a bit uncomfortable about approaching you. Now, if its only been a few classes, then that might not be the case. But if this has been going on for a while, then there is probably something that is holding him back, with shyness probably being at the top of that list.

What does a note do? Yes, it could actually get the results that you are seeing, but you also are going to be moving the pressure of a face-to-face meeting to him. If he is already interested in you, that adds to existing pressure that he may already be feeling. Unfortunately... for shy people, this could make then even more uncomfortable and may actually get you the opposite of your intended result. By dropping a note, you are implicitly stating that you yourself are very shy and not entirely comfortable with approaching him. If he is the same way, a note from you is going to make him feel even worse than he already does. At that point, he will either decide to get over his own issues and come to you, let it slip and allow nothing to happen, or he may even resent you for putting pressure and him and seek to avoid you entirely.

As difficult as it may be for you, your best option seems to be talking to him directly. That is the most clear way that you will be able to get this going anywhere. Dropping a note might be "easier" or be considered "cute" by others, but depending upon what this guy is like, it might actually screw things up right there. If that was the case, you probably would not find out about that for quite some time, and so you would still be thinking about this long after this guy had made up his own mind.

If you want to make something of this potential relationship, the only sure-fire way that you can find out "yes" or "no" is by talking to him directly. It may feel uncomfortable (and believe me, as a fellow super-shy person I know this all too well), but that is the best way you can settle this stuff. Also, if it does turn out that he is interested and something comes out of this, then you get the added bonus of feeling better about yourself since you were the one who helped make it happen.

Hope that helps. :3

- Rei

 

[TheYellowCellPhone]

Get there early, bring two bowls of cherry gelatin, a bull whip, your math book, a box of bouncy balls, a caged rabbit, and sack of oranges.

Try to put them on top of each other, and when he asks what you're doing tell him you're doing that to see if he'll talk to you.

 

[Naheal]

Guys are dense. A note might be the subtlest idea that will actually work.

Not all of them.

As a guy, I can say that "dense" when it comes to relationships is pretty accurate. With some, that's being nice.

I'm not a guy, but I will give some advice regardless: I do not think a note is the best idea. I've always been one for going up and asking/saying it, that way it's done then and there, you can see the reaction on his face (versus letting him build and ponder you in his mind via some note) and likewise he can see your reactions too. To me, it's just the best way of going about these sorts of things. Honestly and upfront usually cancels out any shy middle mans too, which plague most people from asking others out from the get go.

Coffee works wonders, actually.

Edit: Hey! 5k posts!

 

[blankedboy]

Feel free to use this:

1. Write your phone number on a folded up piece of paper with "call me" written on it and maybe a smiley face.
2. After class or something follow him, tap him on the shoulder, and say "hey you dropped this!", then hand him your note
3. Leave before he can respond like the smooth criminal you are.
4. PROFIT

Its clever and inventive, gets his interest piqued, and has the benefit of not embarrassing you at all. Folding is a key element, it gives you time to ninja vanish.

That's legendary. My advice, do this