MrMixelPixel said:
Huh, I didn't realize the community felt so strongly about this. Interesting...
In the end, I don't think it matters. There's nothing wrong with it if it is a choice. There's nothing wrong with it if it isn't.
Edit: Like really strongly. Garsh. These feels.
It shouldn't matter if it's a choice. People should be free to choose their own relationships, so long as they are not harming anyone. You shouldn't, for example, be able to choose lock up (insert C-List celebrity here) and make him/her your love slave. Well, unless they're onboard with it.
The reality is that it does matter, because if it's a choice, it's societally okay to discriminate against that choice.
dementis said:
I prefer to think of sexuality in much more grey terms, I don't think people are either gay, straight or bi. I think everyone is a varying scale of bisexual.
For most of my youth I considered myself straight but my first and longest sexual relationship was with another man, yet I've never really considered any other male sexually attractive and all further relationships have been with women. My first partner is engaged to a woman now and he seems to share my views.
This sounds more like "I can't imagine anyone being different from me, so that must be normal."
Which is the same way a lot of the homophobes operate. Hell, that's the way Dan Savage trivialises bisexuals.
I don't understand monosexual behaviour any more than they tend to understand bisexual behaviour or the other form of monosexual behaviour (heterosexual for homosexuals and vice versa), but that doesn't mean it doesn't exist. There's mountains of evidence, and to pretend otherwise is to do exactly what the 'phobes do.
Phrozenflame500 said:
Edit: Also I would note that most people tend just to read the thread title, fly into a rage and then post stupidity that's covered in the OP. I recommend a more specific thread title coupled with a bold "This is not what I'm talking about" disclaimer in the OP.
A lot of the people in this thread specifically reference what he's talking about, including the notion that sexuality may not be a choice, but "acting on it" is.
Angie7F said:
I kinda think that it is wrong for people to deny that to some people it is in fact a choice.
I understand that to many people it is not a choice.
But because sexuality is not a clean cut gay/ straight issue, many people fall in between and because fo that some people do feel that it is a choice.
I guess since all people have a right to feel however they want to feel about this matter, you just cant force people to think in just one way
I really do wonder where people get this mythical notion that bisexuals and the like can control who they are attracted to. Like, gays and straights can't, but the bisexual is some mythic creature that can freely choose its interests.
Those are the people who fall in between, and they're just as susceptible to matters of the heart/hormones as gays and straights are.
I mean, yes. Anyone can choose, technically. I could choose to make out with George W Bush. Doesn't mean I find him at all appealing, doesn't mean I'd enjoy it, and doesn't mean I would feel good about it later. Gays "choose" to live closeted lives and get wives/husbands and bear children all the time. Doesn't mean they're bisexual, or that "teh gay" can be chosen, or that they're happy.
Left-handed people can also "choose" to be right-handed, and people with lactose intolerance can "choose" to drink milk.