societal conventions you hate

[Farseer Lolotea]

There's a difference between feminism and people just being nice to each other, you twat. Women are just asking to be treated fairly. I would expect a woman to hold a door for me just as much as a man.

Watch out; you'll get Godwinned.

That said: the stigma against going barefoot (my feet are tiny, oddly shaped, and all around hard to fit). Also, the G.I.F.T., the obsession with motor vehicles, and people who fail horribly at parenting and blame everyone else.

 

[TwistedEllipses]

Tucking in shirts. It only looks smart if you're overweight. I'm as skinny as hell and I end up looking scruffy round my waist...

...also, ties have no function!

 

[Griffolion]

Needing to keep quiet about being a bisexual and being an atheist in public. It's suicide to declare it in certain parts of the country, and you lose co-workers just for not being a homophobic Christian (or just not being a Christian). I'd rather like being able to share my personal views at the same time everyone else is sharing theirs, instead of biting my tongue and saying nothing while they slam my lifestyle and lack of belief.

Although that's been a non-issue for me since we moved, I still don't like that part of society.

I get more or less the opposite where I live. Bi-sexual, gay, lesbian or trans-gendered people are protected characteristics and thus individuals have every right to express that. So we get a very metropolitan society, maybe you should move here!

Also, being atheist is the only sure fire way to not be made fun of or judged where I live. The minute you say you're Christian (like I am) then you're judged to be a moral dinosaur who rapes children and hates gay people. It's very easy getting into an argument with individuals who do this sort of thing because they're really vicious people when it comes to this and you'll get your head torn off needlessly when you've actually done nothing wrong. After that, it's nigh on impossible for them to change their mind about you, regardless of the amount of love you show them.

Anyway, aside from that. I don't like the societal norm in my country that unless you're going out every weekend getting hammered, you're not 'cool' or whatever. I prefer more responsible things like the cinema, or hanging with friends, or even just a nice pub to chill out in.

 

[Zakarath]

also, people who use unnecessarily long words...

I, and all of my enumerated constituents heartily redact your infatuating proposal.

Forsooth! A problematic among our societal trends is the marginalization of encompassing vocabularies!

 

[Oly J]

also, people who use unnecessarily long words...

I, and all of my enumerated constituents heartily redact your infatuating proposal.

also JOHN LENNON WAS NOT THAT GREAT!

YES HE WAS! And he beat you in the human race!

OT: Men being confrontational and insecure about their masculinity/intelligence. Gets very frustrating dealing with some of my male friends who uphold this convention when they just got out of a heated debate(which they lost)...

the issue I had with John Lennon's status was that he wouldn't be thought half the man he evidently is if it wasn't for the fact that he got shot, this is just my opinion, I'm sure all the hype behind him wasn't for nothing but whatever legacy the man may have had has been tainted by the law of "he got killed we must worship him" that was my point

and also I completely agree with you on the insecurity I live in england where nobody accuses males that aren't so masculine of being gay, and hell nobody cares if they are, and yet there are still some really insecure people about masculinity, sexuality, and especially intelligence I once knew this guy who, if you told him the sky was blue, would argue the hell out of it just to look intelligent, and that's not an exaggeration that was actually the subject of an argument once

 

[herts]

That you have to be drunk/drinking or you're not having a good time...

 

[Mace Tulio]

I hate that there are places you aren't expected to wear a suit. Why can't I wear my suit on the beach? Why not suit it up at my cousin's toddler's birthday party? I want to wear my suit that suited for shopping for suits to go shopping for suits.

I love suits, I own multiple, and have many, many neckties (also several bow-ties). I suppose it's just kind of my thing.

 

[beema]

The 9-5 workday. I'm much more productive in the evening.

How men in the business world have to wear dress shirt/dress pants/tie, but women can basically wear whatever the fuck they want.

That most office jobs could very easily be done from a home office, since all they involve is using an email client and a website. But you are still required to commute in to an office to do them, thereby often sucking 2+ hours out of your day.

That everyone thinks they have the freedom to do whatever they want, even if it inconveniences others, BUT god help you if you want to criticize them for it or speak up about it. Because it's their "RIGHT" and how dare you infringe on it.

 

[Smooth Operator]

Well lets see if I can think of some:
- capitalism / greed
- demonized nudity
- religions / patriotism /... essentially all forms of perpetual ignorance
- people worth more dead then alive

 

[Leon Last Lord Shyle]

Anything that makes you identify with a social "tag" in a way that makes civilisation feel safe.

 

[Avaholic03]

Saying "bless you" when someone sneezes.

 

[Chemical Alia]

Women usually getting the cake and eating it.
The whole feministic approach to things, in which women are independant but on the other hand some women also require men to be chivalrous AT THE SAME TIME.

So, basically, assholes?

Also, restaurants putting tomato on food but not listing it in the description.

 

[Zakarath]

Saying "bless you" when someone sneezes.

This this this. I have hay fever, and it gets extremely tiresome when people say that to you every 5 minutes.

 

[DRSH1989]

Debt, taxes, the sole idea that i have to give money to someone else.

 

[ThisIsSnake]

Pants.

Going to funerals not dressed as the grim reaper.

Ties.

Handshaking (this means 'I am unarmed/not going to take arms against you'). Also at a job interview I may have given the middle aged man interviewing me what some might call a 'gangstafied' handshake by accident.

Suits, very few people look good in them (yes even you), they're uncomfortable (reducing how well I work) and in most situations make you feel like a twat.

Ties. They do nothing. The only time I've been complemented on wearing one was when it was the same bloody colour as my shirt.

Being polite to the stupid.

Being insulting to the intelligent.

The view that long hair on a male is a sign of being a 'long haired gay' or otherwise feminine.

People who criticise facial hair, beards are glorious just look at Brian Blessed.

EDIT: someone mentioned it and reminded me.

I have a severe fucking phobia of mayonaisse, I cannot eat food it has touched and looking at it gives me anxiety issues. So restaurants severely piss me off if they include mayonaisse or any other white sauce without clearly announcing it on the menu with a dish I've ordered, I find it deceptive, insulting and bad to my (and others) health if they assume I want it without asking. /rant

 

[Moonlight Butterfly]

Saying "bless you" when someone sneezes.

I mostly say it in case Loki is about and wants to shoot me. ;_;

I hate it when people say 'It's human nature' when someone does something completely selfish or depraved. Or if I complain about the state of the world and homeless children dying on the streets.

It's just the epitome of lazy that phrase. We are a society we decide our own rules and how we treat each other. I swear if advanced aliens show up I'm going to be severely embarassed.

 

[TheDooD]

I hate that we have to respect and trust older people just because their age. Not because of their actions.

I also hate when people ask me to do something that they could have done faster, if they took the time to look and or do it themselves.

 

[badgersprite]

The strangeness of having people you've never met come up close to you, hug you and possibly (since I'm a girl) kiss you on the cheek when you've been introduced at some kind of formal or family gathering.

It's called personal space. I have a bubble. Why can't we just settle on a handshake? I don't need cheek kissing.

 

[TheIronRuler]

Mates, you are not alone.
Let us stand together against the tyranny of the female race!

Awesome.. you can start by not expecting women to have sex with you, ever.

Let me have a little guess here..

1) You actually think women should be demure and 'feminine' and partly resent their independence.
2) On a relatively small number of occasions you did something you thought was 'chivalrous' but was actually quite patronizing, or maybe the spirit in which you did it was intended to be patronizing.
3) You got chewed out for it, and decided from this experience that all women wield massive social power which you don't have.
4) You started being outright rude and resentful towards women as a whole and got chewed out for that too.

Guess what, I'm surrounded by 50+ committed feminists every day. I've never been chewed out for my behaviour, not once. You know why that is, because I somehow manage to treat women like complex, individual human beings rather than some collective hive mind of unreasonable demands.

Here's a clue, you're not a knight in shining armour and I sincerely doubt you ever have treated a woman as an equal to an acceptable degree. That's what the problem is, not whether or not you held a door open.

I sense that debating such a topic is unhealthy for ones' reputation.
1- No. Every person has the same standing in my eyes the moment I see them - a stranger.
2-4: It's hard for me to know how a certain person would want to be treated. I used to think that all women should be treated equally, but recent events have shown me that some think themselves high and mighty, surpassing males becaue of their gender and nothing more.
I am not rude to women, I treat them the same way I treat others. The experience has taught me that one should be careful with words around members of other social groups you do not belong to.
Part of that post was sarcastic, the whole stand up to woman tyranny.

 

[Nickolai77]

1) I hate suits- They are uncomfortable and impractical. I can do work just as fine, if not better, wearing a shirt and some jeans. I shouldn't be judged any more or any less if i wear formal clothes or not.

2)Why is it that the male is expected to ask the female out and make the first move? Can't it be a bit more egalitarian and whomever's feeling braver can ask first? Also, why do guy's have to foot the bill for the first date? Why not go 50/50?