A upset seconded.FargoDog said:
It can be necessary to give a light spank on the hand in extreme cases, but usually talking will just do the trick.
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It can be necessary to give a light spank on the hand in extreme cases, but usually talking will just do the trick.
If no other means of punishment are working then moderate physical punishment may be needed. It should only work if the child is at a young age though, that way they'll not look for loopholes and will just associate bad behaviour with pain. But, I hope to be able to keep my child under control with words rather than spanking.
It should only ever be used as an extreme though, when the child is too bad to even talk to. When the 'crime' makes the kid deserve a spanking.
It should also be used in the bedroom occasionally but not as an extreme.
It should only ever be used as an extreme though, when the child is too bad to even talk to. When the 'crime' makes the kid deserve a spanking.
It should also be used in the bedroom occasionally but not as an extreme.
I never really got spanked as a kid but I think that was more because I never really needed it, I did however live in constant fear of the words 'i'm not angry, i'm just disappointed' that used to sting.
On topic: to be honest as long as it's controlled and it's not used as a replacement for actual teaching and parenting then I don't see the problem
On topic: to be honest as long as it's controlled and it's not used as a replacement for actual teaching and parenting then I don't see the problem
you don't have to hit a child properly for them to realise they are wrong. A light smack would do no damage physically. I wouldnt advise hitting on the back of the hand as it can damage veins. My sister smacks her wee on the leg when she is bad. It's never hard tho so it's ok. :s
It's a controversial issue.
It's a controversial issue.
tap on the hand of the bottom seems like a good way to punish a child if they misbehave. diagnosing them with ADHD or autism isnt...
Oh good, I wasn't the only one.FargoDog said:
OT: I don't think I'll ever hit my child (if I have one) but I don't get people who complain about children being spanked. Until you raised your child perfectly, you should just shut up. So yeah, feel free to give your child a small smack, only don't go overboard.
spare the rod, spoil the child... presenting negative consequences are an inherant and extremely useful part of conditioning and raising a child... and it just so happens that smacking them is one of the most effective methods... talking through the problem isn't necessarily useful if they can't linguistically understand either the inherant meaning of long term consequences... pain is a universal sign, and so incredibly useful for teaching... smacking leaves no permanent physical marks, etc, etc...
of course, the key is in moderation... undersmacking and they don't learn... oversmacking and they're ruined for life
of course, the key is in moderation... undersmacking and they don't learn... oversmacking and they're ruined for life
But you aren't smacking with the intention of necessarily causing pain and pain alone, you are giving a tiny shot of pain (with no long lasting side effects) in order to get and hold attention when a child refuses to even so much as look at you. I don't condone in the slightest beating a child for everything. Don't touch that! Beat. Don't look at me! Beat. Don't eat that! Beat. You'll find in most circumstances you won't ever have to lay a finger on your child and some children will never need to experience a tap to thier bottom because they are just easy to raise.
But on the occasion, you get those children who don't understand the concept of behaviour. To be honest, like someone here said, the smacks on the bottom I recieved were nothing, how about military type parents who treat their children like soldiers. It goes to show that you can still traumatize a child even without touching them, I believe that most children are not so much traumatized by beatings as they are not feeling loved by thier parents or experiencing some form of neglect.
But on the occasion, you get those children who don't understand the concept of behaviour. To be honest, like someone here said, the smacks on the bottom I recieved were nothing, how about military type parents who treat their children like soldiers. It goes to show that you can still traumatize a child even without touching them, I believe that most children are not so much traumatized by beatings as they are not feeling loved by thier parents or experiencing some form of neglect.
I don't have children, but if/when I do I don't plan on spanking them. Especially in the modern age of internet, video games, and television, it seems like there are a lot of privileges that you can take away from a child to keep them in line. When I misbehaved my parents wouldn't even send me to my room. They would tell me off and then tell me no television or computer for two days. I learned my lesson.
On the other hand, I don't think that spanking is something terrible that should be banned. As long as it doesn't hurt the child, I think it's just a matter of parenting style. And some kids are definitely harder to deal with than others.
On the other hand, I don't think that spanking is something terrible that should be banned. As long as it doesn't hurt the child, I think it's just a matter of parenting style. And some kids are definitely harder to deal with than others.
Lol, I suppose the perfect way to discipline a daughter would be to take away her mobile, that alone could be considered more of child abuse than spanking, considering the psychological trauma she would go through not being able to talk to her friends for hours at end. lolJerious1154 said:
I say why not spank them, just dont go crazy brutal sitkicking on them. And I was spanked as a child, why should I let this eneration get off easy?
Also, my E,G, and H keys on my keyboard are not working, pissing me off.
Also, my E,G, and H keys on my keyboard are not working, pissing me off.
I got the switch when I was younger and I turned out fine. Just don't go beating the shit out of them. But I'll admit I'd rather give em' a warning first.
I was only spanked once as a child and one of my mother's friends talkd her that she was being a bad mother by not spanking me. Currently I am at the top of my class at a private school and on the 2nd line on my hockey team. This friend of my mother's friends kids are drug addicts and criminals.
I think if smacking a kid should ever be used it should be thought through to see if it would make an effective punishment for the situation, as opposed to smacking them out of temper.
I was spanked as a kid, nothing abusive about what happened but it leads to many thing.
First off when kids see parents respond with violence (even if it is not permanent damage) it lets the kids believe it is a acceptable response to adversity
Another point, past a very young age spanking is ineffective which means you either spank more or harder, both of them lead to a slippery slope.
Also, As I grew up I believed it was better to not tell my parents anything cause even if they helped I would get in trouble. So i relied on my friends advice for problems, my friends help, and my parents just wondered why there input mattered less and less.
Even more so, when spanked children feel oppressed, they are slower to build trust, they feel like they have no control over their home life sometimes and often grow to resent the oppressors.
There are just a few things that happen to a child with spanking hardly conclusive or free from outside influence.
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Oh and one last thing, I know Christians (I am one) Tend to be big on the spanking thing. that whole "spare the rod, Spoil the child." thing
Proverbs 13:24 NIV "Whoever spares the rod hates their children,
but the one who loves their children is careful to discipline them. "
this verse makes two statements not one. First it says to not discipline is bad, and to be careful how you do punish a child.
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First off when kids see parents respond with violence (even if it is not permanent damage) it lets the kids believe it is a acceptable response to adversity
Another point, past a very young age spanking is ineffective which means you either spank more or harder, both of them lead to a slippery slope.
Also, As I grew up I believed it was better to not tell my parents anything cause even if they helped I would get in trouble. So i relied on my friends advice for problems, my friends help, and my parents just wondered why there input mattered less and less.
Even more so, when spanked children feel oppressed, they are slower to build trust, they feel like they have no control over their home life sometimes and often grow to resent the oppressors.
There are just a few things that happen to a child with spanking hardly conclusive or free from outside influence.
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Oh and one last thing, I know Christians (I am one) Tend to be big on the spanking thing. that whole "spare the rod, Spoil the child." thing
Proverbs 13:24 NIV "Whoever spares the rod hates their children,
but the one who loves their children is careful to discipline them. "
this verse makes two statements not one. First it says to not discipline is bad, and to be careful how you do punish a child.
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Should clarify, I don't think it should be banned, it has a time and place, for limited uses, I do not think that any parent should use this as a "Standard punishment" also the focus should never be pain, getting switches, sticks, or whatever crosses a line.Triarii said:
Well, it sure taught me not to headbutt people when I was mad at them.pulse2 said:Oh dear, don't get me started on that, the day my dad ripped up my favourite playstation mags, I went completely insane, I screamed all night and turned my room into a bomb, I even ripped up all my school work books in a revenge attack, lmao. Lets just say that did me no favours.Death God said:
