Strange insecurities

[Flutterguy]

Just somewhere to tell anonymous online strangers of an insecurity you have that when thought about, makes no sense at all.

I cannot call men brunette. The term is technically ambiguous but I just can't bring myself to refer to myself or any man or boy as a brunette, the word just sounds too damn feminine!

I cannot grow my beard past 1/2 an inch. When i do the coloration goes from brown to red. The idea of my hair changing color just plain pisses me off. I have never mentioned it to anyone before. Keeping it bottled up inside all these years has become to much a burden to burd!

OT: The realization my offspring have good potential to be ginger is just jawesome.

 

[JoJo]

It's not an insecurity for me but funnily enough my hair colouration is similar to yours, otherwise dark brown / black all over except for my beard which has a minority of red hairs if you look closely... I don't think mine is really noticeable though. I assume it has something to do with Celtic British heritage, in which both dark and red hair colourations are common.

As for actual strange insecurities... I don't like strangers or people I don't know well getting physically too close to me and I especially don't like them touching me, I know most people probably feel this to an extent but I dislike it to the point where it's irrational. Luckily not a problem if it's someone I know and trust, however.

 

[JoshGod]

Most men have some kind of insecurities about their genitals, whether it be length, girth or the surrounding hair. Those of us who are severally overweight have it even worse due to all the fat, and unfortunately the groin area is the last place it comes of and as someone who has lost most of his weight, I still have a fair amount more there than I would like.

Not sure if this would qualify as strange though.

 

[Someone Depressing]

I used to go to school in normal clothes.

I have always been scared that 'd wake up ginger one day.

I've also got a pretty bad insecurity about telling people about myself. nfact, I loathe it. even a "how are you" elicits panic, because in reality, I'm a cynical snide bastard unlike my internet persona - the two of which I try to keep seperate - and I simply have no idea what to say.

 

[Redlin5_v1legacy]

I'm very insecure about telling people my first name over the internet. I was given a very unique first name and I know its an incredibly easy way to track me down IRL. I just prefer to keep a wall between my life and the internet as much as possible when it comes to identity. Ask Marter, it took him 4 years to get the name out of me and I only told him when we met face to face!

As for real life, well, I like the name. People just always say it wrong or spell it wrong the first time. >_>

 

[EeveeElectro]

The one I get the most puzzled looks with is the fact that I simply can't have my back, shoulders or upper arms showing. I have to wear a cardigan or a long/mid sleeved shirt. I hate my back so much I actually want surgery because I think I look like a hunchback and I feel awful when I catch myself in a mirror.
I'm paranoid about back fat and fat arms, so it's not often I'm without something covering that area.
It's really shitty... I can't buy a lot of clothes and strapless or spaghetti straps are a no-no.

People always look confused when I tell them this and insist I'm fine but it's ingrained into my head that I look like Quasimodo. ;;

 

[Eamar]

I cannot stand people being behind me when I'm on a computer. Even though I'm usually doing something completely mundane and whoever's behind me isn't even looking at my screen and has no intention of doing so, I honestly feel like they're watching me watch porn or something.

If they don't move on within a couple of seconds I can actually snap at them, or close my laptop. Which obviously makes me look like I'm up to something.

I have no idea why.

 

[Tom_green_day]

I'm always scared I've got a roll of toilet paper stuck in my trousers and trailing behind me. No fucking clue why.

 

[FalloutJack]

Sorry, had to for the analogy.

I feel I've gotta do some things, go and do something fun, myself...or it was never MY thing.

 

[krazykidd]

My legs. There are nothing wrong with my legs. But you will never see me in shorts. Ever. Periode. I don't even own a pair.

My testicle. Yes you read that right, no "s".Though this one isn't strange. When i was 13 i lost a testicle. Basically my left nut, twisted on itself, and "died". So i had to have it removed. It made me self conscious as a teen and my self esteem plumetted. Then i hit 18 , lost my virginity and realised women don't care.

 

[Eamar]

I had a friend who is a very attractive woman. She has a slender build, an endearing smile, and is pretty much amazing to look at in every way. She insisted she was unattractive because when she stood up with her legs straight, there was no visual gap between the very tops of her upper thighs. She wasn't even overweight - she had slender legs even. Just the way her parts lined up there was no visible gap. Because she had a female friend who had such a gap, she insisted her appearance was ruined.

Urgh, the dreaded thigh gap... Sadly, your friend is far from alone >.< Apparently it's a thing women are supposed to aspire to because models or some shit. Seriously, I've seen whole tumblrs dedicated to it. I'm glad I have enough awareness of my own body shape (I'm slim, but my thighs are chunky as hell.) to realise that my body is never going to look like that, but my sister obsesses over the idea in a similar way to your friend. So sad.

Ironically, my mum actually does have a thigh gap, and she's always felt really insecure about it. Grass, greener, etc

 

[Snowbell]

People always look confused when I tell them this and insist I'm fine but it's ingrained into my head that I look like Quasimodo. ;;

I know that feel, I've got body dismorphia, so although I can objectively tell you that I am a size 8 with a nice rack, a somewhat plain face but good bone structure I will then continue to tell you how physically repulsive I am

It's so automatic to call myself a whale or use myself as the butt of an ugly joke, and I get told off a lot for it u_u Thankfully, I'm now aware of the problem and although I still see myself as grossly overweight and unattractive I have stopped trying to lose weight in an attempt to rectify said presumed problem.

Captcha: 'ding a ling' Why thank you, Captcha!

 

[Akytalusia]

i don't like it when anyone acknowledges me in any way. i don't like people looking at me, or talking to me, or talking about me. i especially can't stand hearing my own name. it infuriates me, and anyone who says it immediately takes severe damage to my disposition toward them. this is why the internet is so great for me. no one has to see me, or know my name, and anonymous people like me are generally ignored for the most part.

 

[lunavixen]

I don't like being physically touched, especially by people I don't know and trust, made working in retail absolute hell. I also really hate giving out my real name on the internet, I think facebok is the only public thing I have that uses my real name, and even then I have it so that people can't find me easily.

 

[-Dragmire-]

It's not really far enough to be a phobia or something like that but I really don't care for large open indoor areas when I'm the only one there, it makes me uncomfortable in a nondescript way.

 

[TallanKhan]

I have a strange insecurity about my appearance. I can't say there is any part of my appearance that i particularly take issue with, it isn't as if one of my facial features is noticeably disproportionate for example. And i don't feel that other people view me as unattractive either, but when i look in the mirror there is just something i don't like very much and it bugs the hell out of me.

Also i constantly worry about loosing my hair. I have no reason to believe this is something that will happen imminently, i don't wake up with hair on my pillow and my hairline isn't receding, but sometimes i will lay awake for hours just worrying about becoming bald :s

 

[JLML]

I was given a very unique first name

Now I want to know it, just to see how unique it is! Semi-related story, had a classmate who was the only person in Sweden (and most likely one of very few in the world) with that first name. Still, was an awesome name. Also, I guess I'm quite the opposite of you, then, seeing as how I generally use my full name on the internet (and I doubt there's anyone else in the world with that combination of names), and always use my initials as my username/tag/whatnot.

OT: Interacting with people in a different way than usual. Answering questions. Cameras. Lots of stuff. But mostly those three. Like, some of the people I socialise the most with, I only socialise with in one (or a couple of) way(s), like text/skype/real life interactions. Suddenly doing stuff differently (go from text to skype or the other way around) usually takes me out of my comfort zone. And as far as questions go, I either answer them with a question, or answer vaguely as hell. And over the last 5 years or so, there have been 4 pictures of me taken in which I look remotely normal. As in, not attempting to avoid the camera and/or doing something seriously weird. Funny, 'cause I'm perfectly ok with people seeing the pictures (even the ridiculous ones) and having video conversations. It's just the taking of pictures. <.<

 

[chattycathy]

I suppose everyone is insecure about their looks in some way or the other so I'm not sure if this counts as a secret insecurity. When I was younger, I was ashamed of being different because I grew up with social workers and so we were always mindful of how we spent our money. If there was a shirt we had, we'd wear it till it was worn out. Some shirts, jeans etc have lasted years and years and years. Nowadays though, that makes me some sort of minimalist hero. Indie is the word people use. Strange how that works.