Swallowing your pride

[CIA]

That is actually quite helpful. I just made some sort of major mistake, so its good to know its probably not nearly as bad as I think it is.

Or alternatively I'm looking for meaning in the wrong places.

It's like walking out with say, fly unzipped. You may think that everyone's watching you but the truth is they're too self-immersed to noticed anyway, just as you wouldn't really notice if they had a similar situation.

I suppose all one can do is try not to be an idiot. It's not easy, to be sure.

I have been doing various tests of that nature, actually. I try loudly talking about bestiality and various other horrible things in public places. It is surprising and a little sad how few people notice.

 

[Zemalac]

I tend to turn major apologies about my behavior into something of a joke, though I usually don't take things seriously enough in the first place to have to offer an apology. I laugh and make fun of myself.

In arguments I just admit that I was wrong and move on. I lost the debate--end of story. It's not hard to admit that I'm wrong when it comes to debates. It's when it comes to emotions and stuff that things get tricky.

 

[Legion]

I have had two or three moments on The Escapist where I have admitted to being wrong and apologised or have agreed to disagree (even though I am convinced I'm right) just to stop the debate getting too heated or because I really can't be bothered to argue any more (after all, we put up with enough shit in real life to put up with more when we are trying to enjoy ourselves).

It may not seem that many times but considering it's online and on this site in particular I'd say it's a significant amount, after all, how often have you seen someone apologise in a sincere manner?

 

[Jedamethis]

I never swallow my pride fully, just cover it up. Nobody's noticed yet

 

[Kasawd]

I admit the error on my part and go on my way. When people prove me incorrect(Rarely), I'm good enough on my word to admit it.

 

[Woodsey]

Nah, f*ck that.

If it's a simple mistake (I misread the date for something for instance) then who gives a shit. Big points though I will not give up on.

What's the fun in laying down like a ***** every time someone says or proves you're wrong? xD

 

[Starnerf]

I try to keep my mouth shut when in a conversation about topics I don't fully understand. Which is most of them. I think it's better to not make the mistake in the first place, but since I don't go to the trouble of educating myself about the topic beforehand, my input would probably be erroneous in some manner. I prefer to avoid that situation.

 

[CrysisMcGee]

It's not swallowing pride admitting when you made a mistake. It is however if you did something in poor judgement.

 

[historybuff]

I hate being wrong.

But I will try and get over it and swallow my pride if I am.

 

[Jedoro]

Yesterday I made the mistake of saying someone who turns 19 this month is almost a year older than me, when I turn 19 next month. I acknowledged the mistake, apologized, and we all moved on. It really isn't hard to admit you fucked up.

 

[More Fun To Compute]

I'm very rarely wrong about anything so when I am I enjoy the novelty of telling people they were right.

 

[similar.squirrel]

I've almost managed to kill my pride, so I just assume I'm wrong most of the time.

 

[k-ossuburb]

More often than not it depends what mood I'm in and is also situation based. There's some things you don't have to feel sorry for, like stating your personal opinion for instance, if it offends someone then that's their problem I shouldn't have to apologize for it. I will concede defeat if it's an honest mistake or I'm being ignorant about a subject.

I mostly try to avoid and argument in every day life because I'm mostly too lazy to keep one going and would rather admit defeat (even if I'm right) than have to go back-and-forth for hours because there's just better things I could be doing with my time. When emotions come into it it's mostly the other person who starts it, I try to remain composed and coherent in my rebuttals but I will admit to the occasional ad homonym if it gets heated enough.

Most of the time I'll enter into an argument if someone is being a jerk about it and using their own point-of-view to bully someone into dropping their beliefs (like on religion, who their favourite band is etc.) if they're just picking on someone then it's a lot healthier to just sort it out quickly and let the jerk know that he/she should just drop it and let the other person be themselves.

 

[Captain Pancake]

I always apologise to the people that matter. If i'm in the wrong, but the guy's a berk, I'll burn up like Icarus before admitting fault.

 

[Uncompetative]

This post [http://www.escapistmagazine.com/forums/read/18.147504?page=4#3400558] set me to thinking. You see, this is a big issue for me, and I think that whether we think much about it or not, it's a big issue for all of us. When you made a mistake, or acted like a doorknob, or just in some way made a fool of yourself, have you had the courage to swallow your pride and man (or woman) up to the person in question? If not, why not? How do you usually do it? Have you learned any lasting lesson from the process?
My opinion on the issue is that this is if not the test of character then certainly in the top three. Everyone makes mistakes. With that as a given, the only thing separating you from me is whether we can accept that and make amends. Proceeding from this principle, I find apologies one of the hardest but most rewarding things to do in life. Apologising is admitting to a vice, but at the same time revealing a virtue.

I welcome failure, for that way knowledge lies. I don't apologise, because I am never rude.

When people are rude to me they just show that they are losing the argument.

Nothing is worth losing my temper over, I feel deranged.

A heated discussion/argument is fun, but exhausting.

For an example, read on from this interjection: http://www.escapistmagazine.com/forums/read/9.85390?page=4#1262193

 

[Archemetis]

Me and an ex-girlfriend had been toying with the idea of sleeping together casually a while back but it all went to shit and we became bitter torwards eachother and more often than not were at eachother's throats, it was mostly, I acted like I couldn't stand the way she lives her life, not a care in the world, most shit done for her and is more than willing to toy with people's feelings because, what the hell, they're not hers, right?

So I was constantly yelling at her and telling her to get a clue, it got very irritating for the both of us, until I finally faced up to the fact that, regardless of how much a horrible way to live life, it was easy for her and she had no problems because of it, and I envied her.

Ever since I admitted that, we've been closer than ever and we can actually stand to talk to one another.

[EDIT]: That, however is just one of many things I've faced up to, normally whenever I've done something wrong or things have gone to shit, I just admit that maybe mistakes have to be made.
I'd hate to think of the more sheltered alternative.

 

[Casual Shinji]

I apologized to Brutal Legend for thinking it was a stupid overrated game.

 

[TheMatt]

I say using the word ubiquitous or any synonym for omnipresence is elitism.

 

[Woodsey]

Nah, f*ck that.

If it's a simple mistake (I misread the date for something for instance) then who gives a shit. Big points though I will not give up on.

What's the fun in laying down like a ***** every time someone says or proves you're wrong? xD

it shows that your mature enough and intelligent enough to see your own flaws to admit you were wrong. also no one is ever going to want to hang around someone so arrogant or at least i wouldn't. it would just be annoying.

I'd call it stubbornness, not arrogance. Sort of.

Besides, pride is a fragile commodity. Swallow it too much and you'll never know how many chances you get to shit it out whole again.

 

[happysock]

Yeah I swallow my pride from time to time unless I generally hate the person then I will argue the case even if it wrong, I do it to a guy in my college all the time who is an arrogant twat