Sweden Moves Towards Gender Neutrality [Support Thread]

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According to my English Teacher, if you refer to someone as "one", then you can't use "their" as a way to show possesion (i.e If one was to eat their pie...), you're supposed to use "his or her" (i.e If one was to eat his or her pie...). This is what leads to the clunkiness of using one all the time, and that it would be self defeating as a gender neutral pronoun. And is Hen supposed to be the Swedish equivalent of "It"? "It" really isn't a gender neutral word, more like an anti-gender word.
 

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IamQ said:
Casual Shinji said:
Gender neutral words and toys!? Wha-... why?

When did it happen that being called 'he' or 'she' is suddenly not done?

Looks like worldpeace can only be achieved by forcing everyone to be the same. No distinction, no flavor, just a saltless grey society.
Being a Swede, my take on the word is that it's purpose is more to be used when the gender isn't assigned yet. Like if you have a suspect, but no identity, or if you're just talking about people in general.
In that case couldn't we just use the discription we've always been using, like "the suspect", "the doctor", "the teacher"? I'm still not seeing the point to a gender neutral discription, other than people being offended that you didn't refer to them as gender neutral.
 

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One day, I'm going to find a way to address a controversial topic in a way that does not sire a flame war. There must be some way I can phrase it.
I think it's a noble effort, but doomed to failure.

Personal anecdote time, my primary school actually banned trading cards because they were the source of an incredibly amount of fighting, disputing and a whole array of problems. Rather than consuming manpower and resources dealing with all that individually, the school just banned them. It's possible that's what happened here.
Mine did the same. Some kids kept getting their cards stolen etc. Always ended badly. Damn you Pokemon.

The article seems to indicate the motivation for removing the toys was more in line with trying to coerce the play into an ungendered activity, when those kids already had a gender identity (Which may have been informed by gender roles). I'm not so much in favour of attempting more manipulation on top of the social conditioning unless there's a really convincing reason, and I find "Enjoys playing with trucks" a little unsubstantial. I personally think that trying to solve the problem by removing the distinctions in advance is more favourable (Of course, it's not an either or scenario, and it depends on how aware the kids are that the toys are being removed. If the kids are aware of it and the reasoning, it's probably going to annoy them. If they aren't, I don't really care). Taking the trucks away from the boys isn't so good as to mix the trucks, spiderman and prams to remove the demarcation.
 

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That's not what Fascist means. Authoritarian might be a better word. But again, that's not part of the proposal.
I looked into the term just now and apparently it's still up in the air what fascism really means. I referred to it as that because under my impression fascist meant government imposed and enforced moral values. It may or may not be right. Regardless, I wasn't referring directly to the proposal, but the stigma that appears to surround it. Honestly though, if this was a lapse purely involving the language, you'd think someone would have brought this up sooner.
Authoritarian might be closer to what you meant. Fascist has a specific meaning with respect to a combination of Nationalism and Authoritarianism, and is a system of government. Italy during the second World War was fascist. Nazi Germany was fascist. This, is not. I'd disagree with the characterisation of authoritarian, since they're not actually doing anything apart from trying to introduce a word, but I think we can leave this one here.

I'd like you to prove that. I used gender role to refer to the stereotypes surrounding genders which are a part of society that impact on personal gender identity. So the words appear in close proximity, because the way a person identifies and expresses their gender is related to the roles that society expects of their sex. My point was that to call it sexist is flat out wrong.

The gender-deconstruction position didn't say anything about the sexes needing to be eliminated, or focussing on sex, but rather on the social construct of gender. Hence, you've conflated the two, in an attempt to label the opposition as sexist, which is hardly a classy move. If you can detail how people trying to eliminate the idea of gender are discriminating on the basis of sexual biology, I'll consider it. You play a similar rhetorical game when I address this and attempt to call me out for conflation. Even if you had a point, and I don't think you do, as it stands, you'd still have to address the fallacy in your argument. Tu Quoue.
You ask me to prove my definition of a debateable sociological term?

No. I did not. That's entirely what I did not ask for. I said, and I quote myself now: "If you can detail how people trying to eliminate the idea of gender are discriminating on the basis of sexual biology, I'll consider it."

So: If you want to call them sexist, show how they discriminate based on sex. That's what I want. And sex isn't a debateable sociological term, it's a biological one. Gender is a debateable term, but I'm not calling you on that. I ask, again, how is it sexist? They're against the concept of gender, not against a specific sex.

The aforementioned article the stepped into femanazi territory may have biased my perception too much though. My reasoning comes from the gender deconstruction argument coming from a perceived (but debately present) form of discrimination (against women, but that is again in that specific article).
Fair enough. Although I'd avoid using the term "feminazi". It tends to spark issues, and it's never used in a constructive way.
Calling it sexist was wrong on my part, it involved a lack of understanding of the concept.
Which was pretty much all I meant before, as I mentioned above. I don't really care for whether you're pro-gender deconstruction or anti, I just wouldn't call either side sexist, particularly not for the reasoning that was outlined. Thanks.
My view of the gender deconstruction platform remains the same, though. I don't see this gender constraint that seems to be a problem. It occurs to me that anyone can do anything they want. I honestly don't think gender roles still exist, regardless of the movement. As I said before gender roles as they seem to be described (Women wear dresses, as exampled in this very thread) is lost on me because I grew up with parents who didn't conform to them. I don't see the platform as sexist now, I just see it as vehemently unneccesary.
Fair enough.
Also it's spelled Tu Quoque, but that's unrelated.
Whoops. My spelling is bad enough in English, let alone latin.
If there's already a non-gender specific singular, it's redundant, and someone more familiar with Swedish would be the best to assess that.

And yes, the mire around it is a bit ridiculous. But that's not to do with the word or the policy.
Actually it appears to have a lot to do with the policy. At least if these comments are to be believed. To restate my first point, if this was a problem purely with the language someone would have brought in up long before now right?[/quote]

Not necessarily, things get overlooked. For instance, there's no second person way of addressing a group with a single word. I could say "Hey youse" or "Hey you guys", the first being not a word, the second not being the single word that would complete the syntax.

I think that the problem is that the policy may be fine, but people react to it in extreme ways, which results in the sillyness.

Also, I apologize if any of my arguements are repeats. I'm on zero hours of sleep and I'm now going to bed.
Haha, I did the same thing.

For my last note (today at least) the CoC does not dismiss anyones opinion or exclude people with a certain view point. The intro to this page did not ask them to stay on topic, it asked them to only participate if they held the same viewpoint as the OP. If you tell people they shouldn't do something, and there is not a single consequence for doing said thing then you can bet people are going to do it.
Sure. But my point in that comparison was that saying not to do something is not an invitation to do it. People may choose to take it as one, but they're deliberately making their own interpretation.
Especially when it involves surpressing opinions.
My problem is, they didn't really suppress them though. If people wanted, they could make their own thread for it. They just weren't interested in that discussion in this thread.
If the OP's original request was heeded, this thread would probably be dead by now. But everyone loves to ***** at each other. You and I, we're perfect; Quod erat demonstrandum. You never avoid flame wars by participating hahaha.
Goodnight :D
I dunno, we've kept it fairly civil. I think we've done pretty well.
 

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I would like to thank OhJohnNo for bringing this up to my attention. You deserve all the credit.

I have selected an array of websites that tell the same story from different angles, and focusing on different issues. You may peruse these at your leisure:

From Slate [http://www.slate.com/articles/double_x/doublex/2012/04/hen_sweden_s_new_gender_neutral_pronoun_causes_controversy_.html]. From Care2 [http://www.care2.com/causes/sweden-adopts-a-gender-neutral-pronoun.html]. From The Economist [http://www.economist.com/blogs/johnson/2012/04/gender].

The highlights reel, for those without the time or inclination to read the full articles:

  • * Sweden has incorporated a pronoun ("hen"), which is intended to be gender-neutral (as opposed to "han" and "hon", which are the feminine and masculine pronouns).
    * Sweden does not intend to eliminate masculine and feminine pronouns from use, but to incorporate the gender-neutral pronouns as an alternative when gender is irrelevant (as is in almost every facet of life).
    * Other advances towards gender neutrality include a reformation of pedagogy, the education system, children toys and children books.
So wait... currently Sweden didn't have any words like "they", "them", or "that person"? Odd, but as an English speaker I guess I support them making their language convenient for people to communicate with one another.

Darken12 said:
This is a cause for celebration for those of us who seek the systematic destruction and deconstruction of gender in society, and these news fill my heart with much-needed hope and joy.
.....what? So the creation of these words wasn't to make modern conversations in Sweden more convenient for people to communicate for one another but for some "social justice" ideal of how things should be instead of how they really are? Smh

Darken12 said:
It is my sincerest hope that this ushers a new wave of change and progress in the world.
And I hope that languages and culture are not bastardized to conform to some misguided Western left wing ideals because people in the West are "offended" by a non-Occident culture/people exercising their right to have their own beliefs.

Darken12 said:
Since I know how these types of threads go and I don't want to see it locked because people can't tolerate divergent opinions, I have one thing to politely request of everyone:

[HEADING=3]If you vehemently disagree with gender deconstructivism and its goals and you cannot phrase your disagreement politely, neutrally or within the board rules, please hit the back button or close the tab. You are completely free to start your own thread on the matter to bemoan these terrible news.[/HEADING]

[HEADING=2]This thread is intended by me as a positive take on the matter. It is not intended to condemn or derogate these practices, but to show my support. This is a positive thread. Please keep counter opinions or disagreements in polite and measured tones. Thank you.[/HEADING]
You know what I find amusing about this "request"? That in the begininng you state...

"I don't want to see it locked because people can't tolerate divergent opinions"

...only to conclude by declaring that...

"[t]his thread is intended by me as a positive take on the matter. It is not intended to condemn or derogate these practices, but to show my support"

...which seems quite hypocritical on your part to say that the rest of us can't "tolerate divergent opinions" while at the same time demanding that only certain opinions are permitted to be posted on this thread.
 

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Wont Swedish children just find something else to stereotype themselves into? "Swag" is gender neutral isn't it? Don't quite understand this.
 

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Loonyyy said:
Darken12 said:
One day, I'm going to find a way to address a controversial topic in a way that does not sire a flame war. There must be some way I can phrase it.
I think it's a noble effort, but doomed to failure.
I am beginning to think the same.

Helmholtz Watson said:
...which seems quite hypocritical on your part to say that the rest of us can't "tolerate divergent opinions" while at the same time demanding that only certain opinions are permitted to be posted on this thread.
You are free to post divergent opinions, provided you do so in a polite and non-inflammatory manner, as per the board rules.

This is actually spelled as clearly as I possible can in the post you quoted, so I honestly cannot imagine how I can make it any clearer.
 

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You are free to post divergent opinions, provided you do so in a polite and non-inflammatory manner, as per the board rules.

This is actually spelled as clearly as I possible can in the post you quoted, so I honestly cannot imagine how I can make it any clearer.
So in other words, you just wanted to remind all of us that this forum has rules to follow? Ok....

To reiterate what I said before though, I oppose the idea that left-wing people in Western Europe should get to pressure other cultures into conforming to what Western Europe thinks is the "proper" form of grammar for the hundreds of languages that are spoken around the world. It's cultural imperialism by another name.
 

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Helmholtz Watson said:
So in other words, you just wanted to remind all of us that this forum has rules to follow? Ok....
Given how previous topics such as this one have devolved into flame wars and required moderator lockdown, apparently the community needs to be reminded of the board rules in bright blue text. I wouldn't go through all this trouble if it wasn't necessary.

Helmholtz Watson said:
To reiterate what I said before though, I oppose the idea that left-wing people in Western Europe should get to pressure other cultures into conforming to what Western Europe thinks is the "proper" form of grammar for the hundreds of languages that are spoken around the world. It's cultural imperialism by another name.
How...? Where...? How did you derive that conclusion? Where are you getting that information from? Sweden has done something that affects only its country and that other countries are free to imitate if they agree with it (which I hope they do). No idea where you're getting that they're forcing other cultures into conforming.
 

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But where does this leave a boy who wants to play with boy toys and has no interest in girl's/gender neutral toys? From what i've seen this tends to make kids want what they want even more. Kid's tend to be reactionary. However they are not without preferences. If children choose to value boy toys over female/gender neutral toys, then it doesn't seem that there is any reason to not allow the girls to play with them as well if they choose rather than limiting the toys that a boy can choose to play with. This would also negatively affect the ability of girls to also choose to play with whatever toy they wish.

I know my gf would definitely have taken issue with that. She used to prefer boy toys(i can't seem to make that come out right). She is the greatest example of a woman i know. It didn't make her into something else or cause any developmental problems. I despised girl toys and found most gender neutral toys to be bland. They just weren't interesting (except for maybe those ovens). I was all about transformers and other toy robots. Oh and video games. Well still with the video games. Spent most of today in another closed beta for an upcoming game. Yeah... toys.

My parents tried to keep me away from video games. They actually banned me from ever being in anyone's house if they knew that there was a video game system there. And they always would check. They would beat me for being in a place with an arcade. It never stopped me. And this was back in the NES days. I got beaten a lot over this. And not soft beatings like parents are afraid to give their kids now. I'm talking wooden paddles with holes in them. Being beaten in the shower with a wet leather belt. Being whipped with the buckle side of the belt. And not just a couple hits. On average about 10-20 hits at a time. Didn't deter me in the slightest. How far are these social engineers in sweden willing to go? This won't change anything.
I agree with you that it won't change kids' preferences. And I'd said I didn't think removing the toys was the best way to deal with the problem. But the problem is that boys have very little social freedom to interact with "girl" things, while girls do have some degree of social freedom to interact with "boy" things.

So I don't think saying "Fuck your cars, play with dolls" is going to fix anything, and indeed likely would make things worse. (I can imagine even in this preschool, there's enormous social pressure for boys to publicly denigrate the "girl" toys if that's all they're allowed access to.) But it's not about forcing boys to like "girl" things or prevent girls who like "boy" things from playing with them. It's about giving access to "girl" things for boys who do like them and creating a safe space for boys to play with them to play with them without fear of parental disapproval or ostracization by/from peer groups. Again, I don't think it's the right course of action and I don't think it will be effective in achieving its goals, but I do think something else should be done to try and improve the situation.

Landshark1 said:
According to my English Teacher, if you refer to someone as "one", then you can't use "their" as a way to show possesion (i.e If one was to eat their pie...), you're supposed to use "his or her" (i.e If one was to eat his or her pie...). This is what leads to the clunkiness of using one all the time, and that it would be self defeating as a gender neutral pronoun. And is Hen supposed to be the Swedish equivalent of "It"? "It" really isn't a gender neutral word, more like an anti-gender word.
"One's" is a perfectly valid possessive in most contexts. It just lacks a strong form. ("Her chair is hers." "One's chair is one's.") The first "one's" is technically valid. The second "one's" is technically invalid.

The problem with "one" as a general gender-neutral pronoun in everyday speech is that it's really formal. "One needs to reevaluate the ramifications of their actions" sounds fine, "One really oughta think that through" sounds silly. I'd use "one" in formal writing, but I'd never use it in a bar. It's also rather indirect... I dunno if there's a grammatical reason, but something like "A lawyer must make sure one's arguments are succinct" sounds weird to me.

Saying that you must use "his" or "her" instead of "their" with "one" is really just a grammatical aversion to the idea of a singular "they," since you're still mixing different pronouns by using "his" or "her" in that context anyway. I wrote a whole rant about it on page 3, but prescriptive linguistics is dumb and useless. It's an attempt to force strict, formal, immutable rules on something that is amorphous, varied, and constantly changing. (Really, codifying "standard" language rules is just about placing undue prestige on one dialect above all others, essentially awarding even more social benefits to the higher strata of society, but that's a whole other rant.)

Singular "they" is grammatically useful and politically important to those of us who don't want to go back to the days when it was normal and acceptable to, for instance, write shit like "A doctor should endeavor to build rapport with his patients" and "A secretary should be sure she takes accurate notes." I think your teacher should get off their high horse about the word. (And I don't care about the *~*~ramifications*~*~ of still conjugating the verbs a plural, whoooo caaaaares.)
 

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excalipoor said:
You people have no idea how lucky you are to have masculine and feminine pronouns. They make explaining certain situations so much more convenient.
But on the other hand, if you don't know the gender of the person, it becomes more difficult...

It would be easiest if you had pronouns for referring to different kinds of people, I suppose, for ones you know the gender of, the ones you don't, the ones who are older than you, younger, people you don't like etc.

Why stop at gender?


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Lieju said:
In school I was told that girls just aren't good at math, and other kids spread rumours that I was cheating because I got good grades in math.
Which decade are we talking about here? Because I saw none of this shit in the nineties.

Also, as a kid my favorite color was red, and my best friend was a girl whose favorite color was blue. When we played house, she was the dad. Because fuck gender roles. She did suck at math though.
I grew up on the nineties.
The attitudes towards gender-roles felt like it was from the 50's, though.
I mean, we were told to dress 'properly' for the Independence day celebrations in junior high/high school, and for girls this meant dresses, of course.

Luckily I had a mother who was okay with me being me. Despite trying to get me to use make-up and dresses, but she gave up pretty easily. I never did forgive her for making me wear a dress to school, though, and didn't budge when it came to my graduation and confirmation.
 

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Darken12 said:
Given how previous topics such as this one have devolved into flame wars and required moderator lockdown, apparently the community needs to be reminded of the board rules in bright blue text. I wouldn't go through all this trouble if it wasn't necessary.
Its the nature of the beast, people like to argue with one another, they like conflict. To give you an example of what I'm talking about, take a look at this video where Nicholas Cage plays a screenwriter and proposes the idea that a story be written where there is no conflict so that it can reflect "real life"(swearing is involved, just fyi)....


In other words, generally speaking people like conflict and if this forum was nothing but reaffirming opinions, it would be nothing but an echo chamber.

Darken12 said:
How...? Where...? How did you derive that conclusion? Where are you getting that information from? Sweden has done something that affects only its country and that other countries are free to imitate if they agree with it (which I hope they do). No idea where you're getting that they're forcing other cultures into conforming.
I was referring to your earlier comment in which you stated that...

"It is my sincerest hope that this ushers a new wave of change and progress in the world"

...which to me, came off as if you wish that others were forced to adopt this idea as well. Hence my comment about how I don't care much for some neo-European cultural imperialism. If Sweden wants to do this, fine. However, don't expect the rest of the world to conform to this mentality unless you plan on "pressuring" them to bastardize their language.
 

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Darken12 said:
bananafishtoday said:
Wow, that was way more elaborate than what we did. We just beat the crap out of each other and shouted angrily until our voices got hoarse.

But yeah, it really doesn't matter what toy is overvalued, there's always a fad that sweeps through the playground and causes strife like that.
I don't know, I can probably yell for a while yet :p

Thanks to BFT for the info, I couldn't be arsed translating the article lol.

It still doesn't really change anything from my POV though - I was having a discussion at uni the other day (funnily enough, talk around the edges of gender in education) - and my opinion was that a school can't positively reinforce gender values, they can only negatively reinforce them, my point being that the majority of a a childs gender identity (especially at the young age we're talking about here) is made up from what they experience in the home.

Bringing that thought back to the article, wouldn't it be more appropriate to educate parents of gender neutrality instead of what that school is doing? It seems sort of defeatist that the system feels that kids feel safer in a school environment than they would in a home environment. The way they're doing it just feels like a big experiment to me - and that's not cool imo. I just think there has to be a better way to do this.
 

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bananafishtoday said:
Aramis Night said:
But where does this leave a boy who wants to play with boy toys and has no interest in girl's/gender neutral toys? From what i've seen this tends to make kids want what they want even more. Kid's tend to be reactionary. However they are not without preferences. If children choose to value boy toys over female/gender neutral toys, then it doesn't seem that there is any reason to not allow the girls to play with them as well if they choose rather than limiting the toys that a boy can choose to play with. This would also negatively affect the ability of girls to also choose to play with whatever toy they wish.

I know my gf would definitely have taken issue with that. She used to prefer boy toys(i can't seem to make that come out right). She is the greatest example of a woman i know. It didn't make her into something else or cause any developmental problems. I despised girl toys and found most gender neutral toys to be bland. They just weren't interesting (except for maybe those ovens). I was all about transformers and other toy robots. Oh and video games. Well still with the video games. Spent most of today in another closed beta for an upcoming game. Yeah... toys.

My parents tried to keep me away from video games. They actually banned me from ever being in anyone's house if they knew that there was a video game system there. And they always would check. They would beat me for being in a place with an arcade. It never stopped me. And this was back in the NES days. I got beaten a lot over this. And not soft beatings like parents are afraid to give their kids now. I'm talking wooden paddles with holes in them. Being beaten in the shower with a wet leather belt. Being whipped with the buckle side of the belt. And not just a couple hits. On average about 10-20 hits at a time. Didn't deter me in the slightest. How far are these social engineers in sweden willing to go? This won't change anything.
I agree with you that it won't change kids' preferences. And I'd said I didn't think removing the toys was the best way to deal with the problem. But the problem is that boys have very little social freedom to interact with "girl" things, while girls do have some degree of social freedom to interact with "boy" things.

So I don't think saying "Fuck your cars, play with dolls" is going to fix anything, and indeed likely would make things worse. (I can imagine even in this preschool, there's enormous social pressure for boys to publicly denigrate the "girl" toys if that's all they're allowed access to.) But it's not about forcing boys to like "girl" things or prevent girls who like "boy" things from playing with them. It's about giving access to "girl" things for boys who do like them and creating a safe space for boys to play with them to play with them without fear of parental disapproval or ostracization by/from peer groups. Again, I don't think it's the right course of action and I don't think it will be effective in achieving its goals, but I do think something else should be done to try and improve the situation.
The problem i have with so much of this is that it seems to assume that much of what determines male/female preference is based on social influences rather than biology. At some when the gender binary was being established for what would evolve to become us, there had to have been a point where we were blank slate's without social conditioning. And yet we evolved along the lines we did. Why? Because biology guided the social conditioning, not the other way around.

No one wants to acknowledge it because it violates our very idea of personal free will, but hormones alone can radically change us. Our brains are radically altered to process information differently merely because we were dowsed with either large amounts of estrogen or testosterone while in utero. Science is still studying these complexities. I was actually pretty impressed when they tackled this in a later episode of House M.D. But much like the character they used to illustrate the scenario in the show, we each have a choice about whether we should indulge our natures or not. However it has to be an individual's choice. You can't make that choice for anyone else, and neither can a government.
 

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But on the other hand, if you don't know the gender of the person, it becomes more difficult...

It would be easiest if you had pronouns for referring to different kinds of people, I suppose, for ones you know the gender of, the ones you don't, the ones who are older than you, younger, people you don't like etc.

Why stop at gender?
I'm not saying Finnish should attempt to implement genders into itself, I just find myself forming completely illegible phrases when I'm trying to explain something fast. In spoken Finnish, even 'it' and 's/he' are often the same.

"Se sano sil sitä ja sitä ja se sano et nii ja se vastas et näi ja se teki sit sillee, ja se otti sit sen ja se ei ollu sen semmosempi se."

Try to make sense of that, I dare you.

Lieju said:
I grew up on the nineties.
The attitudes towards gender-roles felt like it was from the 50's, though.
I mean, we were told to dress 'properly' for the Independence day celebrations in junior high/high school, and for girls this meant dresses, of course.

Luckily I had a mother who was okay with me being me. Despite trying to get me to use make-up and dresses, but she gave up pretty easily. I never did forgive her for making me wear a dress to school, though, and didn't budge when it came to my graduation and confirmation.
Huh. Well, all I can say is that I never saw anyone forced to wear a dress. The only dresscode we ever had was that boys definitely, absolutely take their fucking hats off during ceremonies. In elementary school I don't remember "properly" ever being described as anything more than "neat and clean". In high school we had plenty of girls wearing suits and ties for the fancier occasions, because why not.

Right now I have a 15yrs old little sister who very much does her own thing, and I don't see or hear anyone trying to tell her to do otherwise. Except for our granny, who'd love for her to dress "nicer". We don't pay much attention to her. And while my sister dresses like a slob, she's also a straight-A student. Math included!

I've tried to stay away from these gender discussions, partly because most of these discussions are centered on the Anglosphere, but mostly because as someone living in southern Finland, they seem totally absurd to me. I can't speak for the rest of the world, and I don't know where around Finland you're from, but in my daily life I just don't see the kind of active oppression going on as is described in so many of these threads. I just don't.
 

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Well, it's certainly better than the confusing English practice of using "they" as a gender neutral pronoun for a single person.
 

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As a Swedish man I find this whole thing quite silly.

I am however ok with the gender neutral pronound, it's only sad that they choose such a feminine sounding word for it.
 

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Helmholtz Watson said:
So wait... currently Sweden didn't have any words like "they", "them", or "that person"? Odd, but as an English speaker I guess I support them making their language convenient for people to communicate with one another.
I suppose I should be glad people think "they" is a single pronoun, because I've been trying to make it one for several years now. Nonetheless, your English teacher will bitchslap you if use it that way, and so will any companies you might want to hire you. Also, and perhaps more importantly, while "they" and "their" sound pretty natural when used as singulars, "them" doesn't sound right.

Which leaves us with "it". Except "it" isn't gender-neutral, it's neuter. It's for things without a gender or, more poetically, things without a soul, since you can call an animal "it". There's also a secondary problem that there's no difference between the subject, object, and possessive forms, which gets monumentally clunky when used in succession. For example, if I'm talking about a hyperintelligent shade of the color blue, which has no gender, then I'm going to end up with painful constructions like "It stroked its chin while examining the map I gave it", whereas if I were to use a different pronoun, the result would be "He stroked his chin while examining the map I gave him", which has the upshot of not sounding retarded.

Then there's "one" I guess, but it sounds awful. More importantly, it only works in certain kinds of sentences. For example, I can't say "One picked up one's suitcase". I'll take the confusion of "they" over a word that can't be used in most sentences.

All that's left is "he", which I think is semi-gender-neutral as a holdover from Romance languages like Spanish, where the masculine pronouns and forms are also the gender-neutral/mixed gender ones. You can also alternate 'he' and 'she', but that only works in the very specific case where the speaker is addressing a vast, unseen audience. In other words, it has no use outside of instruction manuals and self-help books.

As a writer, English needs a gender-neutral pronoun.
 

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Casual Shinji said:
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Casual Shinji said:
Gender neutral words and toys!? Wha-... why?

When did it happen that being called 'he' or 'she' is suddenly not done?

Looks like worldpeace can only be achieved by forcing everyone to be the same. No distinction, no flavor, just a saltless grey society.
Being a Swede, my take on the word is that it's purpose is more to be used when the gender isn't assigned yet. Like if you have a suspect, but no identity, or if you're just talking about people in general.
In that case couldn't we just use the discription we've always been using, like "the suspect", "the doctor", "the teacher"? I'm still not seeing the point to a gender neutral discription, other than people being offended that you didn't refer to them as gender neutral.
Well, when we don't know the gender, we often say "den" which translates to "it" which we mostly use to describle objects. We rarely, if ever, refer to peoples occupations. So I think "hen" helps distinguish instantly that it is a person of unknown gender. And if you don't like it, you don't have to use it. The people calling this some kind of big travesty, saying that it destroys genders, are just over exaggerating.