The girl with the unusual wardrobe said, "I'm not attractive to the kind of guys I'm attracted to." That means she's getting attention, but not from the kind of guys she wants to date. More information on the kind of guys she wants to date would be helpful. If she wants to dates guys who are prep-school or button down business types, that's probably her problem right there.
Taking Fashion Tips from Tim Curry and Other Matters of the Heart
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My humble yet unwanted opinion.Lara Crigger said:
1. Manic Pixie Dream Girls are in this year. Your Zoe Dechannel impersonation isn't scaring most men off, so look further than that. You mention that there's a specific type of person your attracted to which also makes one wonder how compatible that type is with your own. All in all I say ignore the folks who tell you to tone it down, but make sure that you're comfortable in you own skin first. You're giving me the vibe that you're doubting yourself, and someone rocking a loud style who isn't sure of it tends to come off as either fake, desparate, or not interested. Let your freak flag fly. A guy should want you for you and if that's not who he met then your in for a bumpy ride anyway.
2. People who care for people tend to sense things about them. I'm guessing that you're not leaving her because she's clingy, but rather the other way around. Shame on you for not respecting such serious decisions as a persons first time and the challenges of living with someone? You shouldn't resent her feelings or those of her friends and family, because this letter is proof that their disapproval was valid. It is too late for an easy exit. If all you are interested is leaving this girl, then prepare to forever be a black mark in her romantic history. Its honorable (?) that your concerned about her financial state but now seems like a time to man up and put your cards on the table. Find a time when there is a low amount of tension with her and do your best to explain to her that you weren't prepared for this relationship and that ultimately both of you will be happier apart. DON'T argue with her, DON'T try to tell her how it's her fault. No matter how you paint this picture you're coming up the bad guy the more you deny it the more volatile the situation gets. DO be alone with her for this conversation and DO be prepared to spend an awkward transitional phase stuck with her until you iron out how your living situations will change. If you dont have a friend you can stay with during this, you need to ride the couch for a few nights, because if things work well "break up nookie" will be a temping but horrible idea (for her it may be "lets give this one more shot nookie") Honestly I think the columnists idea of you saving up while you leave her in the dark until you are ready to surprise her and skip town is a horrible douche move. Now is a time to learn how to break up with a person without breaking them. Try to learn and grow from this and next time make a decision with the right head.
3. Hitting on the DMs girlfriend is a good way to lose xp.....also friends. If they're in a happy monogamous relationship then good for them. Challenging that out will inevitably hurt someone, probably a little bit of everyone at that table. I know it sucks, but that's just how it is sometimes. Remember that while it's great to be friends with a lover, it can also be pretty great to be friends with someone of the gender you prefer to date, PLATONICALLY. Savor your friendship with this girl and those you game with instead. It may be cliche but better things WILL come along and when they do this will seem pretty silly
Pink hair, corsets and Rocky Horror? I sure wouldn't mind meeting that. In fact, it sounds a lot like my entire crowd of friends.
I guess too bad you probably don't live in Sweden.
I guess too bad you probably don't live in Sweden.
I wish I knew, doctor. I have a hard enough time following my train of thought when I'm sober, when I wrote that last post I was stoned as an adulterer in Baghdad and had just watched a video with sock puppets in. I was a Francis Bacon portrait and some Roger McGough poetry away from insanity. Not the best frame of mind to be in when you're trying to make a coherent point.Dr Snakeman said:
To try to summarise as best I can. I posted saying that the first girl in this article sounded like my type and that she didn't need to change, because too many girls are being peer pressured into being less interesting as it is. A bunch of other people shared my sentiments. Then another dude came into the thread and said how he expected this type of thing from the escapist forum, implying that this behaviour is pretty creepy. I didn't think he was wrong exactly, but I was still a little stung that I'd been lumped in with the creepy 'one eyelash and a voodoo spell away from my ideal woman' crowd. So my next post tried to explain my position - then I got really stoned and sock puppets happened. I can't be blamed for anything that happened after that.
Cranky though? I never intended to be. Sorry if I came across as legitimately upset in these posts. I totally wasn't - honestly I thought me describing myself as offended/outraged gave my post a little levity to show I wasn't totally serious. That was a sarcastic slash, man. I was actually in a great mood when I wrote that first post. I was trying to say 'take me off your sex offender's register' in a relatively light hearted way.
I normally don't mind leaving drugged up posts on the escapist, I've done it before but usually nobody notices or cares enough to call me up on it. This time though - curse your boredom, Dr Snakeman!
I hope that clears everything up. I kinda feel like I just gave a disposition to a court so I'll close by making fun of someone's grammar.
Ah, here we are.Lukeje said:
I know he meant to say that he lumps people together in the same group. He literally says that already. What confused me about the sentence is the 'however' and the 'when' that implies that there's a bit that got missed off the end.
But then I'm the guy who made a long, rambling post while stoned. I'm pretty sure you could call up hundreds of my own grammatical errors and dissect them. Hell, I'd go back and start us all off if I wasn't so afraid of things that I wrote while under the influence. That's like my Dorian Gray portrait, if I look at it I'll discover just how terrible I really am. I can't afford to lose the sweet self-delusion that I've built up over the years.
Nothing further, your honour!