Many people here getting mad at TF2 players who spam voice commands or pubstomp...
Voicespammers often use scripts or do it out of habit, they don't pay attention or hope one in 12 guys gets mad.
Same with people who dominate you. They're just playing the game and you probably look worse from their perspective because you're pissed and out for revenge. It can be easy mistaking people playing well as being dicks. Sometimes I need to remind myself not to take things personal and accept a challenge.
Since I'm probably that pubstomper for some, let me tell you how things look from my perspective. Your attitude is what matters, you may be half the problem.
Normally, I'm a newbfriendly guy. I try to go easy on newbs who just haven't wasted 1500 hours on this game like me. I know being above pub average doesn't make me a good gamer, a "man" or even a comp level TF2 player, or gifted. The only cosmetics I wear are the small handful I found over the years, most isn't fancy. I'll go friendly every time there is a moment to be had, to goof around, give advice or answer questions on chat, congrat players for good kills on me or my teammates ("fine shot mate!"), high five enemies, "save" friendlies and people after round ends. I love little voicecommand conversations and if an enemy goes pootis-heavy, I disguise as him and play his twin for a whole match.
I want to have fun with you, not on your expense. STAR_'s attitude resonates with me.
Yet even I turned into a massive prick days ago, the one you complained about, and I blame my "victim".
We were playing on an achievement server. This guy commented every death with "COME OOON!" on his mic, and asked questions anyone three days in would have figured out. I'd just screw around, he kept attacking me, so I killed him and he would say "stop it!", "asshole...". Eventually, he'd secretly go sniper to bodyshoot me while I was barely playing the game, and he cheered and taunted me on the mic. I wasn't mad, I let him have the joy of this single kill he got. I didn't need to go tryhard and certainly didn't take pride in beating someone who thought "rage" bonesaw medic was a good idea.
Yet I'd kill him as fancy as possible. Normally I'm not nearly that good, but somehow, every single market gardener, stair stab, corner stab, headshot and tauntkill worked on this guy. I'd taunt or voicespam "nice shot!" afterward. All I wanted was to hear him on the mic. It was like holding your arm out while a kid tries to flail at you but can't reach you. I didn't mean anything by it nor felt proud. He started a snowball fight and didn't know I had built a snowball catapult over years. This was only a fierce rivalry in his head.
After he ragequitted and we met again the next day, he calmed down and we were cool.
Sure, there's guys with little self esteem who tell themselves being halfway decent at one GAME means anything. Skill says nothing about personality, or too much free time. With so many teenagers, it's not surprising. They'll get over themselves someday, but you can get over them today. If you mute them, it also mutes their chat messages.
Leech off them. The challenge they pose will make you better. Their personalities should be a reminder for you to never become a bitter ass yourself. Your attitude is all that matters.
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Did I go on a tangent... "that guy" for me are players who are incredibly mean and insult you for no reason, try votekicking you, or call you a hacker. I swear every time it happened to me, I just joined a server, haven't really left spawn, haven't said a thing or was playing average at best. I switch my screennames too often for anyone to remember me.
But every time it happens, it really bothers me and I don't know why. So much for my own advice, heh?