People I'm gonna shift the whole conversation on it's ear. The best way to deal with real life is to be a sadist. Instead of getting sad or scared when some "tragedy" or war like the Boston marathon or Iraq happens and getting all panicky or being all gung ho, enjoy their suffering instead cause I guarantee when something bad happens to you someone's gonna enjoy your suffering. The Germans had it right schadenfreude is the way to live. Which is also the answer to why "god" (if your dumb/weak enough to believe in that) lets bad things happen, he's the biggest sadist of all, or he doesn't care.