The Dating Advice Thread

[Xanthious]

See it all depends, if you are looking for something serious and long term then the best advice I can give you is DON'T. Barring that and assuming that you are hell bent on doing it anyway then just let things come naturally. Don't be afraid to talk to people by any means but don't go out searching like your on the hunt either. Just put yourself out there where people are and be social.

Now if you're just looking for some non committal strange then you should just accept that dating is a numbers game and like any other numbers game the more times you try the better your chances are over all. So don't be afraid of rejection make sure you look and smell presentable and just get yourself out there.

If you want some places to go for a little more in depth help I highly recommend a book called The Game by Neil Strauss. Good stuff but you need to know it's not gospel and pick and choose which advice it offers to actually follow through on. The other point of reference I can offer is a site called Dr Nerd Love (drnerdlove.com). Dr Nerdlove probably offers more down to Earth advice and if you like you can interact with Harris (the fella that writes the blog) and get your individual questions answered.

The bottom line is that the two easiest ways I find for ways to help most people is, first, go where women are. I know it seems self explanatory but you'd be amazed how many fellas I meet that don't stray much from home, work, or the their hangout with their friends and wonder why they aren't meeting ladies. So go to places where women are. Secondly is for the love of god talk to them. They are just people like you and me. I promise you won't be any worse off than you already are if you go try and make some pleasant small talk. If you can manage those two things the rest will work it's self out I promise.

 

[Crazy]

Yes means yes, and no means yes. Live by these words and you shall have every mate that you desire.

 

[geK0]

Don't try to "have game" It just makes you seem like a scum bag lol

what the heck is that?

When somebody says they "have game" it means that they act in a way that helps them pick up women (typically in a bar).

If somebody has to try to have game, they tend to fail at it. I guess I could have just said "be yourself" : \

 

[tobi the good boy]

Yes means yes, and no means yes. Live by these words and you shall have every mate that you desire.

Or you'll be prosecuted as a sex offender and put on a very unflattering list.

OT: Kill all possible mates to display your superiority or simple display your plumage.

 

[krazykidd]

Oh that's not expected. Within about 10 posts the "Dating Advice Thread" becomes "complain about douchebags and clubbing thread"

I think it's funny how many people translate dating as "clubbing" or "picking up chicks at the bar." I translate it as a relationship, as in love beyond alcohol and sex.

Love ... Haha , people still believe in that?

OT: don't be pushy , just let things flow naturally , if it's meant to happen it will happen on it's own.

Now i you wanna get laid? Just go to the gym!

 

[Revnak_v1legacy]

Spoiler

 

[Vault101]

Don't try to "have game" It just makes you seem like a scum bag lol

what the heck is that?

When somebody says they "have game" it means that they act in a way that helps them pick up women (typically in a bar).

If somebody has to try to have game, they tend to fail at it. I guess I could have just said "be yourself" : \

huh...

yeah I find the Idea of being seen as some kind of "game" and "conquest" rather distastful..but then again what ever floats (some) peoples boat

 

[geK0]

Don't try to "have game" It just makes you seem like a scum bag lol

what the heck is that?

When somebody says they "have game" it means that they act in a way that helps them pick up women (typically in a bar).

If somebody has to try to have game, they tend to fail at it. I guess I could have just said "be yourself" : \

huh...

yeah I find the Idea of being seen as some kind of "game" and "conquest" rather distastful..but then again what ever floats (some) peoples boat

hence why I said "it makes you seem like a scumbag"

 

[Elementary - Dear Watson]

Wouldn't this be better off in the advice forums...?

Anyway, my 2 pence would be to get your self on a basic counciling and questioning techniques course... this makes you a lot more aware of peoples feelings, and how to react to them.

Everyone has problems, and being able to listen and help someone through any situation, and being able to ask someone questions that empowers them to find a solution is a tricky but invaluable skill... not only that but your partner will see that you are a good listener, and that helps biuld a trust between you...

Unfortuanately in my case I don't have the other side to that! I bottle up my own feelings... whilst I can listen to other peoples problems all day, and help them, I cannot sort myself out if I have problems too! :/ This I need to learn!!

 

[JaceArveduin]

Don't try to "have game" It just makes you seem like a scum bag lol

what the heck is that?

When somebody says they "have game" it means that they act in a way that helps them pick up women (typically in a bar).

If somebody has to try to have game, they tend to fail at it. I guess I could have just said "be yourself" : \

huh...

yeah I find the Idea of being seen as some kind of "game" and "conquest" rather distastful..but then again what ever floats (some) peoples boat

Ever seen movies/shows where that one idiot walks into a bar/club/etc in a comically stupid way, all the while thinking he's the sexiest bastard ever? yeah, that's basically what people try to imitate.

 

[triggrhappy94]

chlorform + rag

learn some indoctrination techniques and your good to go

Nice one. I like the pick up line, "Does this rag smell like chlorform to you? ...Wait it doesn't? ...Oh Yeah, you put the chlorform on the rag first. Can you just wait here for a minute? I'll be right back."

 

[JoesshittyOs]

But for the love of god don't be one of those guys who walks around with "old faithful" in his wallet for a year, they're made of latex, not adamantium you will knock someone up.

So there is such things as "old condoms"? The problem with sex ed and all that is no one really tells you these things.

OT: Uhh... Be careful because you may have uncontrollable spasms right before a girl is about to make out with you that you previously did not know you had. It was pretty fucking scary when my head just randomly jolted to the side because of nerves.

So yeah, just be prepared for the unexpected and take a deep breath. And... ya know, come to think of it, I've actually never really had a problem with date part of dating girls. Hell, I've been on one of those "disaster" dates that was actually pretty entertaining and ended with the above situation happening. Some good ones as mentioned before, if you go to a movie at least make sure you try and drive the girl to there so you can have a little small talk.

Eh, have a plan afterwards, and if you think it went bad don't try to push your luck.

 

[WolfThomas]

So there is such things as "old condoms"? The problem with sex ed and all that is no one really tells you these things.

Really? In our sex education in Australia, that was one of the things they stressed often, that condoms expire and that keeping them in a wallet for long periods of time causes them to get warm (from your body heat) and lose durability.

 

[JoesshittyOs]

So there is such things as "old condoms"? The problem with sex ed and all that is no one really tells you these things.

Really? In our sex education in Australia, that was one of the things they stressed often, that condoms expire and that keeping them in a wallet for long periods of time causes them to get warm (from your body heat) and lose durability.

Ahh.... damn. My school skipped the sex talk, come to think about it. We learned about the female anatomy in 5th grade, and they really never told us about sex. They sort of relied on our parents.

Bastards.

 

[WolfThomas]

Ahh.... damn. My school skipped the sex talk, come to think about it. We learned about the female anatomy in 5th grade, and they really never told us about sex. They sort of relied on our parents.

Bastards.

Well yeah, check your condoms regularly and replace those in your wallet. I remember when I was like 15 being like "pfff, as if I will still have this condom in two years", then finding some a few weeks ago from that time in a seldom used draw (I am 23).

 

[bluepilot]

It turns out that proposing sex while out on a date by whipping out your erect penis is a bit of a turn-off for some girls, and might even get you kicked out of the restaurant.

Unsolicited anal penetration is generally frowned upon, apparently.

Some girls will respond negatively to sex with the level of, uh... vigour you're no doubt used to porn actors displaying under intercourse.

When a girl takes you to meet her mother, it is only very rarely an invitation to a threesome.

I'm really just posting to bump, because I can see this thread becoming entertaining. Asking me for dating advice is like asking Edward Scissorhands for tips on handjobs: you will be none the wiser, and it's possible that both you and your partner will end up scarred.

That is pretty funny. I'd be into a guy who'd get the two of us kicked out of a restaurant with his phallus...but then again I have an uneventful life.

On topic, it sounds cheesy but when you date just be yourself and be honest. Also, don't kick yourself and get depressed when it doesn't work out. These things happen, or don't, for reasons that can have nothing to do with you.

Dating takes honesty and maturity, but at the same time you can still laugh at penis jokes.

 

[the Dept of Science]

Oh that's not expected. Within about 10 posts the "Dating Advice Thread" becomes "complain about douchebags and clubbing thread"

I think it's funny how many people translate dating as "clubbing" or "picking up chicks at the bar." I translate it as a relationship, as in love beyond alcohol and sex.

"Dating" can be used in two ways. There's the obvious use referring to the act of going on dates, but it can refer to all romantic interactions, from picking up girls to forming proper relations. As someone that doesn't like to date within my social circle too much, I can't really differentiate picking up girls and "dating" in the way most people can.

 

[sanjana]

Oh wht the hell?? Tips are being given for dating or for sex?
Asking for sex and starring on boobs - I don't think so it will work. Dating mean love and enjoy that time at fullest. Love yourself and love your mate. Talk some romantic and little bit flirty too. Have great dinner in good restaurant. You can go at some romantic places too like beach. Be confident and read her lips.

Good bye can be said by a kiss on lips.

Try this...