The divorce thread.

[blithefox]

My parents were considering divorce when my mom was pregnant with me, and she was under a lot of stress. Lots of stress + Pregnant = Bad for baby. And mommy, too.
It makes me wonder if I would have turned out any different if everything had been hunky dory at that time. It makes me wonder if some of my health problems wouldn't have existed if everything had been okay.
And I can't even imagine what my big brother was feeling during then. :|

 

[AnnaIME]

Your parents divorcing - not a happy thing while it is happening, but in the long run, I think it's usually for the best. I was six when my parents got divorced. The divorce made us all miserable for a time, but a few years later both my parents were happy with their new spouses.

These days, my parents divorce means I have not two but three sets of grandparents for my children! That's three sets of people who love my children, who actively volunteer for babysitting, who take them on vacations so my husband and I can have quality grownup time, and it's a 1/3 as many birthday- and christmas presents.

All's well that ends well.

 

[ShadowsofHope]

Nope, parents are still together. Hopefully for good.

Though if something so bizarre were to ever happen in which they did, well.. I'd probably go with my dad. Closer to him in any case.

 

[PureChaos]

my parents are divorced, so are my mum and step-dad. i never really got on with my step dad so wasn't overly upset, just felt bad for my mum because he was a bit of a bastard.

 

[Salviar]

My parents got divorced when I was about 8 or 10, I can't remember.
The funny thing is, now that I think about it, they never actually told me they were doing it, I just put 2 and 2 together when I saw my dad packing all his stuff in his car while my mum yelled at him and cried. Not the best way to break it to you daughter but, you know, I guess it did the job.

I don't see my dad often, mainly because it was all his fault (infidelity and all...) mainly because I don't like the way he talks and acts.
I'm fine with just my mum though I don't really feel I need to 'cope'

 

[DC_Josh]

Parents went through a loud and messy divorce when I was 16, combination of my mum going through some shit and my dad being unable to cope/seeing another woman.

He then proceeded to leave the country, on Christmas day after spending a very tense and unhappy day around the house.

Yeah....

 

[UBERfionn]

My parents were never married to each other making me a bastard.

 

[Shru1kan]

Sorry if I sound annoying, but this really baffles me.

I cannot believe that modern society has come to this. Marriage, which I consider to be one of the most fundamental aspects of life, is failing so miserably, and yet we as a species think that humans are "leaping forward" and are "civilized" creatures.

OT: Nope, I'm glad they haven't.

I do believe that the reason that the divorce rate is so much higher is that women are given independence in the relationship, a pick in their partners, etc. Which was not really present until semi-recently. In other words, they can leave without their families disowning them, without being beaten, etc.

OT: My parents are together, been together for 30 years. Married young, even.

 

[Pegghead]

My folks have been together for the past twenty years and have had two children together. I've never seen them fight and I doubt they ever would, but you do have my sympathy, I've known a few people whose folks got divorced (At my old school it was every second bloody kid) and even my father's parents were divorced (And this was from a Catholic background when Vatican two was still fresh in everyone's minds, probably would've been alot harder than it is nowadays, especially their reputations) but eventually they just learned to live with it and realize that their parents just weren't compatible and rushed into things.

 

[Sharkosauros]

i wish my parents were divorced :\

 

[Elephant Walker19]

Mine have never been together,they spilt up before I was born.I don't know the story because one will say this but the other says this.

 

[Mr.Mattress]

No, my parents are still together.
And i pray they wont ever get one.

Same here.

 

[Hashime]

There is no way my parents would divorce, they have lasted 21 years, still clearly care for each other, and can't.
If my parents were to split though I would have a hard time with it. My house is very stable, and I'm sure not having warring parents is a major factor.

I love your avatar.

OT: My parents aren't divorced, but my mom passed away this June so they are separated in a way.

I'm sorry about your mom.

 

[sky14kemea]

My parents divorced when I was in secondary school. (So when I was around 12-13). I was glad when they did.
Seriously, all he did was watch football on TV. >_>

I can't wait till I move out, I'm actually not keen on either of them. I don't hate them, I just feel I was put in the wrong family. xD

 

[Lost In The Void]

Parents been together for almost 25 years. They've fought, nothing hardcore, in my opinion sometimes you have to get those bottled up emotions past and since they both seem very much in love still, I don't think that it affects their marriage in a negative way. If they did divorce, I would most likely move in with my friend as I love them both and couldn't bear to choose between them. My Dad and I both love sports and a rum on a warm day and me and my Mum discuss politics and such which I enjoy just as much

 

[Benmonkey7]

There is no way my parents would divorce, they have lasted 21 years, still clearly care for each other, and can't.
If my parents were to split though I would have a hard time with it. My house is very stable, and I'm sure not having warring parents is a major factor.

I love your avatar.

OT: My parents aren't divorced, but my mom passed away this June so they are separated in a way.

I'm sorry about your mom.

Thanks. I'm glad your parents are still together and happy, this thread is depressing so it's nice to have a glint of happiness.

 

[superbatranger]

My parents divorced my freshman year of high school. Why? Well, because my dad had decided to start a new family behind our backs and lie about it for over 3 years. I haven't talked to him since.

But, every cloud has a silver lining. My mom got remarried. Yes, my stepdad is awesome. Yes, my stepbrothers are awesome. So, it worked out.

 

[Funkiest Monkey]

My parents divorced when I was 10. I don't see much of my dad since my step mom is an evil, controlling ***** (I hate her more than anyone). I stayed with my mom after the divorce, and my step dad is a cool foreigner.

I took it fairly hard for a short while, but I quickly learned to shrug things off.

When my mom told me my dad wasn't my biological father when I was 12, I said something like: "Wow, really? Hm. Okay then... So, can I go on my Nintendo?". I just don't really dwell on sad stuff like that.

 

[aether-x3]

My parents split up when I was around 11(I might of been younger, but the age 11 keeps coming to mind) and didn't get divorced till two years ago when my mum got remarried. My dad is remarrying but I don't know when. (Funny enough, I remember him saying he wouldn't make the "mistake" of getting married again). I have a very bad memory so I really cant answer to as how I coped with it.

I live with my mum and I visit my dad every week, though I have a hard time talking to my dad but that's because I cant speak to adults very well, even my own family, not because I dislike him or anything.

I for some reason cant see myself as being married, so I haven't really thought if I would ever resort to getting a divorce.

 

[Irony's Acolyte]

My parents got divorced a couple years ago. I don't fully know the details as to why it happened, but that's mainly because I haven't really asked either. This is do to the fact that I want to deal with this in a sensible and unbiased way. From what I know my dad was "paying a little to much attention" to a woman at his work and that he was somewhat fed up with my mother. I don't know if that's true or not (once again I didn't want to hear that much from either parent). I recently met his girlfriend, so things my become a bit more clear to me soon. I'll hold judgement until then.

I'm mainly over by now. At first I was just shocked. To me it seemed like it came out of the blue. The only "warning" that I got was that 3 days earlier my dad acted a little strange when he took me (only me) to go see a movie. Then I got confused over the whole thing and felt somewhat upset by it. Now though I just generally keep on living by not focusing on it. I've accepted that it happened and that there was nothing I could do to stop it from happening. The only time it gets me upset is when either of my parents start subtly talking bad about the other. This generally doesn't happen and when it does its really subtle (like tone of voice subtle), but when they do I quite angrily tell them to shut up so long as I'm around.

I took it much better than my sister did (and she already was having issues hitting puberty and all) and I've probably taken it alot better than most other kids who've had their parents divorce in such a way. Course I'm the same guy who can't wait til I'm away at couple and able to make my own life free from having to deal with the family too much. My advice is to just role with it the best you can. I know it will be hard for awhile to live with it; but if you can just learn to accept it, you'll probably be able to continue your life with as little scars as possible. And don't condemn anyone too fast. Make sure you have all the causes down before you pass judgement on anyone. I know it's not the most comforting advice, but there it is.

I wish you the best of luck in the time ahead.