Sounds to me like some of you have straight up broken games, I never really experienced these problems.
1. Don't really know what to tell you about the linearity, it's a Naughty Dog game, last I checked they made linear shooters with great stories and characters.
2. I don't know if I'd call this a qte apocolypse, in fact I know I wouldn't. Ryse is a qte apocolypse, TLoS just has you pressing square or x or whatever to push dudes off, that's pretty standard action game stuff, I've been doing that for years in games.
3. This is what makes me think you have a weird broken copy, that's never happened on my game, or any of my friends copies when I've seen them play. Helmet = 2 shots unless with armor piercing weapons, no helmet= 1 shot. As for the "realistic damage modeling" I've shot dudes in the legs and they went into that begging mode before, so yeah.
4. Same deal here, he stealth has always worked perfectly for me. There's an audio sting that slowly rises when an enemy sees you until they become alarmed, that combined with listening always allowed me to stealth effectively, I liked the system, and I'm a stealth connosieur. So if you're getting spotted through walls most likely one of two things is happening, you have a shitty copy or you play the game shitty and don't want to admit it. 😛
5. I guess this one's really all down to personal opinion on how weighty you like your weapons to be. For me it was fine. And as someone who isn't a particularly good shot but knows people who are, shooting a gun is hard. Even a small handgun is weighty. And it's impossible not to shake, Joel is a great shot even without the weapon sway upgrade, with it he has supernatural aim and steadiness. Just because he's not Max Payne with rocksteady aim, jeez.
6. If clickers don't instakill then you mind as well just have runners, stalkers, and bloaters only. Without the instakill clickers are just slow, dumb, grosser looking runners.
7. Sounds like a glitch. Although as far as I can tell bottles have a larger sound radius while bricks are better blunt weapons, also if clickers are already stalking you then chances are they won't be distracted by the sound and just keep searching for you.
Sorry for the long post, felt the need to defend a game I really liked.
But you know OP, it is all about the story, it sounds like you have a lot of gameplay problems, but just give up if you don't like the characters and their arcs.