Abandon4093 said:
People who are feeling insecure about how they look and want to be reassured.
You know, if they offered an honest approach, there would be no need to lie. I love my girlfriend, but there are things I will not say. Lying is not really one of those things I'm cool with.
Unless she said "Wow you useless twonk, call a plumber next time." there was probably a few shades of omission in that consolation.
Maybe she doesn't find Thestral useless, regardless of the situation? Like, just guessing here, but your hypothetical scenario in which LT's girlfriend is omiting things assumes that she is a complete dick.
When you ask someone "how's it going" and their reply is "alright" or some other phatic reply, they're lying to you.
And here we get to what I think is the root of your problem with this concept.
Regardless of the whether or not they're feeling alright, they're not giving you an honest response, they're giving you an expected response. We generally don't trust people who can't master phatic dialogue because it betrays an inability to resonate with the social construct. Even though this long winded explanation will never have dawned upon you in day to day life, if you asked someone "how's it going" and their reply is a step by step recounting of the mornings events, you feel uncomfortable.
There's a lot of possible responses to "how is it going?" The question is not automatically a phatic expression and people are not automatically lying. This sort of thing relies on social context, something you seem to have trouble with. Someone can honestly ask the question, and "alright" is a valid response.
Yet here you are, broad brushing any such discourse as a lie.
You seem yourself to have failed to master a sort of crucial social element, and it seems to be due to black and white thinking. For example, you pulled out the binary option of saying "alright" or giving an extensive breakdown of one's day. "How's it going?" is not a question that needs you to say "I woke up this morning, took a dump, had eggs, and watched the lady across the street do aerobics." It's a question that, even in honest consideration, is an assessment of your current state of being. "alright" or "fine" or "okay" might not be the most descriptive, but nor are they dishonest.
Neither is it dishonest to not include "left foot step, right foot step, inhale, exhale" in your response to "what are you up to?" You're not lying just because you don't give the exact details of your respiratory system and status of bipedal movement.
Lying by omission is not the same as simply not including every piece of minutia.
Lying is far more important than you know.
Or your definition of what constitutes a like is just wrong.
Abandon4093 said:
Sorry, did I bring up some third party's opinion expecting it to carry weight? Nah, didn't think so.
Your argument is largely anecdotal, which is what you took issue with.
Well that's another mark against you for the winning of rounds.
I'm sorry you are into terrible things, but it has no bearing here anyway.
Smells more like Buffalo to me.
Trust me, I know these things.
I believe that.
Because that's how honesty works, you either lie or you don't. It's the degree of the lie that makes it a grey area.
Except your measure of whether something is a lie or not isn't really based in fact. Not only that, but you construe rather ridiculous situations. I just quoted one. In response to Little Thestral, you told him his girlfriend was probably lying unless her consolation included the phrase "you useless twonk." That's wholly unnecessary and the absence of it or something similar does not make his gf's response a lie. Maybe YOU think LT is a "useless twonk," but it doesn't mean that SHE does.
This is not how lying works, even as a social construct or part of the social contract. I'm sorry, but you're shifting the goalposts to try and define a broad swatch of non-lies into lies. The better to back up an incorrect point, it seems.