Congrats on your up and coming nuptials dude!
I know I've talked to some of my friends that have no interest in games at all and they ask me questions that make me have to think critically about why I like or dislike something. Even challenge why I did a certain thing in a game if and when that gets brought up, or if something hits the news and I get asked about it.
My only problem with that is that I tend to become, like, the official apologist for gaming. Which isn't totally bad, but getting fielded the same questions about things I don't know or necessarily care about as though I'm the expert on the field....
Like, it's a hobby. It doesn't really define me as a person. I do a lot of stuff. If there's one trait that probably defines me, it's my love for music. I can even understand why people would consider me an authority there; I studied music theory and performance in college. But games? Well, I'm more interested than they
I've gotten into conversations like that with other people that play games as well, so maybe I'm just used to engaging with people about that. I will say the first time I talked to someone about that I didn't know how to answer since it was something I never considered.
I think my biggest problem answering the question is that there's no right answer. I like both. I'm attached to both. I'm drawn to both. I'm not sure it's equal, but it's fairly close, because both have their strengths and weaknesses to me. I've kind of tossed around similar thoughts on my own, which may be informed by my background as a roleplayer (tabletop RPGs, that is, another thing I've become the official apologist for....).
If there's one thing I've learned from Jim, it's that there isn't a "perfect gamer girlfriend". Only perfect gamer girlfriend*s*.
XD, well, the message of Jim's episode was that there is no one deal for everyone, and I'd hope we didn't all have the same girlfriend. That could get awkward. Though Fappy and I may be...The similarities are numerous.... >.>
Anyway, I don't entirely get the whole "gamer girlfriend" obsession. I get that people want things in common with their SOs, but it seems like a lot of gamers seem to think they need a gamer partner specifically. I kind of wonder if people just see "gamer" as a bigger portion of their identity than I do.
For the record, my girlfriend is sort of a gamer. She got hooked on Skyrim and she routinely plays Minecraft, and there's Kingdom Hearts. I'm glad she's not, like, derisive, but I didn't go out looking for a gamer, and we became friends before I knew she played ANYTHING game-like. It certainly isn't a negative, but neither would it be a dealbreaker if she didn't like games. We have enough in common to keep us going regardless. Mostly being complete geeks and totally neurotic. Which she'll kill me for, when she sees this....