Yesterday I enhanced my enjoyment of this game by about 50% when I finally started to accept the idea that I just don't have to kill everything.
This came to me when I encountered a creature in the lake guarding a portal. It is this human-centipede thing with a crown on it that- well, it jumps at me no matter where I am and hits me 100x and I can't move. Great. Oh and it's also surrounded by spell casters.
So I dedicated myself to killing it and I actually got super close. Which of course made me give up (I just ran past it and accessed the portal anyway).
Then I encountered another one of these things as a mini-boss in a cellar in some ruins. F*** that.
So off to the internet I go. They are called Royal Revenant and the wiki says not to fight them melee, lol.. thanks (as if casting is better if it just runs at you in light speed anyway). In fact, apparently the way to kill it is to cast Heal, which requires a Talisman and 12 Faith. I chose to be an Int caster not faith so I can't do this so... I can't kill these things. So I won't!
Now I just have to hope there will never be a required Revenant. Along with lobsters, crabs, and bears, they're just going on my do-not-bother-with list at least for now.
On the flip side, I've embraced the grind. Spent my time listening to Slightly Something Else while grinding runes for Vigor. It is what it is. Same for weapon upgrades- I found a cool new sword, I want to try it, so I googled where to get the bell thing so I can just buy stones and upgrades already.
Best feeling in the game is to get into some mini-dungeon and polish it off relatively quickly (got the crystal lady in that cave on the 2nd try).
Current situation:
Got into Raya Lucaria and explored the outside a bit so next will be going down that elevator to see what's good.
Level 47(ish). 26 VIG, 13 END, 16 STR, 19 DEX, 25 INT
Last thing I did was upgrade a big curved sword called Grossmesser up to 10. I also have a hawk talon sword at like +6... I guess I'm just attracted to R2's that have double strikes. woosh-woosh! Fashion-souls is the blue set from the merchant near the entrance to the academy so now I look and fight like some Arabian fantasy princess (yes I play as a girl in games cause usually it looks better), or vibes like the Offieri from Witcher 3 expansion.
I was going for dex-battle-mage I guess. I think I'm just gonna spam my VIG up to 40.. so tired of getting two-shot by everything.