unlucky with love

[Shraggler]

It's annoying, sure, but it just takes time. Don't fret and you'll be fine. You'll stop caring eventually and it'll be awesome. There's more important shit out there like working and figuring out how to get from point A to point B without getting fired.

Once you step out of school and get a dose of the bullshit, personal relationships, while not necessarily unimportant, are not hormoaning for your attention. Plus, most teenage relationships are extremely passive-aggressive and no where near mature. If you're going to spend time with someone, make sure they are really worth it because there's not a lot of time in life.

I prefer to have girl-friends and not a girlfriend. People are people.

I've been watching friends and peers rollercoaster for years and it's hilarious. Guys who don't wrap before they tap and *BAM* life's over: you're having a kid.

Tears to my eyes.

 

[stiborge]

Hell yes. I'm in your shoes but 17. I try to not sweat it too much cuz I cushion it with it'll happen eventually. Honestly though it is a problem a lot of people get. It'll blow over.

Me too. I'm 17 and have never had a girlfriend or anything.

 

[thedeathscythe]

Have you tried asking a girl out, flirting with them and all that jazz? If you haven't even tried, then you can't say you're unlucky. You can't win the lottery if you never buy a ticket.

 

[Skorpyo]

20 and loveless, here.

Perhaps that is why I lean towards asexuality.

 

[Doctor Panda]

Luck is like fitness. If you want to improve it, you have to push it.

A really clever guy once said that. Oh wait, it was me.
Seriously though, I don't mean forcing yourself on people. I mean if you meet a girl you like, flirt, then ask out.

 

[binvjoh]

I'm sixteen and I've been in a couple of relationships, but only one that I'd consider serious. It was with a girl that I truly loved, so I'm happy enough.

 

[Blackflame140]

I have to say your kind of lucky, as of the age of 17, iv had my heart broken twice now. To not experience that would have be nice, and like most of the other guys have said, don't worry about at this age you'll just get hurt, find a hobbie and find some friends you enjoy hanging out with and that one person will come.

 

[Owyn_Merrilin]

Well, you're in good company here.

Most people on this site are in the same boat and have just as much inexperience as you do and some are far older than you.

I myself am 17 and never done much of anything at all

Okay, the above is an end thread. I know it's nice to commiserate with fellow nerds, but seriously, according to a recent poll, all but a quarter of the people on this site are in the same boat as the OP -- we really aren't the ones to go to for advice. I personally haven't had a date in two bloody years, but I'm not constantly starting threads on the matter -- I learn from my mistakes, I get out there, and I meet new people. (A good part of this is, until recently, I was a part of a very small dating pool. I've gone from the community college to the university now, and I'm actually meeting women who I didn't go to elementary school with ) ;D

I was 19 when I really started to figure out how to talk to girls. Now, at 33, I never lack for a date when I want one.

Dude, you're only 33? With all the talking you do about being old, I figured you were at least 40. You can't be old, because if you are, I don't have all that much time before I am too...

 

[superbatranger]

Heck, I turn 20 next week and I've never successfully asked a girl out, let alone been in a relationship with one. So far, I've just been dealt rejection after rejection. Yeah, I'm in somewhat of a losing streak. But, nothing ever stays the same forever. Times change, and we can't predict the future. I'm sure I'll find someone. Only question is when; a question neither I or anyone else can answer.

 

[theComposer]

19 years old here and in the same boat. I want a relationship, but haven't been able to get one yet. I don't let it bother me though, because worrying about not having a girlfriend is not going to help me get a girlfriend, so I stay optimistic.

 

[Karhukonna]

The way I see it, there's a lot of pressure on ya. Everyone else dating already? Happened to me, too, back when I was in school. It's just not the time for all people at that point in life. Eventually you'll just kinda start meeting people and hitting up chicks. A part of the reason why some dudes don't really date at that age is the fact that some of us (like me) look absolutely hideous at that age. Acne, fat, glasses, braces, you name it. Not saying I had braces or nuttin', though....

Aaaanyways, where was I? Right! What I ment to say was that you shouldn't worry about it. That isn't to say you should make no effort to meet new people and shit.

Me, personally, when I was in school, particularly grades 7 through 9 (the time it seemed to me most people began dating and had their first sexual experiences) I looked like an ugly mutherfucker. Gained some weight, had a lot of zits on my face and I had just gotten glasses a few years earlier. Wasn't exactly popular with people, not to mention the ladies.

Then I got into trade school. I had lost most of my excess weight, the zits were gone and I started going to the gym a little. I also made my first really good friends there. You know, the friends that'll stick by you for life. I started coming out of my shell a little, and I began to truly enjoy life. This in turn boosted my ego, which is the number one thing when attracting ladies. Nobody likes a sorry ass loser.

So anyways, while in trade school I eventually met my missus. We're still seeing eachother now, even after I went for a year of military service. Which brings me to my second point. Chicks dig military men. Aaaaww yeah! To all you ladies out there, if you agree, aaawww yeah, and if you disagree, well, I'm not really all that serious about everyone liking military men.

Well, enough ranting. Bottom line, stop worrying and learn some people skills. Go out and enjoy life. It's not worth really worrying about.

 

[manic_depressive13]

I was 19 when I really started to figure out how to talk to girls. Now, at 33, I never lack for a date when I want one.

Dude, you're only 33? With all the talking you do about being old, I figured you were at least 40. You can't be old, because if you are, I don't have all that much time before I am too...

Sorry to break it to you, but 33 is pretty old.

OT: I'm 17 and I don't even have any friends. It's not so bad.

 

[Crises^]

Don't worry about it i lost my virginity at 21 and since then have been with my fair share of women it just happens, best thing you can do is be your self and be confident.

One of my friends have been with atleast 50 women and hes only 24 and its all because he just talks to them and is confident.

if you try to hard you will just seem needy and that will turn them off ya I find just talking to them and playing hard to get works best for me.

 

[rockyoumonkeys]

I wouldn't say I've been "unlucky". I've made piss poor decisions and sabotaged the relationships myself, because I'm an idiot who apparently doesn't know how to deal with having something good.

So that's not bad luck, unless it's bad luck that I was born with the Relationship Idiocy gene.

EDIT: I will say that probably I was unlucky to be a teenager then and not now, because teenage girls are so much EASIER than they were back then. Social media has made them all into sluts.

 

[370999]

I'm the same. Mind you I'm asking out a new girl soon so hoepfully i can reverse the trends soon.

 

[Owyn_Merrilin]

I was 19 when I really started to figure out how to talk to girls. Now, at 33, I never lack for a date when I want one.

Dude, you're only 33? With all the talking you do about being old, I figured you were at least 40. You can't be old, because if you are, I don't have all that much time before I am too...

Sorry to break it to you, but 33 is pretty old.

OT: I'm 17 and I don't even have any friends. It's not so bad.

To be fair, by "not all that much time" I mean a good 12 years. But still, I wouldn't call 33 old -- it may seem that way when you're a teenager, but the older you get, the younger it looks. I wouldn't even consider a person middle aged until they hit 40-45, and I wouldn't say old, as in truly old, until around 65 -- and that really depends on the person. There's a local celebrity where I'm from who went skydiving for his 90th birthday -- I wouldn't call him old [sub]at least to his face[/sub]

 

[WingedIncubus]

Don't worry about it i lost my virginity at 21 and since then have been with my fair share of women it just happens, best thing you can do is be your self and be confident.

One of my friends have been with atleast 50 women and hes only 24 and its all because he just talks to them and is confident.

if you try to hard you will just seem needy and that will turn them off ya I find just talking to them and playing hard to get works best for me.

I would add "be yourself looking your best, being at your best". Being yourself will never help you if you look like a schlob and act like a total spineless loser. And by being yourself, it doesn't mean showing yourself as a bleeding heart whiner because you feel bad, either. It's not attractive. Keep that for your friends or girls you are already in a relationship with.

Also, touching is PARAMOUNT. Touch early, touch often, bust her balls, and treat her like one of the gang. Show you are fun to be around with, yet you do not need to act like a total clown to make her laugh. Show that you are not uncomfortable touching her and feeling her... and most important, that you are not afraid to escalate if the attraction is there. You must show early that you intend to be a sexual being with her, without putting her uncomfortable. Hence why touching her, make her talk about herself, entering her space, busting her balls, and leading her make you all a different place in her mind that the typical "nice guy" dweeb who does not assume his desire and is afraid to game her because he fears rejection, and so will use the laughable tactic to become her friend in the hope that she gets how wonderful he really is.

In fact, rejection is good. Being blowed out or rejected means nothing if you have a mentality of abundance. Thousands of other girls just as attractive are, walk, breath around you, so why focus on that poor girl who missed her chance to know how great you are? What makes her so special compared to the others? Anatomically, she is identical to the others, and mentally unless she is a super-heroine with special powers she has nothing that cannot be found with other girls.

Being needy, wussy, begging her attention will lead you nowhere except to a pitiful "let's just be friends". Most ner... I mean people with no meaningful positive interaction with women other than their moms and siblings tend to put them on a piedestal and beg for their attention. Girls crave for attention, yeah, but they want challenge coming from attractive males, not from supplicating boys.

Girls are not the prize, you are the prize. It's to them to win your attention. As soon as you understand that, it because a whole different world.