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Soxafloppin

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Essential
I must find them phyiscally attractive
Capable of a conversations
They gotta be fun!
Good Personal Hygene, bad breath and B.O euagh.

Bonus
Long hair, I dig long hair!
Good taste in music and films.
Enjoy touching (not just sexual) but enjoy cuddling up on the sofa, watching films and what not.
 

Wintermoot

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not a vapid girl that,s only interested in her looks which sadly is 80% of the girls here.
what I AM looking for is a cute girl.
 

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Soxafloppin said:
Essential
I must find them phyiscally attractive
Capable of a conversations
They gotta be fun!
Good Personal Hygene, bad breath and B.O euagh.

Bonus
Long hair, I dig long hair!
Good taste in music and films.
Enjoy touching (not just sexual) but enjoy cuddling up on the sofa, watching films and what not.
I'mma just gonna borrow your list, mmkay?

In addition to the above, I'm also going to request that they be kind-hearted, intelligent, open-minded, and self sufficient.
How much of that is negotiable? The "good taste in music and films part" and the "long hair" part; everything else isn't.
Yes, I can be picky.
 

Psychedelic Spartan

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TrilbyWill said:
metsplayer1 said:
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What the fuck? Uh... yeah, what the fuck?

OT: Someone who isn't a dick.
And a functioning brain.
And a nice pair of... eyes [small][sub]You thought I was going to say something different, didn't you? Naughty boy![/sub][/small].
It was from a thread that I can't seem to find, asking for a name for escapists in general.
 

3quency

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In terms of fantasy:
Majestic, authoritive, statuesque and lots of other fancy words. And to drop kick anybody who claims that Batman is better than Judge Dredd on reflex.

In reality?
A girl that kind of understands I suck at making the first move/talking to people in general and tries to work around that would be cool.
 

Patrick Buck

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Well, if I'm honest, If i get a crush on someone, it's random. I'm usally friends with them, and it just happens. Reguardless. I have fallen for people who everyone else reguards as ugly, but when I've fallen from them, I think they look good.

I guess that makes me a good person?
 

Bloodtrozorx

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1. Do I fantasize about killing her after 15 minutes?
2. Everything else is negotiable.
3. Tattoos and piercings = Bonus points.
 

The Funslinger

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Vault101 said:
crudus said:
Sexually attractive, gamer, nonreligious, intelligent (I am told I have a tendency to talk over peoples heads), preferably cynical, adventurous, and curious. That is what I could ramble off the top of my head. I will let you know if I think of more.
thats quite a check list....

the gamer thing is potentialy fixable if youre able to "convert" them
I'm gradually working out the best way to convert my girlfriend to gaming.

That said, she has a NES, and was willing to let me show her Lord of the Rings (though I didn't, explaining that I had the extended edition which was around four hours long)

Considering that she's got a pretty face, a great body and that we always make each other smile, pretty good catch I've got.

I suppose she's a pretty good list for my criteria: At least open to geek culture (without being a trend following "nerd girl") likes a bit of silliness, quite sexually confident, and doesn't mind my cynicism and equal parts loopy and embittered sense of humor. As for physical traits, obviously someone I'd be attracted to. I'm not obsessed with large boobs, but the fact that my current girlfriend has them is a nice plus. I prefer darker hair colors to blondes (since that's being over represented with fakeness nowadays) though blondes aren't unattractive. A slight niggle is that I prefer girls who aren't taller than me. It just makes me feel weird. My current girlfriend is roughly my height, maybe ever so slightly shorter.

Edit: I do go in for the cuddly sort of relationship. The one where we're often holding hands or cuddling, where spontaneous kisses aren't unusual. People squirming over PDA can fuck off.
 

Elementary - Dear Watson

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That is a question I have been asking myself a lot lately! Trying to work out why I fall for some girls, but not others...

A strange thing I have noticed is it doesn't matter how attractive a girl is, if she appears cold, or hard to talk to I instantly lose interest... seems the 'hard to get' principle doesn't work on me at all!

Another thing is that my personality trait, that always pushes me to help those in need, and frequently will put the needs of the people over the needs of the objective/task, causes me to constantly appear to attract to girls who appear vulnerable... This means I have a habbit of chasing after girls who are going through some sort of crisis... not only does this make me pick up unnessessary emotional baggage, but also is the quickest route to the nearest freind-zone!! The latest of these was a young lass going through a divorce... I do pick em! :S

All in all, I really suck at this, and need to possibly re-evaluate what I look for, and possibly change my own mind somehow!! :S
 

babinro

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I've never had the urge to actually look for a mate. However, the following things are important for me to consider myself compatible with a woman:

- Straight up honesty about anything remotely important.
- Realistic / Optimistic outlook on life
- Open Minded. I'm fine if you hate my nerdy hobbies, just be willing to try before dismissing.
- Has no kids and wants no kids
- Ideally doesn't smoke, drink or use drugs (as I can't relate to any of that stuff)
- Sense of Humour / goofy / playful attitude
- Independent. I'm extremely independent and don't wish to exclude my friends from my life because of a relationship. I'd want a girl who has no problems with me taking a couple days every week and spending times with my friends or just by myself. She'd have every right to do the same.

In my life I've probably only come across about 4 woman who I felt met the above ideals. Unfortunately for me they were all married or had kids.

You might also note that appearance plays no role in what I look for. I certainly have preferences in what I find attractive, but if you meet the personality side of things that's what really matters at the end of the day.
 
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Blonde and skinny with legs that would go down for double homicide if anyone could catch the damn things. I don't limit it to that but that's physical perfection, y'know, if they have a good face on them.
 

Genericjim101

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I like short girls, I'm more attracted to a pretty face than boobs and ass, hair colour is non concern. As a person they have to be intelligent and have a dark sense of humour. Hobbies aren't an issue, I've gotten on with people who have no hobbies in common just fine.
 

TheYellowCellPhone

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Ability to talk with them and hold a conversation about interesting and relevant topics. A maturity level on par with their shoe size. Decent looks. Double X chromosomes.
 

Kriptonite

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Intelligence, for me, is a huge turn on. Wisdom, as I've come to realize, is equally as important in the various applications of said intelligence. Being cute and funny is a super plus!
For some perspective, I'd rather spend time with an intelligent ***** than a pretty idiot. At least we could have a conversation.
 

Evil Moo

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In short, I try not to. It seems like a waste of time for something I'm not even sure I would want.

If anyone were to express an interest in me, I would almost certainly attempt to drive them away from me, regardless of personality, intelligence or appearance, based on a combination of a crippling fear of unfamiliar circumstances and the threat to my worldview that such an event would constitute.
 

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1. Sexually Attractive (note: this isn't the same as having good looks. There are many people who others say are hot, but who I don't find sexually attractive at all. I'm talking here about chemistry)
2. Politically Progressive. This includes being a feminist and not being a republican. Not being homophobic, transphobic, racist, sexist, etc.
3. Not being religious.
4. Being both intelligent and also educated. Being the sort of person who enjoys deconstructing media in an analytical way.
5. Being close to my age.
6. Being independent. (No needy people or co-dependent people...must have own interests and personality and hobbies and friends)
7. Be positive and kind. Cynics, mean people, and gloomy people are not for me. You must like yourself and see beauty in the world.
8. Be in a similar life space as I am. This means, for example, no students--even if they are my age. I'm now settled, so I also want people who live on their own, have their own job, have a settled sense of social identity.
9. No/minimal emotional baggage. I know who I am, and that person is not a drama queen. I want the same. If you are still working out who you are and what you want...we are not compatible.
10. No virgins. No people who are sex negative. No men who think that sex is about them taking something. No women who think that sex is about them giving something up. No one who thinks that having lots of sex is somehow bad or shameful.
11. No alcoholics, addicts, smokers.
12. You must have something you are passionate about and be passionate about the world.
13. Honest and Honorable.
14. Low maintenance.

Optional things that would be great:
1. Gamer (table-top, video game)...but if not, as long as you are independent and don't mind me doing my thing, we are good.
2. Worldly/Adventurous. It would be great if you have travelled abroad, or extensively within this country. If you speak another language. If you are appreciative of other cultures.
 

Relish in Chaos

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My "dream woman" is someone who's attractive (like the above, more about chemistry than being smokin' hot like Morgan Fairchild; reasonably average is fine), has a good personality, is intelligent, perhaps has a good sense of humour, has a strong character, is independent, has ambition, isn't religious or outdated, isn't discriminatory, doesn't want to get married or have children (and doesn't have any already), shares my common interests and beliefs, isn't vain, isn't afraid to not conform or break preconcieved stereotypes (whether that be in gender, sexuality, etc.), is sexually attracted to me, understands me and accepts me for who I am.

Bonuses would be if she's bisexual, into gaming/comic books/other "nerdy" stuff that I can relate to, and into BDSM.

trooper6 said:
No virgins.
I don't mean to criticize, but isn't this a bit mean? Or were you joking and/or you worded it wrongly? Because not everyone's ready for sex at a given time, and people experience it at different times in their lives. You could end up going out with someone who's never had a partner, or at least a serious one, before.
 

TheRealJLars

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She needs to be attractive, but not necessarily hot. I look for women who are understanding and supportive of my passions. I guess this would tie into independence. I really like a girl who not only understands my sense of humor, but is really funny herself. If she's as big of a dork as I am, then that's perfect. I prefer a girl who's easy to talk to and generally agreeable to be around. Intelligence within reason is preferred.

Optional, but definitely bonuses: Redheads, not having a tonne of emotional baggage, open-mindedness.. and if I can get her interested in gaming, that's a pretty huge bonus as well.

It's one of those things where she's pretty much in the clear if I meet her at a ska show or through band. Everywhere else is hit-and-miss.
 

Dethenger

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My dick

I don't know. In a weird way, I kind of want a girl to be... pure, I guess. Maybe that's not accurate. See, I grew up and live in Utah. I really find myself attracted to the Mormon types-- not the "too Mormon" types, of course, we'd be grating on each other's nerves at all times. I suppose a better way to put it would be an "open-minded Mormon." It sounds kind of fucked up to say, but my ideal girlfriend would be the result of corruption, so to speak. What I mean by that is that you take the basic "Mormon Girl," and then add me. A girl who doesn't swear, but doesn't mind when I do, or who believes in God but doesn't mind that I don't. I remember reading about the psychology of relationships once; the two types are symmetrical and complementary; they are basically what they sound like. In the former, the two people are similar, have similar interests, and click because of that. In the latter, the two are unalike, offering a sense of completeness; their traits compensate for your shortcomings and vice versa. I think that'd be fairly accurate. I'm uncomfortable around people; and yet the girls I "crush on," so to speak, are the social butterfly types. I'm not a particularly good student; they're usually AP/ Student Government. I remember a girl once approached me because she saw I was reading Nietzsche, and much to my delight, she said, "I read some of him."
"Oh yeah?"
"Yeah, my sister and I were reading Thus Spoke Zarathustra, but she wanted to stop because it was anti-God and stuff."
Chuckle; "Yeah, it is."
"Depends on how you read it."
At this point, I really should've been like, "No. What? It blatantly is; even a brief glance at Nietzsche's other works makes that clear. He wrote a book called Anti-Christ. Arguably his most famous quote is 'God is dead.' You don't know what you're talking about."
But instead I was like, "I suppose so," and all the while thinking, well, she at least knows about Nietzsche; that means she's a little open-minded.