What Is Love?

[Super_Nintendo_Chalmers]

I haven't actually checked whether this has been done before (Hoping it hasn't)
but i just came home from a date, it was with a girlfriend of about 2 weeks. And i was pondering, when are you able to say that you actually love someone?
I've known this girl for a number of weeks, and we get along great, i asked her to go out on Valentines, and i've seen her thrice since.
So far, nothing too physical has happened, just kissing and cuddling, but i really feel asthough i "love" her.
What is love? And when are you able to say that you're "In Love"?

 

[This-is-Hip-Hop]

Human kind has pondered this question since women and men discovered love, what are the prequisites for love?

I have seen people who have dated the same amount of time as you, procceded to get married, and stay married for 20 years, and they still love eachother.

But I have seen people who have dated for 3 years, and then get married, but divorvced 26 months later.

For what love is?

Its when you are so comfortable with a women or man, and you can feel like no matter what you say. She or he will still wake up the next morning wanting to spend his or her life with you.

 

[mr mcshiznit]

I think your able to say your in love when ever you want. Honestly though i'm a firm beliver that you can never totally know. I'll go with whenever you feel comfortable saying it around other people.

 

[Super_Nintendo_Chalmers]

Its when you are so comfortable with a women or man, and you can feel like no matter what you say. She or he will still wake up the next morning wanting to spend his or her life with you.

You have much to teach us, thankyou insightful one.

 

[AkJay]

I agree with "This-is-hip-hop" love is being able to accept someone whole-heartedly for who they are, and same for them.

 

[Peach_hat]

What is love? And when are you able to say that you're "In Love"?

To quote Owen Wilson:

"True love is your soul's recognition of its counterpoint in another."
I should know, I've been saying it everyday for 3 years.
/thread.

 

[Super_Nintendo_Chalmers]

I haven't actually checked whether this has been done before (Hoping it hasn't)
but i just came home from a date, it was with a girlfriend of about 2 weeks. And i was pondering, when are you able to say that you actually love someone?
I've known this girl for a number of weeks, and we get along great, i asked her to go out on Valentines, and i've seen her thrice since.
So far, nothing too physical has happened, just kissing and cuddling, but i really feel asthough i "love" her.
What is love? And when are you able to say that you're "In Love"?

Oh boy, seems to me that you will have to spill a river of tears before you learn what love is, with that attitude.

Elaboration please?

 

[mhitman]

*Looks at title* What is love? Baby don't hurt me! Don't hurt me! No more!

Its the feeling you get when you see someone and spend time with them... i dunno, im not in love

 

[This-is-Hip-Hop]

I haven't actually checked whether this has been done before (Hoping it hasn't)
but i just came home from a date, it was with a girlfriend of about 2 weeks. And i was pondering, when are you able to say that you actually love someone?
I've known this girl for a number of weeks, and we get along great, i asked her to go out on Valentines, and i've seen her thrice since.
So far, nothing too physical has happened, just kissing and cuddling, but i really feel asthough i "love" her.
What is love? And when are you able to say that you're "In Love"?

Oh boy, seems to me that you will have to spill a river of tears before you learn what love is, with that attitude.

Elaboration please?

Hes trying to say that love is not so easily found, I do not agree with his theory, but he does have a point, very few people are truly in love after two weeks.

My Advice, stick with it intill you feel nice and comfortable with her and then drop the three words.

 

[UsefulPlayer 1]

That's precisely the magic question isn't it?

I don't think you could really tell. Sure you can think about them all the time, notice slight movements of their lips, and yearn to see them smile, but all those things just show your really attracted to them.

Without even touching science, I think love is when you get really annoyed and angry with her, but still offer her a slice of the pie at the end of the day.

 

[A Random Player]

It's nice to see people who don't throw the word 'love' around.

Also, 8 posts and no Haddaway reference?

EDIT: Damn that was quick!

 

[Citrus]

The real question is "what is the difference between love and infatuation?"

I know for a fact that love can't be a certainty until you're out of puberty.

 

[Dr_Baron_von_Evilsatan]

Do you mean 'love' or 'true love'? Because I consider them to be quite different.

 

[NeoAC]

*Looks at title* What is love? Baby don't hurt me! Don't hurt me! No more!

Its the feeling you get when you see someone and spend time with them... i dunno, im not in love

Man, again just nipped to get my music joke in! Curse similar minds!

Anyway, you can pretty much think of love as the answer to one simple question. "If this person stole all my money, prevented me from doing anything I liked for the next 50 years and got that disease like that Indonesian guy had where it made their skin look and feel like tree bark, could I still see myself waking up to this person each day with a smile on my face?" If you answer yes, then you're either a horrible glutton for punishment, or your in honest-to-goodness love. Either way, you're all set for marriage.

 

[EnzoHonda]

"Baby don't hurt me, don't hurt me, no more..."

The only true love, I feel, is when you KNOW the person loves you exactly as much as you love them. I have not experienced this yet, thus I am single.

As for what you feel love is, it depends on the person. But usually it's something along the lines of how you get sad when you're not around them and you want them to be happy no matter what. I'd also argue that not even noticing other women/men is a big part of it. I felt like this with a girl once, but she did not reciprocate it. So, I have to assume it was not true love.

A terribly written post, but the topic is not an easy one.

 

[Super_Nintendo_Chalmers]

Do you mean 'love' or 'true love'? Because I consider them to be quite different.

Well depends, define both, and we'll see which one seems to fit.

 

[Rooster Cogburn]

Do you know what it took, not to type, "Baby don't hurt me- no more"?

Lots of people will tell you lots of things about love. I will tell you, if you're not sure, then you aren't. They say that love is something that can only be understood by experiencing it. I think that's true. If you have to ask, you wouldn't understand. But please don't let all this disappoint you- I hope it has the opposite affect. The stages that come before "love" can be just grand. Don't be in a rush- enjoy the ride. There is a lot to look forward to.

Also, I advise reserving the label "love" for only the most profound devotion. We need something that describes that experience alone. The modern notion of "love" (that is, whoever I'm fucking this week) cheapens our expectations.

 

[This-is-Hip-Hop]

My Advice, stick with it intill you feel nice and comfortable with her and then drop the three words.

I have HIV?

Anyway, I don't think I need to elaborate after Hip Hop so masterfully killed the thread.

We all have our expertise, mine just sometimes make me feel rather stupid.

 

[Peach_hat]

The real question is "what is the difference between love and infatuation?"

If that were the real question, he would have asked that question.

 

[theSovietConnection]

The real question is "what is the difference between love and infatuation?"

I know for a fact that love can't be a certainty until you're out of puberty.

And that right there is the million dollar answer. I won't say that you can't end up staying with the person you've been dating in high school, I know for a fact it happens, but far too often do I end up seeing the end result of girls I know ending up hurt because they were too infatuated to realize that the guy they were dating was either too controlling or only in it for the sex.