What Is Love?

[Super_Nintendo_Chalmers]

I haven't actually checked whether this has been done before (Hoping it hasn't)
but i just came home from a date, it was with a girlfriend of about 2 weeks. And i was pondering, when are you able to say that you actually love someone?
I've known this girl for a number of weeks, and we get along great, i asked her to go out on Valentines, and i've seen her thrice since.
So far, nothing too physical has happened, just kissing and cuddling, but i really feel asthough i "love" her.
What is love? And when are you able to say that you're "In Love"?

Oh boy, seems to me that you will have to spill a river of tears before you learn what love is, with that attitude.

Elaboration please?

Ok I don't want to be a sad, pesimistic son of a *****, but odds are that you will break up wih her in one way or another, find another girl, break up with her too etc.
In other words "This is going to get ugly before it's over"
Dude, you're 14, don't even think that any relationship you start now is going to last.
I'm not saying you shouldn't date girls, but don't put too much heart in it or you'll end up as an empty shell of a man, unable to love (like me :| )

Hmm, sneaky *****, looking at my intimate details.
I suppose you're right, but i think i should be able to enjoy the ride atleast. I've had relationships before which have felt certain to be love, and they ended.
As you predicted just then, and so i'm only now getting back into the groove, thanks for the wakeup man, and kudos for doing that without me thinking of you as a sad pesimistic son of a *****.

 

[ElephantGuts]

Baby don't hurt me no more...

Yes, I gave in. Don't judge me.

Anyway. I don't know. I'll give the standard useless answer people give when they don't know but don't want to admit it:

You'll know it when you feel it.

 

[This-is-Hip-Hop]

We all have our expertise, mine just sometimes make me feel rather stupid.

I wish that were true... I don't have an expertise in anything. Anyway, self pity aside, what do you mean by that second bit?

I am not a fan of being Cheesy, and what I said, was pretty damn cheesy. It makes me a bit nauseuas when I read it, But its the best advice I could think of.

And you have Expertise, sheesh, you just gotta find it, I found cooking, though I catch some flak from liking to chop cucumbers (Yea, gotta love those Friends) Try everything you will find somethin somwhere. (More Cheesy)

 

[HomeAliveIn45]

What is love, baby don't hurt me no more

"Baby don't hurt me, don't hurt me, no more...

I'm only a little ashamed to say that was my first thought too.

 

[Ursus Astrorum]

Definition: 'Love' is making a shot to the knees of a target 120 kilometers away using an Aratech sniper rifle with a tri-light scope.

Statement: This definition, I am told, is subject to interpretation. Obviously, love is a matter of odds. Not many meatbags could make such a shot, and fewer would derive love from it. Yet for me, love is knowing your target, putting them in your targeting reticle, and together, achieving a singular purpose, against statistically long odds.

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On a more serious note, it's honestly rather hard to describe love in and of itself (Though TIHH put it rather nicely). You can think you know what it is, and be wrong. But in the end, you'll know it when you feel it.

It feels a lot like infatuation, but it has something else to it that's hard to explain. It manifests differently from person to person, so it's a pretty subjectively defined concept. In my case, I see it as a realization of a complement to your persona, a discovery of the missing piece, if you will.

For example, the woman I still proclaim to be my true love is an energetic and outgoing person, whereas I'm calm and introverted. Our other aspects mesh, and so our opposing sides, instead of clashing, balance each other out. She makes me cheery and energetic when I would normally be cynical and self-absorbed, and I'm able to calm her and provide a more balanced view of things. All in all, not a single serious argument has been had between us in the three years we've known each other. It's a truly wonderful feeling, but it's hard to understand from words alone.

 

[TaborMallory]

"So when it came time for Harlow to present his findings, we're guessing he just summed it up as, 'What is love? Well, you know that feeling you get when you've been locked in a tiny dark space alone for a year? It's the opposite of that.' "
-cracked

 

[Dr_Baron_von_Evilsatan]

Do you mean 'love' or 'true love'? Because I consider them to be quite different.

Well depends, define both, and we'll see which one seems to fit.

Well we have 'love' as 'I really really like you', and 'true love' as 'I want to spend the rest of my life with you'. Reading this now, I realize that both my question and this answer don't pertain all that well the the original post, and were a waste of time. Let me try this again.

As suggested before, it all really depends on people's definition of the word. I personally define love as just a strong sense of the word 'like', and true love being the thing many people strive for, but fall short. The latter is something I feel can only be found after spending a LONG time with the significant other (years even). I was lucky enough to find it, but it took me a long time to know for sure.

 

[deletemeplease107]

You wont know what love is until you are completely crushed, but you continue any ways for that one girl...
well..thats how it is for me right now...

 

[This-is-Hip-Hop]

Ill trade lifeguard for "Waiter at a Retirement Home"

Ohhh the stories I could tell about all those crazy old people, though heres a hint, I have had to tell my mother many times that Tapioca pudding is worse then crisco for Stickiness.

 

[Cogings]

I haven't actually checked whether this has been done before (Hoping it hasn't)
but i just came home from a date, it was with a girlfriend of about 2 weeks. And i was pondering, when are you able to say that you actually love someone?
I've known this girl for a number of weeks, and we get along great, i asked her to go out on Valentines, and i've seen her thrice since.
So far, nothing too physical has happened, just kissing and cuddling, but i really feel asthough i "love" her.
What is love? And when are you able to say that you're "In Love"?

Oh boy, seems to me that you will have to spill a river of tears before you learn what love is, with that attitude.

Elaboration please?

Ok I don't want to be a sad, pesimistic son of a *****, but odds are that you will break up wih her in one way or another, find another girl, break up with her too etc.
In other words "This is going to get ugly before it's over"
Dude, you're 14, don't even think that any relationship you start now is going to last.
I'm not saying you shouldn't date girls, but don't put too much heart in it or you'll end up as an empty shell of a man, unable to love (like me :| )

Hmm, sneaky *****, looking at my intimate details.
I suppose you're right, but i think i should be able to enjoy the ride atleast. I've had relationships before which have felt certain to be love, and they ended.
As you predicted just then, and so i'm only now getting back into the groove, thanks for the wakeup man, and kudos for doing that without me thinking of you as a sad pesimistic son of a *****.

"enjoy the ride": Now that's the right attitude. I'm not saying you should be cold and distant to your girlfriends in the next 10 yeas or so, but I think you should spare one, dearest part of your soul for that special woman that you want to be the mother of your children. That is love IMO.
PS: Remember that relationships are getting more and more demanding as you age.

Good call, these next few years involved (or at least did for me) a lot of failings, but loads of learning about girls, so yeah, just enjoy the ride and take notes, mental notes, I don't think actually notes would go down with most girls and most importantly don't get too down about anything that happens!




Or just check the all knowing Wikipedia [link]http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Love[/link]

 

[MisterAnarchist]

"I understand now, there's no choir of angels when you meet the right person. It's about growing out of your fears to realize what you have is what you want."
http://xkcd.com/310/

That is what I believe to be the perfect explanation for love.

 

[VSR]

baby don't hurt me, don't hurt me

no more.



sorry i couldn't resist. I also don't think love can really be articulated; it's something you have to feel to understand

 

[deletemeplease107]

What is love, baby don't hurt me no more

"Baby don't hurt me, don't hurt me, no more...

I'm only a little ashamed to say that was my first thought too.

I did too while i was opening this thread....

 

[thatstheguy]

I see I'm not the only one who thought of the song reference after reading the forum title.

Anyway, love is a pretty relative word and You really have to spend a lot of time with someone to see if you truly like them. Especially considering you've only gone out with her for no more then a couple of weeks. In fact, the first girl I went out with started to seem more like an annoying ***** the more I went out with her. You got to know a lot about her if you ever want to ensure you won't regret say that you love her to her.

 

[Seldon2639]

Damn, I was hoping to be the first to make the Haddaway reference. In answer to the question, it's not really complicated. We endow the word "love" with a lot more significance than it should have (at least in my opinion). It might be helpful to bear in mind that in English, we have synthesized into one word something that the Greeks divided into numerous concepts.

There was Eros: Most closely related to modern "romantic" love, it's a love beyond Philos, and with desire and longing. Although eros is initially felt for a person, with contemplation it becomes an appreciation of the beauty within that person, or even becomes appreciation of beauty itself.

Philos: Friendly love; a dispassionate virtuous love. The love between family members, or close friends, without the longing or desire of Eros.

Agape: Refers to "general affection", rather than "love" in the sense we would use. This is the form of love used most in the bible to indicate a love for others as oneself.

There are two other words which are used in modern Greek, but the above is enough. The difficulty here is that all of these are accurate used for the word "love". We could substitute different words, but it loses some of the depth of emotion to say eros is "lust", or philos is "friendship", or agape is "caring for others".

 

[samsprinkle]

baby don't hurt me. No more!

 

[Dommyboy]

Despite what some people may say, love will hurt you, baby. Just hope it doesn't hurt you, no more.

 

[101194]

What is love
Oh baby, don't hurt me
Don't hurt me no more
Oh, baby don't hurt me
Don't hurt me no more

What is love
Yeah

Oh, I don't know why you're not there
I give you my love, but you don't care
So what is right and what is wrong
Gimme a sign

What is love
Oh baby, don't hurt me
Don't hurt me no more
What is love
Oh baby, don't hurt me
Don't hurt me no more

Whoa whoa whoa, oooh oooh
Whoa whoa whoa, oooh oooh

Oh, I don't know, what can I do
What else can I say, it's up to you
I know we're one, just me and you
I can't go on

What is love
Oh baby, don't hurt me
Don't hurt me no more
What is love
Oh baby, don't hurt me
Don't hurt me no more

Whoa whoa whoa, oooh oooh
Whoa whoa whoa, oooh oooh

What is love, oooh, oooh, oooh
What is love, oooh, oooh, oooh

What is love
Oh baby, don't hurt me
Don't hurt me no more

Don't hurt me
Don't hurt me

I want no other, no other lover
This is your life, our time
When we are together, I need you forever
Is it love

What is love
Oh baby, don't hurt me
Don't hurt me no more
What is love
Oh baby, don't hurt me
Don't hurt me no more (oooh, oooh)

What is love
Oh baby, don't hurt me
Don't hurt me no more
What is love
Oh baby, don't hurt me
Don't hurt me no more (oooh, oooh)

What is love?

Hadda Rolled! LMAO

 

[Max Jason]

I've read a few insightful responses to this question which I believe to hold merit and mostly agree with.

You wont know what love is until you are completely crushed, but you continue any ways for that one girl...
well..thats how it is for me right now...

Thank you for posting this. It is definitely true for boys/men. Most of us can relate.

Do you mean 'love' or 'true love'? Because I consider them to be quite different.

Well depends, define both, and we'll see which one seems to fit.

Well we have 'love' as 'I really really like you', and 'true love' as 'I want to spend the rest of my life with you'. Reading this now, I realize that both my question and this answer don't pertain all that well the the original post, and were a waste of time. Let me try this again.

As suggested before, it all really depends on people's definition of the word. I personally define love as just a strong sense of the word 'like', and true love being the thing many people strive for, but fall short. The latter is something I feel can only be found after spending a LONG time with the significant other (years even). I was lucky enough to find it, but it took me a long time to know for sure.

Yes. When it finally dawns on you that she was there all along, you just know.

I once had an early-morning half-sober discussion on the subject with my roommates (two female, one male). The dudes' consensus was that you become a man after you finally recover from being utterly devastated by that first infatuation. She is way into you at first, brings out the best in you, inflates your ego to unhealthy proportions, worms her way into your soft undefended heart and (as is the nature of young women) gets bored of your personality after several months, (no matter how good-in-bed, clever, comedic, intellectually stimulating, and daring you are) gets a job out of state or country and falls irreversibly in love with another man too soon for your liking (the man has already gone through this and will probably keep her because she is truly amazing) thus leaving your ego balloon stretched and empty and your peen abandoned.
The women have it worse, though, especially those with daddy issues or no self-esteem. So be thankful. They will repeatedly fall in and out of love and have their hearts stomped on until their personality and sense of humor shape up, or menopause. We only have to put up with it once.

My advice to the boy who started this thread (and all others in need of it):
If you're feeling real attachment and closeness to this girl, good for you. Get as intimate as possible and F*#% her brains out. F*&# her long, rough, and in as many positions and environments as possible. Think of it as revenge before the fact. You might feel guilty about it at the time but you'll thank yourself in the long run. (don't worry, she'll appreciate it because women are pigs when they get bothered and hot). Like you said, enjoy the ride while it lasts because she's 99% likely to break your heart and it's best to get it over with as soon as possible. 1/2 to 1 year later after the self-pity and suicidal thoughts subside, you'll finally be a man. You'll stop feeling any semblance of self consciousness and the tail will come at you from all directions. You'll get really good at sex, you'll unintentionally break a few hearts, but you'll always be thinking of the one that broke yours. If you really want to test your transformation to manhood, get back in touch with her every once in awhile (no matter how intolerable her fiance is), bust her chops, make her laugh, show her what she impulsively and foolishly discarded so long ago. Though you'll never achieve the same level of intimacy as before, inwardly (if only for an instant) she will feel regret. (It's also fun to make her man jealous when there is really no threat.) You have about five to ten more years of this and you have my sympathy. Eventually a woman who's aura is brighter than the rest will arrive when you're not even looking for her and change everything about your misogynistic tendencies. You'll learn to appreciate her wit, creativity, emotion, and mind just as much as her orifices.

This is all based on my experience, and hopefully yours will pan out differently, but don't count on it.

 

[deletemeplease107]

I've read a few insightful responses to this question which I believe to hold merit and mostly agree with.

You wont know what love is until you are completely crushed, but you continue any ways for that one girl...
well..thats how it is for me right now...

Thank you for posting this. It is definitely true for boys/men. Most of us can relate.

If only it were as easy as it looks like in the movies...or books...or any love story.
But its not..