What makes a guy attractive?

[DugMachine]

I've been told by a lot of girls they like my deep voice. It's calming and protective sounding apparently. As for my physical features... only comments i've gotten are my fairly built forearms and strong neck. Rest of my body is pretty meh as I went from being obese to healthy in a year of extreme working out so I have some loose skin to fill in to. Gross I know ><

So I guess girls look for some muscle and voice I guess?

 

[Snowbell]

Do you only think of men from a genetic standpoint? I can't make up my mind as to whether thats cold and mechanical or a display of selfness nobility and sacrifice for your future offspring. Of course you could argue that we necessarily only view people from a biological stance whether we admit it or not, our only real interests in a mate lying in the ensurance of the survival of our genes, and that any other position fails to take into account human nature as evolutionarily determined. Ok, I'm arguing with myself now and am going to stop.

It's true that most of what we call 'personal preference' is in fact due to our genes trying to ensure their survival, but I can happily say that a) I don't view men this way in actuality, I was just stating my understanding of why I feel that way to better the understanding of the Original Poster and b) I'm not having kids anyway so having a solely evolutionary view of men would be entirely unnecessary for me :L

If I had also gone into what I like emotionally in a man I assure you the picture would have been very different :L

 

[geK0]

Every time I hear shy people mentioned it's usually with a lot of disdain coupled with a few attacks against them.

Maybe it really is just me who likes shy guys then :S

Oh I crack myself up!

Returning to seriousness; I couldn't really say what I find attractive about shy/underconfident men, it could be due to believing them to be more trustworthy (eg not as likely to cheat on me) or it could be some sort of yet-undiscovered dominance complex I have, whatever it is I just find shy guys adorable and a little sexy (so long as they fit my afore mentioned physical prequisits of course), but I certainly don't see any reason to attack them or treat them with disdain.

You mean there are people out there who find shyness attractive?

There's hope after all : D

 

[Casual Shinji]

If I knew what women wanted in a man I probably wouldn't be hanging around here so much. *sigh*

 

[Xman490]

Seriously, I don't care about money, power, or even confidence. Outgoing and nice, maybe, but not necessarily confident. In fact I have like a broken puppy guy complex of some sort.

... that sounds creepy. I guess what I'm saying is I'd like to be some guy's confidence boost and be able to hug him until he feels all better. I like a guy that displays some kind of emotional weakness I can grab onto. Not someone who would be hard to deal with, but someone at least I feel like I could give a compliment to and it would mean a lot to them. Hey, who said guys shouldn't be moe?

... Yep, I'm a creep.

I guess I've always had this fantasy of finding a cute, nice, gentle, troubled guy, and hugging them forever. Even if it doesn't make sense, it sounds incredibly romantic.

I wish I could find young women like you. All the ones I meet are disinterested or already have boyfriends. Just my luck or my voice, perhaps.

 

[Cheery Lunatic]

Cheek bones.
It's all about dem cheek bones.

Also hair, strong jaw, and broad shoulders.

 

[Dags90]

Cheek bones.
It's all about dem cheek bones.

Also hair, strong jaw, and broad shoulders.

...which cheeks?

I'd go with broad shoulders, back dimples, and a strong nose/jaw.

 

[Vault101]

it does baffle me how some guys are like "girls on date jerks!"

now think about that for a second..would I actually date some guy I think is a jerk?

if he's a jerk then she doesnt see it that way, or ignores it

I mean I interperate "jerk" as some sociapath who insults me, steals my coke and moves my shit around

 

[Fieldy409_v1legacy]

It's amusing how some people say money, yet the people who seem to actually be attracted to guys don't list it. Bitter much?

Not many people will list being attracted to money for obvious reasons.

Because of their anonymity that lets them say what they please without real consequence? Seriously, it's just a bitter thought.

Even with anonymity people may not list those things. They may fear looking shallow or being looked down on by other users for posting such things.

And yet people still do say things that make them look shallow and will cause them to be looked down upon by others. Except apparently women who all have a fetish for money.

Do you really think it's not possible, that there aren't women that could be attracted to money?

Did you seriously read this as me contending that no one ever is attracted to money?

Prehaps having money gives the man a confidence boost? Everyone agrees that confidence is sexy.

 

[Vegosiux]

Everyone agrees that confidence is sexy.

Not until we define this "confidence" thing, really...

 

[Vault101]

I mean I interperate "jerk" as some sociapath who insults me, steals my coke and moves my shit around

So if he has a compulsion to rearrange furniture and gets thirsty afterward...

then he will have hell to pay

and dont get me started on throwing my $100 jacket in with your boyfreind dirty work cloths...I'll wash my own cloths
oh and throwing out my razors (I lost a good one the other day) seriously DON'T TOUCH MY FUCKING RAZORS

.....yeah we arnt talking about a hypothetical boyfreidn anymore

 

[Fieldy409_v1legacy]

It's amusing how some people say money, yet the people who seem to actually be attracted to guys don't list it. Bitter much?

Not many people will list being attracted to money for obvious reasons.

Because of their anonymity that lets them say what they please without real consequence? Seriously, it's just a bitter thought.

Even with anonymity people may not list those things. They may fear looking shallow or being looked down on by other users for posting such things.

And yet people still do say things that make them look shallow and will cause them to be looked down upon by others. Except apparently women who all have a fetish for money.

Do you really think it's not possible, that there aren't women that could be attracted to money?

Did you seriously read this as me contending that no one ever is attracted to money?

Prehaps having money gives the man a confidence boost? Everyone agrees that confidence is sexy.

Interesting thought, though why would it give someone a confidence boost unless it was because they already believed the thing about money? It would seem like a phenomenon that feeds on itself.

But seriously, I don't know if there's even anything that would say that success is dictated that well by money.

Well think about it if you think youve earned that money. You can take a lot of satisfaction from sucessful hard work or doing something smart. Confidence isnt just about thinking your sexy. It can be about thinking more highly of yourself if you were able to do something big.

Or it can cause the ugly side of confidence, arrogance.

 

[Vegosiux]

But money isn't necessarily from successful hard work or doing something smart. And successful hard work and doing something smart don't necessarily translate to money. Not sure if they even do most of the time.

Yeah, hard work hardly works. Being financially successful comes mostly from being at the right place at the right time.

 

[Fieldy409_v1legacy]

It's amusing how some people say money, yet the people who seem to actually be attracted to guys don't list it. Bitter much?

Not many people will list being attracted to money for obvious reasons.

Because of their anonymity that lets them say what they please without real consequence? Seriously, it's just a bitter thought.

Even with anonymity people may not list those things. They may fear looking shallow or being looked down on by other users for posting such things.

And yet people still do say things that make them look shallow and will cause them to be looked down upon by others. Except apparently women who all have a fetish for money.

Do you really think it's not possible, that there aren't women that could be attracted to money?

Did you seriously read this as me contending that no one ever is attracted to money?

Prehaps having money gives the man a confidence boost? Everyone agrees that confidence is sexy.

Interesting thought, though why would it give someone a confidence boost unless it was because they already believed the thing about money? It would seem like a phenomenon that feeds on itself.

But seriously, I don't know if there's even anything that would say that success is dictated that well by money.

Well think about it if you think youve earned that money. You can take a lot of satisfaction from sucessful hard work or doing something smart. Confidence isnt just about thinking your sexy. It can be about thinking more highly of yourself if you were able to do something big.

Or it can cause the ugly side of confidence, arrogance.

But money isn't necessarily from successful hard work or doing something smart. And successful hard work and doing something smart don't necessarily translate to money. Not sure if they even do most of the time.

All true but...

If you started a little business and worked your ass off and in 20 years its a chain of stores. Or you were a carpenter and one day saved enough money to become a builder and started building and selling homes and it snowballed until you had a dozen men working for you...

Achievement, Its a sense of achievement. The few self made men and women I know in the building industry and store owners ive done a little work for seem very confident. Entirely different for the children who inherit the money though.

 

[Fieldy409_v1legacy]

It's amusing how some people say money, yet the people who seem to actually be attracted to guys don't list it. Bitter much?

Not many people will list being attracted to money for obvious reasons.

Because of their anonymity that lets them say what they please without real consequence? Seriously, it's just a bitter thought.

Even with anonymity people may not list those things. They may fear looking shallow or being looked down on by other users for posting such things.

And yet people still do say things that make them look shallow and will cause them to be looked down upon by others. Except apparently women who all have a fetish for money.

Do you really think it's not possible, that there aren't women that could be attracted to money?

Did you seriously read this as me contending that no one ever is attracted to money?

Prehaps having money gives the man a confidence boost? Everyone agrees that confidence is sexy.

Interesting thought, though why would it give someone a confidence boost unless it was because they already believed the thing about money? It would seem like a phenomenon that feeds on itself.

But seriously, I don't know if there's even anything that would say that success is dictated that well by money.

Well think about it if you think youve earned that money. You can take a lot of satisfaction from sucessful hard work or doing something smart. Confidence isnt just about thinking your sexy. It can be about thinking more highly of yourself if you were able to do something big.

Or it can cause the ugly side of confidence, arrogance.

But money isn't necessarily from successful hard work or doing something smart. And successful hard work and doing something smart don't necessarily translate to money. Not sure if they even do most of the time.

All true but...

If you started a little business and worked your ass off and in 20 years its a chain of stores. Or you were a carpenter and one day saved enough money to become a builder and started building and selling homes and it snowballed until you had a dozen men working for you...

Achievement, Its a sense of achievement. The few self made men and women I know in the building industry and store owners ive done a little work for seem very confident. Entirely different for the children who inherit the money though.

I don't think you're painting a very accurate picture of how most people become rich though.

I think you might be a little cynical about where a gamble and hard work(but mainly a gamble) can take you in the right industry at the right time at the right place. It happens, people get rich. Not every rich person is born rich and all that inheritance money has to start somewhere.

Im not talking about billionaires though when I say rich. Just millionaires, who knows how you become a billionaire. Me and my Dad work for a fair few rich people as hes a builder contractor and im his carpentry apprentice.

Its definitly not easy but Im talking about people I know. Might be irrelevant to this discussion though since most of these people are like middle aged. I doubt that middle aged people find the same things attractive as young people.