I wouldn't "flirt" with them. I would wait until a mutual friend makes conversation with them, then join in. Simple as that.pulse2 said:
I did a similar thing for my current girlfriend, except it was over Facebook.
What's your flirt tactic?
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I did a similar thing for my current girlfriend, except it was over Facebook.
It was obvious enough, don't worry. I kind of forgot what I was saying with the second bit, the "so... Yeah" was just me being a bit bummed out because I just remembered.Nudu said:
Err, make lots of eye contact, brief conversation, more eye contact, direct questioning, ask and hope to receive.
Thank you.
I laughed a lot harder than I maybe should have to thatNot G. Ivingname said:
Thank you.
As long as you're confident, and know how to laugh at yourself, nearly anything can be used to open a successful conversation. As for actually flirting, that comes a lot more naturally to some than others.
An important thing to note is often just how subtle it is. TV, movies, and even general hearsay tends to greatly exaggerate flirting. It's also less about what you say, it's more in your body language.
An important thing to note is often just how subtle it is. TV, movies, and even general hearsay tends to greatly exaggerate flirting. It's also less about what you say, it's more in your body language.
I'm no expert on picking up the woman-folk of our species, but I'm pretty sure that "wow, you're really sucking off that ice cream like a pro" is not going to be a very successful line.Kodachi said:
But anyone is willing to try and inform me of the results.
i honestly hate to be off topic here but after reading the first few posts the only thing that came to my mind was "oh my god im home these are my people"
I stand next to them, don't introduce myself and proceed to explain the origins of Pac-Man before leaving her own.
But no seriously I can't to save my life. I'm so oblivious to the signals that indicate attraction, that my friend can spot when I like someone before I do. So I guess my method, rather than tactic, is to be myself. Which is to talk utter crap and hope they find me funny.
But no seriously I can't to save my life. I'm so oblivious to the signals that indicate attraction, that my friend can spot when I like someone before I do. So I guess my method, rather than tactic, is to be myself. Which is to talk utter crap and hope they find me funny.
I don't know. Depends on the situation and how I'm feeling. If she is 'gorgeous' then I will definitely engage in conversation. It doesn't matter if it's a two minute conversatin. I just like to get a word in. Especially if the girls particuarly attractive or intresting.
This is some sound and rational stuff. But I have to disagree on a few points...Timberwolf0924 said:
[qupte] The girl who puts out eaisly, is going to cheat on you, don't try (unless you want mushu only) the quiet girl, will take FOREVER to put out, but it's usually worth it. I've never had the quiet girl flip out and pull a whip and handcuffs out while calling her twin sister with gas powered play toys all of a sudden.
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That's not necessarily true. I've slept with a girl three hours after meeting her and it ended up being one of the purest, most wonderful relationships of my life. I've also been out with quiet girls who seemed almost bashful about sex, who then went on to cheat on me. It probably wasn't your intention to make such a sweeping generalisation, but it comes across as if this some hard 'n' fast, black 'n' white fact. Just because a girl enjoys sex doesn't mean she's going to cheat.
You need to make your intentions clear right from the beginning. If you're only out for a one night thing, make sure the other party knows you're not playing for the long term. It leads to a lot less confusion and heartache later on.
Also if a girl I was dating pulled out a whip, some handcuffs and dialled up her twin sister I'd have to check the calendar to see if it was my birthday. If it wasn't my birthday I'd probably find religion just so I had somebody to thank in my prayers.
But then I'm an enormous sexual deviant. I don't speak for everybody - I only speak for the ones that are currently masturbating (you know who are.)
Not at all. I personally hate it if girls are all demure and fragile around foul language. A girl who swears freely is usually one who is comfortable with being herself. If a girl can't use the word 'fuck' at least once then I know I'll never be able to relax around her. I swear a lot and I couldn't be with a woman who cringes every time I drop an f-bomb. Because I drop more f-bombs than a dyslexic fighter pilot.
That being said, I think we're talking about a personal taste issue here. I like it when women swear, you might not - most people probably land somewhere in the middle and don't care either way. I don't think anybody wants to be around somebody who they have to stand on airs with. Sometimes we all just want to use the word '****' and not have our significant others yelling at us like they're our fucking pastor.
Simple solution for this is either a) the one who does the asking does the paying or b) just split the bill. A girl isn't desperate if she's paid for anything on a date, nor is she dating a dead beat. She might be, but that's not something you can assume at the first date stage.
Sorry, just needed to get my two cents across on this since it kinda jagged out at me in an otherwise sound list of flirting tips.
As for me, my flirting tactic is to just blunder around drunk. I'll usually make one or two sexy, sexy mistakes per night out. Y'see, I don't just talk to the hot girls. I talk to everybody. Men and women of all shapes, sizes, ages and sexual preferences. I've never woken up next to anybody that I didn't want to sleep with the morning after.
This tactic has served me well so far. Thanks to my drunken staggerings, I'm currently dating an awesome girl. It helps if you're a friendly drunk though. I don't think there are many women out there that want to date Alabama Man or a drunken ladder theory creep.
That took so much longer to say than I intended it to.
I like to suggest that something they said is personally insulting. Something kind of dumb, that no reasonable person would actually believe is insulting.
For instance, talking to someone about motorcycles (this actually happened):
Me: I'm planning on getting my Class M license this year.
Her: You totally should. Having a motorcycle would automatically make you a thousand times cooler.
Me: *sniff* Are you implying that I am not already as cool as possible?
Works best if you have met her/him before. And it can't be used too often on the same person, but that's true of just about any tactic.
For instance, talking to someone about motorcycles (this actually happened):
Me: I'm planning on getting my Class M license this year.
Her: You totally should. Having a motorcycle would automatically make you a thousand times cooler.
Me: *sniff* Are you implying that I am not already as cool as possible?
Works best if you have met her/him before. And it can't be used too often on the same person, but that's true of just about any tactic.
I absolutely agree with the last part. I have no issues with gay guys that like to be flamboyant, but I'd never really date one. When it concerns who you're going to be with for the rest of your life, I think you're allowed to be a little bit picky.Sarcastic_Applause said:
I usually pretend I didn't see them, but still try and act sexy (i.e. swinging my hips, dashing smile, batting eyelashes). And then I usually end up doing something fucking retarded like spill my drink all over myself or sneeze all over my sleeve or trip while I'm walking.
Honestly I have no idea why I'm still single.
Honestly I have no idea why I'm still single.
I usually start with jokes or comments.
I hang near the person and wait for something to happen, usually someone else doing something stupid, and I make a humorous/sarcastic comment. Something that expresses an honest opinion (ex.: someone talks about how guns are great and I say "yeah, I await the day we can all carry our own personal murder weapons"). If the person shares my opinions they laugh, agree, or at very best join in, and either way I have an "in".
So in one comment I can judge whether someone shares my opinions and enjoys my sense of humor while beginning a conversation. From there it's just talking.
Sarcasm is my tool of choice, may it never fail me!
Edit: The above is to meet someone. If I decide to ask out someone I've been talking to for a while I like to ask at the most random time, in the middle of conversation, absolutely casually. No that's not a joke, I swear. It works:
1) It catches her so off guard you immediately see her real reaction.
2) You have just been so absurdly brash and confident that surely she should say yes, if even just to see what you'll do next.
3) It's just damn fun!
I hang near the person and wait for something to happen, usually someone else doing something stupid, and I make a humorous/sarcastic comment. Something that expresses an honest opinion (ex.: someone talks about how guns are great and I say "yeah, I await the day we can all carry our own personal murder weapons"). If the person shares my opinions they laugh, agree, or at very best join in, and either way I have an "in".
So in one comment I can judge whether someone shares my opinions and enjoys my sense of humor while beginning a conversation. From there it's just talking.
Sarcasm is my tool of choice, may it never fail me!
Edit: The above is to meet someone. If I decide to ask out someone I've been talking to for a while I like to ask at the most random time, in the middle of conversation, absolutely casually. No that's not a joke, I swear. It works:
1) It catches her so off guard you immediately see her real reaction.
2) You have just been so absurdly brash and confident that surely she should say yes, if even just to see what you'll do next.
3) It's just damn fun!
