What's your flirt tactic?

[Boris Goodenough]

Works every time!

 

[Booze Zombie]

"Hey, I'm drunk and you're amazingly attractive. Care to work from there?"

They'll either say yes or no, it's not so bad.

 

[LuckyClover95]

I know it's a bad answer, but I just 'be myself' I ask a polite amount of questions, crack jokes etc. I never actively flirt though so it'd be difficult to say :/

 

[Supernova2000]

I just don't bother at all; women keep shifting the goal posts faster than formula 1 cars can change gears, so I've given up altogether.

 

[Doclector]

Ha, haahaahaa! Me flirting, you crack me up, haaahaahaa!

Oh wait, you're serious?

I don't flirt. It would be a massive insult towards the object of my affections to flirt with her.

 

[TerribleAssassin]

I don't have a flirt "tactic" as such.

I just talk to a lass and see how the conversation goes. I'm fortunate that I have a "gift of the gab".

Making a lass laugh is a good way to start.

Failing that, cheesy chat up lines.

"Excuse me but there is something beautiful in your eyes ........ it's my reflection"

Seconded, I couldn't seriously flirt with a girl if I tried, usually they talk to me, which makes it so much more easier.

 

[Nouw]

"Gimme some sugar babe."

I wonder if it'd work though.

 

[Techno Squidgy]

I used to be quite a natural flirt according to my friends, I don't know, I wasn't aware I was doing it. Then I fell for a girl pretty hard, she led me on, I got hurt, now I can barely speak to women. The wound will heal eventually but goddamn does it hurt.

 

[sanomaton]

I don't flirt intentionally but it always sort of happens. I'm friendly to new people I meet which is misinterpreted as flirting I guess... So even guys whom I'm not that interested in end up asking if i'm on Facebook. Which I'm not! Whatever happened to asking for one's phonenumber, jeez -_-

However, when I do flirt the guy will know it. I look a guy in the eyes, look away with a smile on my face, then glance back with a bigger smile if he's still looking at me and smiling as well. If the guy comes to talk to me, great! If not I still feel like I have made someone's day a little bit better by smiling to them.

 

[Killertje]

I don't. I'm a gutless, spineless man, with absolutely no knowledge on how to flirt. If I tried, it would be so horribly creepy that I might actually be arrested for it. I am so hopeless at romance that I consider it a punishment for me to have been born heterosexual.

I find that comment extremely offensive.

Before you get your knickers in a twist, I don't think it's any easier for homosexual or bisexual people, and my problem is having sexuality of any sort. I'm not meant to be crippled by sexual urges. I'm not meant to pursue romance. Yet, my endocrine system tells me that I am, and punishes me for my inability to engage women in any sort of romantic interaction. My whole body is broken because I was born with superfluous and dangerous sexual characteristics.

The number of anti social responses here is downright depressing. Social networking is required for LIFE, people!

If possible, I intend to make it so that I don't need to be social, ever again. As soon as the neurobiologists discover the neural pathways that are involved in social interactions, romance and love, I'm having them all destroyed.

But seriously, confidence is really all thats required. Don't know many girls who go for self hating pussies.

This has been mentioned by many people. They don't explain how one is meant to gain confidence. Women want men with money, with talent, with things that I do not and can never have. How is one meant to be confident with what they are when that makes them repulsive to women? How is one meant to be confident when they know that they are a genetic mistake?

I can't change the fact that I'm ugly as sin. I can't change the fact that all I have at the age of twenty-two is a terrible, unfulfilling part-time job in retail, with no university qualifications to back it up. I can't change the fact that nearly everything I'm interested in is repugnant to the females of the species. It is extraordinarily difficult to change my eccentricities, and tiresome at that. How is one really meant to derive confidence from that?

You should try pretending you are awesome. If you do it long enough (and in public) you will start to believe it. And the funny thing is that basically if you act like you are confident you ARE confident. People take on different roles for different occasions because they believe that role is what they are supposed to act like. For instance, when you talk to the hot babe at the counter you probably have no trouble paying for your stuff and being nice, and if she's any good at her job she will be nice too. Because being nice is part of the customer-cashier role.

Now pretend you are awesome and talk to some girl you like, don't say "Hi I'm awesome", that's not what awesome people do. Just act like you are worth her time but don't outright lie to her face. If she doesn't go for it, don't blame it on yourself, blame it on her poor taste and find another one you like. You don't have to do this every day, just whenever you feel like it. When you are done feeling sorry for yourself and get that feeling that you want to DO something, act on it.

This might feel like lying to yourself, but right now you ARE a sad wimp because you act like one. Start acting like what you want to be and soon enough you ARE what you act like. You can start slow on this, small victories will give you confidence. Just remember, if YOU don't believe you are worth their time, THEY will pick up on it and believe the same thing.

 

[The Stonker]

So this gorgeous girl / guy just walked in (By "in", I'm most likely referring to a stable environment of which you can instigate conversation, and no, not your home because that would instead be invasive, unless of course you were having a party etc), how do you go about instigating conversation with the person and what do you usually do to find success depending on what you were looking for in the first place, be it a relationship or fling.

"Hey baby, how you doing *FLASH!*"

 

[spielburg]

I always walk up to girls I like and ask them 1 (and only 1) question about their lives. Most girl will just start talking and they dont't stop for about 2 hours. I just sit back and pretend to be listening. At the end of the night, they thank me for being such a great listener and they usually want to see me again.

Best Tactic EVARR.

 

[rokkolpo]

Lock eyes, from across the room.
Down my drink, while the rhythms boom.
Take your hand and skip the names, no need here for the silly games.
Make our way through the smoke and crowd.
The club is the sky and I'm on your cloud.

AND I JIZZ IN MAH PAAAAAANTS!
(damnit I thought I'd get further in the song this time >_>)

 

[Vault Citizen]

I don't need one, I'm engaged

 

[sanomaton]

*wall of text*

*snip*
When you are done feeling sorry for yourself and get that feeling that you want to DO something, act on it.

This might feel like lying to yourself, but right now you ARE a sad wimp because you act like one. Start acting like what you want to be and soon enough you ARE what you act like. You can start slow on this, small victories will give you confidence. Just remember, if YOU don't believe you are worth their time, THEY will pick up on it and believe the same thing.

This is the best advice I have seen here. Very wise, my man, very wise!

I can tell you this, my ex wasn't the best looking guy in the world being overweight and whatnot BUT he looked very attractive because he was confident and comfortable with himself. In my eyes he became even more attractive the more time I spent with him (before we were even dating) because he knew what he wanted and didn't feel sorry for himself for being overweight and all that.

 

[spielburg]

People are like fucking cats, the more you don't want them anywhere fucking near you, the more likely they are to come over and never fuck off.

That is my flirt tactic. I have been doing it accidentally for years.

The first time I read that I thought it said: People like fucking cats.

You scared the shit out of me!

 

[Generic_Username]

I came to this thread expecting to be the only person that fails miserably at flirting (which is why I don't). Nice to see I'm not.

 

[Enfid]

There should be tips for the less talkative, introverted people as well. "Be funny" is hard to do when you don't like talking to begin with. Or your topic of interest (that you can talk about) doesn't interest the majority of people. The Pac man thing comes to mind.

Also, what to do if one doesn't like going to clubs or drinking? There has to be more than one person who dislike going to such socially-intensive places.

Just because one is introverted does not make one "a lone freak". We just have to do things differently. What to do, I'm still trying to figure that out.

 

[Slash Dementia]

I don't really flirt at all anymore. When I would, it was just being nice to them, ask them questions, and being honest with them--oh, and compliment them a lot, but with an almost amazed tone. Flirting usually wasn't to be with someone, but to get a friendship going that would hopefully lead to something more. After a while of getting to know each other, they'd often fall for me, or me for them. The downside of all of this was that, when it happened [liking each other], one would have to agree or disagree, and it would make the friendship awkward for me, and we'd eventually stop talking. Meh.

I have no need to flirt anymore, but with the person I'm with.

 

[Oassis]

High explosives.

...

Yeah, that explains my ability to flirt with anyone. (Which is to say, none at all).