I've faced death more than a few times...grandparents, a lover who died on my lap, and a few friends....not once has a tear been shed...And I do mean that these people were close..My grandfather was chieftain of our clan, the one who taught me to fight, to think for myself, to be rational rather than panic...to see life in a " thats just how it is sorta way"...he was a father figure to me more than anything, and I his prized grandchild, and heiress....
but again, we have a " thats how life rolls" mentality...and there was also a...I don't know if I would call it a cultural, but more tribal belief that...letting a death tear you apart, sendin you int sadness, and depressions was considered selfish..
the idea was...that most of those emotions and responses were based on how that person made you, and you alone feel, and you mourn the loss of your own self ...not the person themselves, and what they accomplished as a whole... so rather than be sad, one should be joyful that someone is completing the life cycle, and potentially gets to learn more about life in the moments of death, than anyone ever could living...
though I admit thats MUCH MUCH easier when it's natural causes...The lover's death I mentioned was a girlfriend I had in Uni, who was given an incorrect prescription that caused cardiac arrest while she was sleeping with her head on my lap while watching movies...
again though, no tears..
now...were something to happen to my children, I doubt I could hold anything back.. more so if I knew it was something I could have sacrificed my life to protect them from, and failed...
but again, we have a " thats how life rolls" mentality...and there was also a...I don't know if I would call it a cultural, but more tribal belief that...letting a death tear you apart, sendin you int sadness, and depressions was considered selfish..
the idea was...that most of those emotions and responses were based on how that person made you, and you alone feel, and you mourn the loss of your own self ...not the person themselves, and what they accomplished as a whole... so rather than be sad, one should be joyful that someone is completing the life cycle, and potentially gets to learn more about life in the moments of death, than anyone ever could living...
though I admit thats MUCH MUCH easier when it's natural causes...The lover's death I mentioned was a girlfriend I had in Uni, who was given an incorrect prescription that caused cardiac arrest while she was sleeping with her head on my lap while watching movies...
again though, no tears..
now...were something to happen to my children, I doubt I could hold anything back.. more so if I knew it was something I could have sacrificed my life to protect them from, and failed...