You forgot Catholic.Uriel-238 said:that gays are seen by some as rapists and child molesters (and contagiously gay)...
You forgot Catholic.Uriel-238 said:that gays are seen by some as rapists and child molesters (and contagiously gay)...
I was always under the belief of it's not something you're born with, but it is still not a choice. I feel it's developed in childhood, and your surroundings, which is why parents who have a gay child, any subsequent children have a much higher chance of being gay as well.Infernai said:The thing is, i havn't really yet to see anything that suggests that it is linked solely to nature either.theultimateend said:This kinda reminds me of when people say Evolution is a belief system.Infernai said:Contrary to popular belief, i don't believe Sexuality is 'encoded' or we are 'born with it'...I'm sorry, but to me, that is right up there with saying 'god made me do it'. Sexuality, atleast to me, is determined by a persons nurture as is most other things. Ok, naturally SOME things are passed through genetics, not denying that, but Sexuality ain't one of them. Sexuality is a choice, that simple.
It's really odd to me.
Because how would folks feel if someone just said one day "Arithmetic is a belief system, frankly I don't think division works that way."
Wouldn't that come across as odd? Kinda stupid, maybe crazy?
There is so little evidence to support sexuality as a choice that I find it so odd that anyone could say it without following it up with "I've done absolutely no research into the topic."
At least then I can read it and say "Well I suppose if I was just randomly making up theories about how the world works based on my own personal feelings I could come up with crazier things to say."
Otherwise I'm just left stumped.
There is a really long blurb about why this is a dangerous view even if you personally don't use it to hurt people, but this question gets brought up on these forums about once every three days so its obviously a waste of time.
Apparently nobody has access to case studies anymore. If only there was some interconnected series of computers where this sort of thing could be answered.
I'll see if Al Gore is around for some help on the problem.
I guess if i see some evidence/reports/etc that do indeed prove that sexuality is linked mostly to nature rather then nurture, then i'll believe it. Part of the reason i believe it to be a choice is that...we all have free will. Even if it is limited by other factors in the society we live in, we still are fully capable of making choices and coming to conclusions. That's more or less why i believe that Nature doesn't really determine much about a person socially, including Sexuality.
As i said though, if someone or you did provide evidence that proves the contrary i'll gladly back off and say i was wrong.
That would qualify as the pointless bullshit society attaches to sex. I don't feel it's important to me or the philosophical issue at hand. No one (probably) has ever allowed an open and honest pedophile into the priesthood, yet children were raped. A pedophile who does not rape kids is not a pedophile. A celibate "heterosexual" priest who does, is a pedophile. Actions speak louder than alleged preferences.Uriel-238 said:According to the Roman Catholic Church, a man not having sex with men is different than a man not having sex with women, since the latter can join seminary and become a priest. The former cannot, even though either would be taking a vow of celebacy and ergo not having sex.
To specific conservative protestant faiths, a man not having sex with men is not gay until he has sex with a man. If he has sex with his wife a thousand times and then has sex with one man, he will be ostracized for being gay, even if he has no inclination to have sex with another man again, and even if the sex occurred in unusual circumstances (say, he was raped by Bubba in prison).
balls to that (pun slightly intended). i was raised by an irish catholic family but i'm bisexual. my family have expressed interest in my sex life, but always ask about girls and never guys. they havent entertained that notion. but there is no real proof.Jason Druckenmiller said:*snip the massive wall of text.*
i'm pretty much the opposite. I identify as hetero publicly, but that's mainly because of the people around me (central scotland, not a nice place to live). i do have a group of friends who are pretty much all bisexual who i'm more open with.Jason Druckenmiller said:There is way too much to this topic to read through it all. But I like the question.
I identify 100% as homosexual, however technically I'm bisexual.I find women attractive, I can get aroused until orgasm to women in porn, however what I can't/wont do is date women. It's more the normalcy's off their personality, habits, and other factors that just turns me off completely. In porn, I don't deal with any of that.I could go on to argue the notion that everyone is bisexual because humans are not literally attracted to gender. There are characteristics of the genders that people find attractive, and you'll often find people being attracted to traps of the other gender.
So, that is why I identify as homosexual, not because I don't find women physically attractive, but because I don't find them mentally attractive
One reason I shave daily, but I do like to keep five o'clock shadow.Drummah said:I'm gay for all these reasons. Including not having kids.<3Jedoro said:I'm straight because:
-Boobs are awesome
-Can't have a kid with another guy
-Female voices are much more soothing
Plus no scratchy facial hair when making out.
I tell people that I'm "gay", but that's a simplification like these things always are. I've had feelings for women before too, there've just been far, far fewer of them and all have been after knowing them for some time - I don't really ever feel attraction to female strangers. It's not like I would run and hide if I ever did though.TheSolemnHypnotic said:TLR: How is it you're only heterosexual/homosexual? Am I completely over looking/ undermining the physical/sexual attraction aspect of relationships?
Even if you haven't, knowing something about sex is probably a good idea. Good thing you're posting this to the internet.TheSolemnHypnotic said:Edit: No, I've never been in a romantic relationship. [I know nothing about sex].
You cannot stop this stupid argument from happening. The whole ethical and moral argument against homosexuality is so incredibly terrible that this is the only place where there's really room left to argue. Despite the fact that we have no idea either way about it being a choice (nor is it clear how we would even go about figuring out such a thing), everyone just argues that the answer is clear and obvious and then gives whatever answer best aligns to their political/religious philosophy.TheSolemnHypnotic said:Edit II: Why do people keep thinking I said sexuality is a choice? If you get that impression I clearly need to have my post beta'd.
To a degree, you probably don't need to - the man or woman who has never had any romantic or sexual feelings for someone of the same gender is pretty rare. It's just a question of degree and whether they have any desire to act on it. Those that have feelings and no desire to act present an interesting case perhaps worthy of discussion though.TheSolemnHypnotic said:Edit III: Turn your Auto-Defense off! I'm not trying to convert everyone into a bisexual.
Internet forum, so no.TheSolemnHypnotic said:Edit IV: Is there a way to turn the anger off in here?
No, for most people we have no fucking clue whether it's a choice or not. Hell, we don't even really have a handle on what we mean when we say "choice". The arguments against choice are almost exclusively the result of gay people being asked and saying "I definitely didn't choose", which is not how you answer questions like this. You don't do psychology research by asking people how they think their mind works.TheSolemnHypnotic said:Edit V: I KNOW FOR MOST PEOPLE SEXUALITY IS NOT A CHOICE.
Far from it. I had never been in a (real) relationship when I was sixteen. I "dated" a beard when I was sixteen, but that certainly shouldn't count.TheSolemnHypnotic said:Edit VI: There is no way I am the only 16-year-old who has never been in a relationship.
I can't be bothered with any arguments atm, but this claim is not one I've heard before. Can you cite the source on this? Also, if anything, that piece of evidence could just as easily point to nature genetically speaking. Anyway, source meh!Jason Druckenmiller said:I was always under the belief of it's not something you're born with, but it is still not a choice. I feel it's developed in childhood, and your surroundings, which is why parents who have a gay child, any subsequent children have a much higher chance of being gay as well.
That's the sexuality = behavior standard right there, granted, in the case of pedophilia, there is some history backing it. According to the DSM III, a clinical pedophile was ruled out unless they acted on their sexual desires for prepubescent children. I don't know if that was altered in the DSM IV, but they were considering taking out the ruling, since those with pedophilic tendencies can be effectively treated before they act out, if they are detected early. Unfortunately, pedophilia is so stigmatic in the contemporary age, that no-one wants to be diagnosed as such, so in the DSM V they'll probably create another term for pedophilic tendencies. Still most people in the tendencies category don't act out on such impulses, though the difference between the categories specifically the issue of an offense.zelda2fanboy said:No one (probably) has ever allowed an open and honest pedophile into the priesthood, yet children were raped. A pedophile who does not rape kids is not a pedophile...
I brought up the priesthood because it was an example of a conservative religious front that has taken the position away from the sexuality = behavior standard held by conservative churches. I wasn't intending on referring to the recent controversies regarding the pedophilia offenses and the cover-up. Whether or not they are the pointless bullshit society attaches to sex, they have a lot of influence regarding large bodies of people, and we New Atheists are not yet pursuasive in convincing the masses to excercise a a bit of judgement when their chosen leaders of faith feed them a line. Hence, I figure their opinion, no matter how absurd, needs to be acknowledged before it is then rejected.(Also, pedophilia does not equate to homosexuality. The other poster brought up priests, not me.)
Quoted so you might actually read, was not about to read 10 pages of posts, and I know no one else will read.TheSolemnHypnotic said:Please read. How is it that people are capable of just sticking to one gender of people? I understand that we need some people to reproduce but, idk. If you were in a romantic relationship with some one but met some one else of the same/opposite gender who made you feel 100,000,000 times better/more loved/more cared for, you wouldn't consider them an option based on what's in their pants? Gender is a very flexible thing (feminine characteristics found in males, vice versa). Or do you think this theory is the result of being alone for so long and once I engage in socionormative behaviors I'll be able to see in more black and white than gray?
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