Would it bother you..
- Thread starter EmperorDude
- Start date
Recommended Videos
thats an unfortunate situation, I feel like religion is something a couple has to agree on, or at least be tolerant of, or the relationship is doomed.EmperorDude said:
I'm sorry guys, I posted this in a rush, so I didn't word it as well as I normally would have done.
The topic came to mind after I talked to the girl I care about today, who is a Christian. Now, her belief is that a person MUST believe in God, and be a good person at heart, or they will end up in Hell. Now as an Atheist, that kind of leaves me out in the cold there (pun not intended) I suppose I feel confused about the whole, how a person could say that they love someone, yet see them end up in Hell. Not assuming anything bad about them, just confused about the concept.
Again, apologies for the confusing opening.
The topic came to mind after I talked to the girl I care about today, who is a Christian. Now, her belief is that a person MUST believe in God, and be a good person at heart, or they will end up in Hell. Now as an Atheist, that kind of leaves me out in the cold there (pun not intended) I suppose I feel confused about the whole, how a person could say that they love someone, yet see them end up in Hell. Not assuming anything bad about them, just confused about the concept.
Again, apologies for the confusing opening.
It would bother me alot. But unfortunately a relationship is where religion will be a major factor in it's success, especially if one of them is deeply in the faith. I had a friend who dealt with this firsthand and ended up breaking up with the girl because she said "My parents won't allow us to marry and fully accept you until you turn your heart to Jesus!" I have no problem with religion, I just have a problem with people who feel the need to try and push it on you.
Yes...that is true. I openly belittled the religion of the girl I was interested in for a while. I didn't even have to speak on some occasions, don't exactly have poker face. In my defence it was a strange amalgamation of all the major faiths that she believed in. If you asked her what religion she believed in, she would say "all of them"...how could I not? Next girl definately has to be an atheist, like me. So basically yes to the original question...learnt my lesson.VitalSigns said:
Only if it got to the point of constant reminders, yes.EmperorDude said:
Ie: "Do you want sugar in your tea?"
"No thanks, Sugar is for None believers and will be damned for eternity for their hedonistic ways"
Otherwise, you shouldn't really give a toss about what anyone thinks of your religious views.
You can believe in the fourteen space chimpanzes of Jupiter if you wanted too, not my business.
It wouldn't bother me as long as he didn't want me to convert and force me to go to church with him every freckin' Sunday. Though I think the most terrible thing my significant other could do to me is that he would feel sorry for me and tell me that, "God loves me anyway, even though I haven't yet found him." Thanks for belittling my personal opinion there!
So, if I'm reading this correctly, stated plainly, if my significant other believed that I was going to Hell because I was not a Christian, would that bother me? Yes it would. I believe differences in root beliefs, especially religious or political, are destructive to a relationship. Christians believe this too, by the way, which is why they speak of the idea of being "equally yoked" with their partners.
Now, maybe my hypothetical SO wouldn't be particularly evangelical, maybe we could agree to disagree. But in the end, knowing that they were praying for my salvation at night, which is to say, knowing that they were, in some way, trying to change me would piss me off.
Now, maybe my hypothetical SO wouldn't be particularly evangelical, maybe we could agree to disagree. But in the end, knowing that they were praying for my salvation at night, which is to say, knowing that they were, in some way, trying to change me would piss me off.
Well, I'm not currently with anyone, but the person I would like to be with has the same views as me, and neither of us belive our views are gonna send us to hell. (We're both atheists btw)
Actually I wouldn't mind so much if she were particularly fervent in her belief, provided we get angry make-up sex after.
And I like a theological argument as much as the next man.
And I like a theological argument as much as the next man.