snowman6251 said:
Same boat, mate.
Or at least I've been there before, empathize, also have trouble reading social cues, ect.
Although, as an observer, I'm fantastic at reading social cues and stuff, just never when it involves me. Go figure.
So what I see here is a classic case of neither of you knows what the other really thinks/feels. You're both playing the wait and see card. She doesn't seem to be showing overt signs of attraction, though she is showing at least that she enjoys your company. Thus it is possible that she views your friendship as platonic. Or she's playing it cool just like you are. Because you are not being overt either as far as signs of attraction go. You've asked her out on pretty safe friend things. You've been very careful to word your invites as not to imply "dating" while thinking to yourself-"this is a data."
I did the same thing with a girl I liked a lot last year. I was very political in my advances, never implying that I wanted to be her boyfriend while maintaining that I enjoyed hanging out with her. Asked her to go to a movie with her, went to my homecoming dance with her. And she seemed to enjoy herself ect. When she asked me to a dance, I thought to myself that this was "the sign" or whatever. Especially because my friends encouraged me that it was. Long story short, she told me she had no interest in pursuing a relationship.
After that, we stayed friends for a while, then we both went to different colleges and I haven't spoken to her in months.
On top of this, the year before this, my first girlfriend and I broke up in part due to miscommunication on my part. I never officially "asked her out." This little thing ended up being important to her, because it brings out into the open all of your feelings. We had been "dating" for about a year at this point. But I had never asked her out, and she never asked me out. We just kinda, had each other. When I saw pictures of her with another guy, I flipped. She responded with saying if I liked her so much, why did I never ask her out.
Wow, didn't mean to dump my stories on you....sorry about that.
Point being, diplomacy and playing the "nice, sensitive, mysterious" type might bring about rejection anyway. At this point, it sounds like you've developed enough of a friendly rapport. If you have feelings for her, ask her out officially. See what happens.