There is actually not that much intellectual merit in forcing real life events, statistics and alike to fit your worldview, no matter how many technical words you have learned during your curriculum you attach to it. Anybody can nitpick certain phenomena and take the one interpretation that would confirm their pre-made conclusion while ignoring all others. It seems that what determines how interesting the theories are is a matter of bias towards the posited theory and person presenting it.
Take the following: " Taking responsibility also means acknowledging that even if you are not a predator, even if you've never hurt anyone, the fact that you culturally resemble people who do is not an accident. "
If used by a (far) right wing person regarding issues prevalent among the muslim community for example, it suddenly would lose all its intellectual merit and I am certain the person saying it would receive a lot of negative labels by the same people who are defending this line of thought right now.
"But if we accept that predators can look like us, that they can share the same cultural expression and cultural identity as us, then we have to ask an incredibly difficult and troubling question. What is it about our behaviour which makes it possible for predators to be predators and still look like us? What is it that we do which can camouflage predation? How do we fit into a culture that allows predators to thrive?"
This part is a further development on the guilt by cultural association.
Why are you so focused on "guilt" and feeling like someone's trying to blame you?
It is a relevant question to ask, what is it about the millions of things people do that allows bad people to carry on in their midst? I think what's being asked for in terms of taking responsibility is something more akin to Bystander training, albeit behaviour a lower level than the overt inappropriateness and potential danger that Bystander focuses on. It is in this sense that your analogy is wrong. In fact we are all to some degree asked to take responsibility and look out for and discourage unhealthy attitudes that may lead to harm, every day as citizens and workers, and Muslims are no exception to that.
Where I think we have a blind spot is that where something like Islamofascism sticks out a mile as a specific problem, unhealthy male attitudes to women and sex are much more easily written off as "locker room" talk, or "boys will be boys". Boys and men do take pride in how many women they've screwed, how hot those women were, and use it as a form of measuring themselves socially. It's "natural", so the feeling often goes, not harmful. At the extreme this is much of why incels exist, because they feel their lack of sex humiliates them and makes them inferior, but at a lower level it's also prevalent. Does anyone really feel confident to claim a drive to screw women will not encourage males to press harder and further, and that this will lead to sexual assault?
I think about the recent case of a policeman who sexually assaulted and murdered a woman in London. He had quite the history of talking about women with fellow officers that made numerous female colleagues uncomfortable, but which some of his male colleagues passed off as apparently normal to the point that at the trial some wrote letters of support for him as a good police officer. Predators camouflaged in plain sight, indeed: right in the middle of a police force.
It's difficult, because many if not most heterosexual men have got involved in this sort of social measuring themselves - I know I have. Here perhaps guilt is a thing, because if the issue is posed that the penis-measuring we got up to (and potentially still do) is an element of unhealthy attitudes that leads some men to sexual assault, then we have been part of the problem. But adult responsibility is also reflecting on our actions, accepting we may have erred and trying to do better. I understand instictive resentment of criticism because it's emotionally painful, but I just don't think it's a useful or mature way to go about one's life.