Your Views on Marriage

[Mr.Pandah]

But wouldn't true love mean you will still go that extra mile? Even after you are married? I don't see marriage as an ending, but a new beginning.

No, because I believe marriage changes love for the worse. People can truely be in love, and have that love change after marriage due to the new nature of that obligation.

Well then, our ideas of love differ then. I see it that you'd still put in the effort if you really loved the person. Look at it this way, you've loved this person for a good portion of your life. You say your vows, move into a new home, you're still in love, right? So why would the love stop? Unless you weren't really in love after all.

 

[ae86gamer]

Marriage, to me, is a process in which you slowly start to resent the person you once loved and in the end they're also the person you end up giving half of your stuff to.

 

[LooK iTz Jinjo]

Marriage was invented in order to keep everyone in England of the same religion. It's a now pointless tradition and once you enter into it, like the army, your life is over, unless you get out. God I hope you get out!

Seriously I don't need a piece of paper telling my girl I love her and vise versa.

 

[Skeleon]

I agree it's mainly a label.
Many people live together and even raise kids but never get married.
At the same time, many people who are married cheat on their partner and whatnot.
Just because two people are married doesn't mean they truly love each other and vice versa.

 

[BonsaiK]

Hey everyone.
I recently had an arguement with a person about marriage. This person believes that marriage is just a label.

I also believed that marriage is a special bond and promise between two people that shows that they will only love and be with each other until they die.

I've always kind of considered marraige sacred (so to speak) and I think if you take the leap, you should be ready for the long haul.
I also always thought that by being married, you may have the extra incentive to try harder to work through problems and try to figure things out.

What is your view of marriage?

The only person you need to get a consensus with is the person you're thinking about marrying/not marrying. If you're considering a long-term relationship with me, then we can talk. If not, then it really doesn't matter what I think, does it?

 

[Ghost8585]

I actually stumbled on this site the other day: http://www.nomarriage.com/

It's pretty good and kind of echos my thoughts on marriage.

 

[Guitarmasterx7]

Marriage is a religious thing, so that alone makes me completely uninterested in it. Though looking at it from a purely legal standpoint, all it does is say "Now if you break up with your girlfriend she gets half your shit." I don't know, I personally couldn't see myself committing to one person forever, because no matter who it is or how much you love them, you will get tired of seeing them every day of your life eventually, and I'm not too keen on losing half my shit, so it definitely isn't for me. Really I think that it's just the amplification of a method of religious control through political validation.

 

[magnuslion]

It's a commitment. a Decision to love someone through the good times and the bad, were you take your much-here-touted "feelings and passion" and put your money where your mouth is. Feeling passionate about someone in a young relationship is easy, instinctual. Anyone can do it. Making a commitment to stand by someone no matter what- that takes sacrifice. and most people are too much a bunch of pussies who whine and cry about "happiness" to stick it out through the bad times.

So for the majority that have posted here, I would say marriage is probably a bad idea for you. as is any other commitment you cannot back out of easily or could potentially effect your happiness.

For me, when I commit to someone or something, it means something. It means that I will be there for life.

 

[magnuslion]

Marriage was invented in order to keep everyone in England of the same religion. It's a now pointless tradition and once you enter into it, like the army, your life is over, unless you get out. God I hope you get out!

Seriously I don't need a piece of paper telling my girl I love her and vise versa.

are you serious? you really believe it started in England? wow. just wow.

 

[LooK iTz Jinjo]

Marriage was invented in order to keep everyone in England of the same religion. It's a now pointless tradition and once you enter into it, like the army, your life is over, unless you get out. God I hope you get out!

Seriously I don't need a piece of paper telling my girl I love her and vise versa.

are you serious? you really believe it started in England? wow. just wow.

Sorry let me rephrase that. That is why Christianity adopted it. 'Cos what ever faction of christian they are/were there wanted everyone to be that particular one hence why marriage is structured the way it is today around religion.

 

[Nutcase]

Hey everyone.
I recently had an arguement with a person about marriage. This person believes that marriage is just a label.

I also believed that marriage is a special bond and promise between two people that shows that they will only love and be with each other until they die.

I've always kind of considered marraige sacred (so to speak) and I think if you take the leap, you should be ready for the long haul.
I also always thought that by being married, you may have the extra incentive to try harder to work through problems and try to figure things out.

What is your view of marriage?

I want the government entirely out of it, ie. for marriage to have no legal status whatsoever. Various religions each have their own definitions of marriage, and individual people have more still. I want them all to be able to "marry". Having marriage be a legal label cheapens it, and results in endless legislative squabbles because some people want special privileges and some want to legislate the morality of others.

Relationships are so much more than can put into words, and yet a vow is a bunch of words. Committing to a person is beautiful and I think I'd like to do that one day, I just don't want an artificial topping like marriage on it.

 

[Kiju]

Marriage has become more of a necessity than a boon.

You need it to get the legal benefits and whatnot, so it's like if you want to live with someone you love, you /have/ to get married, officially, under the Christian faith.

I'm just one of those wierdos that believes love runs deeper than just a fucking ring and some old guy saying we're Man and Wife.

Yeah? Well, no shit bub, we've been Man and Wife ever since I swore to love her after asking her to be my wife. I don't need you to make it official, and neither does she.

Gripegripegripe, bitchbitchbitch. That is all.

 

[Pegghead]

Well I honestly think marriage is a wonderful, special bond of the undying love between two people (Why do you think, uh, people with sexual preferences are always fighting for it) but too many people rush into it and often end up getting divorced. My paraents, been together for over 20 years, my dads parents...well they got divorced (My father finds it a very touchy subject)

 

[Bourne Endeavor]

Marriage is a religious thing, so that alone makes me completely uninterested in it. Though looking at it from a purely legal standpoint, all it does is say "Now if you break up with your girlfriend she gets half your shit." I don't know, I personally couldn't see myself committing to one person forever, because no matter who it is or how much you love them, you will get tired of seeing them every day of your life eventually, and I'm not too keen on losing half my shit, so it definitely isn't for me. Really I think that it's just the amplification of a method of religious control through political validation.

Actually... while that is a true statement, you may suffer the same consequences should you live with a person for I believe either six months or a year. The Government considers that a marriage and the 50/50 rule can be invoked. My mom's boss had a ***** of a time fighting it after his ex was attempting to rob him blind. He got out of it and the split was favor more favorable on his end as it should be (she was unemployed, barely worked while he had his own business) but yeah...

Anyhow marriage holds no significance to me. Would I go through with it? Certainly, it isn't as if I have some long standing resentment towards marriage, it simply is never amounted to a priority. It is essentially a religious commitment (I'm an atheist) followed by a lavish party. The only difference between the before and after is you now have a piece of paper proving your love to one another and considering the divorce rate is up to 54-56%, that proof is rather questionable.

I suppose in the end the moments surrounding what will transpire into marriage is worthwhile, such as the proposal, the vows, seeing your GF (soon to be wife) in a bribe's dress and so forth. That definitely has some worthwhile merit.

 

[Soxafloppin]

Well it cots ALLOT of money, and i do believe its just a label.

Il probley get married when im like 35, since thats when you start to go downhill.

 

[Seanchaidh]

Marriage is just a label--or maybe more accurately, just a word. It's up to you to make it more than that in your particular case.

 

[Emilie Diabolica]

marriage is not for a third party to confirm that you love each other.
marriage is to show your partner, and possibly any third parties, that you really are committed. there's a big difference between saying you love each other and publicly making a lifelong (well, it's not like that anymore what with the divorce rate) commitment to each other.

i plan to marry my boyfriend. i can't wait, and to refute all this marriage=death crap, he is over the moon about it and cant wait either
xD

 

[Scarecrow38]

Marriage, to me, is the sign of a deep love between two people and their willingness to devote their lives to themselves as a couple. It's a symbolic gesture of recognising the connection they share.

Whether it's between a male and a female or two of the same gender, love is the most important aspect of it, and if they have that connection there's no reason they shouldn't be married.

 

[Cxizent]

Question: If marriage is just a label and a tax break (Also, is it even a tax break anymore? In Australia (NSW) I think that de facto couples have rights pretty much on par with married ones), why don't you just do it the moment you enter a relationship with someone?
If it's just a label, and the way you type is "just a label", then I can see you don't care for how people label you. Ergo you shouldn't care if they label you as married. And if it's more profitable for both parties concerned, I can see no negative (pre nup pending) for you.

Then again, if a proper marriage is a sacred bond between two people that lasts for life, and takes a lot of planning, forethought, commitment, trust, honesty, love and a big ol' fashioned celebration with family and friends, I guess I'm just talking out of my ass.

 

[matrix3509]

Your error here is that you are asking the Escapistinternet about marriage.

Anyway, as has been said many times before, it isn't a question of if you love someone enough, its a question of whether you can tolerate them for the rest of your life.