Your Views on Marriage

[VanityGirl]

Hey everyone.
I recently had an arguement with a person about marriage. This person believes that marriage is just a label.

I also believed that marriage is a special bond and promise between two people that shows that they will only love and be with each other until they die.

I've always kind of considered marraige sacred (so to speak) and I think if you take the leap, you should be ready for the long haul.
I also always thought that by being married, you may have the extra incentive to try harder to work through problems and try to figure things out.

What is your view of marriage?

 

[Metric Monkey]

"Once you get married, your life is over."
My dad told me that.
From what I've seen in people. I think it's true.

 

[pantsoffdanceoff]

[img/]http://www.wearyourbeer.com/images/Humor_Wedding_Game_Over_Black_Shirt.jpg[/img]
Pretty much...
And it is pretty much a label, its pretty sad if you need an outside party to deem that you love someone.

 

[Ninonybox_v1legacy]

"Once you get married, your life is over."
My dad told me that.
From what I've seen in people. I think it's true.

and sex is just done to

 

[Smokepuddle]

It saves you money when it comes to taxes...
So go for it I guess.

 

[azurawolf]

Marriage is not something you rush into. You have to really think about it before you go that extra step in your relationship.
My ex and I were engaged for 2 1/2 years before we broke apart. Thankfully, we never actually made that final step but we didn't realize how much thinking has to go into something like that.
It isn't necessary for two people who really love each other but it is a nice way for you to show each other, your family, and your friends that you are willing to be with that person for the rest of your lives.
Though marriage honestly scares the crap out of me because I haven't seen too many marriages work out. People feel they have to get married and it ends up that they don't actually love each other like they thought they did.

 

[Mr.Pandah]

To me, marriage is something that, when two people feel they are in love enough, and they want to truly express their feelings for eachother in all ways possible, marriage is one of the last things you can do. In all honesty, its what you make of it. To me, I see my parents, and I see two people that deep down, really love and care for eachother.

Sure, marriage didn't bring about this feeling, but when there are heated arguments between the two, they both know that a long time ago, they took those special vows, and they are in this thing together.

Sure, you can say its just a label, or that its just an economic contract, but if you feel that its really about love...then thats what its about.

 

[Baggie]

Marrage, for me, is a representation of two people being completely inseperable. So why is the divorce rate so high?

TBH, I think a healthy relationship is one where you've got nothing keeping you in it. It means both of you have to make it work, and if it's not you can leave without it being too much of an issue. You're both there by choice.

Marrage has the tendency to make people not try anymore. Everything's commited, you're together forever. It's sad, but that's how people work.

 

[Clashero]

The only reason I see to get married is to have a kickass party that is all about your love for each other. It's not bad, just not necessary.

That, or if you plan to lawyer up and keep all the money. Which is good, too.

 

[Flying-Emu]

They say that "I am" is the shortest sentence in the English language.

Does that mean that "I do" is the longest?

 

[Puzzles]

It makes love an obligation, rather than a thing you are passionate about.

It is essentially the end to the effort that goes in to being attractive to the opposite sex. I don't mean that the wide will always put on a tonne of weight and the husband will drink every night, I just mean that you no longer have anyone to impress, and this ruins a persons motivation to do the things that make them attractive (but are a lot of effort).

If you love someone, don't buy into some stupid tradition that, as far as I can tell ruins things, just be happy being with each other and know that it is enough.

 

[Mr.Pandah]

It makes love an obligation, rather than a thing you are passionate about.

It is essentially the end to the effort that goes in to being attractive to the opposite sex. I don't mean that the wide will always put on a tonne of weight and the husband will drink every night, I just mean that you no longer have anyone to impress, and this ruins a persons motivation to do the things that make them attractive (but are a lot of effort).

If you love someone, don't buy into some stupid tradition that, as far as I can tell ruins things, just be happy being with each other and know that it is enough.

But wouldn't true love mean you will still go that extra mile? Even after you are married? I don't see marriage as an ending, but a new beginning.

 

[bushwhacker2k]

[img/]http://www.wearyourbeer.com/images/Humor_Wedding_Game_Over_Black_Shirt.jpg[/img]
Pretty much...
And it is pretty much a label, its pretty sad if you need an outside party to deem that you love someone.

God, it certainly seems so... I hear a lot of stuff about it being a bond between you and the person you will love eternally but I have yet to see such a couple.

I don't really have any intention of getting married, though dating until I die sounds good.

 

[Puzzles]

But wouldn't true love mean you will still go that extra mile? Even after you are married? I don't see marriage as an ending, but a new beginning.

No, because I believe marriage changes love for the worse. People can truely be in love, and have that love change after marriage due to the new nature of that obligation.

 

[cleverlymadeup]

for marriage you really have to be sure you want to be with that person. it is a special thing between two people and both people have to work at it

also for those saying marriage ruins sex, maybe they should get a bit more stern with their partner and demand sex or toss them out cause frankly a relationship is something you always have to put effort into and sex is a part of a relationship