Your views on Underage Sex?

[ShadowsofHope]

Not entirely sure the specifics here in Canada, but personally speaking..?

15-16 years old at the lowest, and the participants must be at a maximum of two years apart, and fully consenting with one another for the act to be legal. Beyond those requirements? Wear a condom, learn safe sexual practices, listen in school.. and I don't care what happens after that.

 

[StormShaun]

Im alright with it as long as its above 12 or 13, and also if the two are in truthfully in love.

But a three years radius above or below you age is the limit I find it.

 

[Jekken6]

I'm against people having underage sex together that are younger than me, mostly because I didn't get to!

 

[jurwell]

If there's grass on the field, play ball.

In England, we say 'If there's grass on the wicket, let's play cricket.'

As for a serious opinion on this, I believe that I was ready for sex younger than 16, but mature enough to realise that, for one, I'd be breaking the law, and two, I would use contraception or be bitten on the arse for it. Hard. Lots of my friends would come into school, boasting their conquests, as young as 14, and their maturity and readiness was never called into question. They probably regret doing it though, and I wouldn't blame them.

 

[BabyRaptor]

Assuming I reproduce again, my daughter will be getting an open sex talk as soon as she hits puberty, and likely birth control. If any potential progeny is male, I'll let Daddy handle it, but they'll be equipped to handle the situation.

I don't buy into that "Informing them is enabling them" BS. Teenagers not knowing about sex isn't going to stop them from having it. People who believe that are lying to themselves and hurting others.

Hell, my grandparents tried that routine on me. It didn't work.

I won't particularly care if my kids are having sex as long as I know they're doing so responsibly. The only "legal" bit that matters to me is the age thing. I don't want my 15 year old sleeping with a 21 year old.

 

[xvbones]

It doesn't matter if I can spare it or not, the fact that it's money that society claims that im obliged to pay out of my salary, going to something I really don't see a viable reason paying for, gives me the right to have a fucking opinion about it (which was the point I was making in respons to the post I quoted).

I have a right to have an opinion of other people's sex life if society force me to pay for the resulting and costly mistakes of other people's sex life. It's that simple. I PAID for that right after all.

I again stress that you inform your congressman that you are in favor of increased sexual education and distribution of contraceptives in schools.

 

[Shilefin]

I'm against people having underage sex together that are younger than me, mostly because I didn't get to!

This single sentence has summed up my entire feeling towards this subject. I Seriously need this tatooed somewhere on my forearm.

 

[sumanoskae]

I don't see how this is any of my business. Sex is sex, people insist on demonizing it, but that's all it is. It's not mine nor anyone else's right to tell people what to do with their free time. Things like STD's and teen pregnancy would be less common if people would just support the choices their children make and stop trying to engineer their lives.

People need to stop assuming that just because sex was a big deal for them that it will mean exactly the same thing for everyone else

Actually, considering the fact that some of the tax I pay goes to sponsoring stupid teenage mothers in the form of government welfare (which every parent or couple get in my country to insure that their kid doesn't starve to death or have to walk around without clothes) I'd say it IS my business to some extent if stupid, underage teenagers practice unsafe sex and the stupid, naive 14 year old girls refuse to have an abortion because they can "surely make it" as a parent, despite the fact that they aren't even through school yet and will most likely doom both themselves and their spawn to a life of being social parasites.

If I got to actually CHOOSE what MY taxmoney paid for, then I couldn't care less how much underaged kids fucked around with eachother or how many doomed babies shot out of their nether regions, because I sure wouldn't be the one paying for it (i'd invest my mandatory share of the taxes in more worthy pursuits like science or the weapons industry). But now that my government pretty much force me to pay for such unnecessary "delights", I think it's reasonable to say that it IS my business and that I AM entitled to an opinion about who fucks with who, how and why.

There are a hell of a lot more important things you should be worried about your government spending your money on.

The fact is that most sane, well adjusted teens with access to protection will use it. Telling them not to do it won't help, there's a higher rate of teen pregnancy with families who regulate the subject more. Do you honestly think that we'd be able to restrict something as natural and essential as sex?, even if we don't say anything, kids will figure it out.

And I don't think the fact that you pay taxes gives you control over human will. Besides, by that logic everyone should have a say, yes?. Then what about people who disagree with you, or would use their money to support Neo-Nazis or the KKK?.

An argument could also be made(And I'm playing devils advocate here) that it's not the mother you're helping, but the child unfortunate enough to be born as such.

The situation is shit, but that doesn't mean you can just ignore it. Isn't it your responsibility as a human being to aid those in need?. I don't think so, but there are plenty of tax payers that do.

It's not the teenagers who are asking for your handout, it's the government that controls where tax money goes, if you have a problem, take it up with the people who control it, not the people who benefit from it.

 

[spartan231490]

People's lives are their own to live as they see fit. I have no problem with it, with two possible exceptions. Unprotected sex when underage is retarded. It will ruin not only your life, but also your child's and your families(ruin being a relative term). The other exception is the creepy old guy, even 3 years of age difference is starting to push it in my mind(assuming the younger one is underage. 3 years for people in their late 20s is nothing)

 

[Ruwrak]

You know, as long as they know what they are doing, and doing it safe it's allright to my thinking. Two kids figuring out their bodily functions and all that biologic mumbo jumbo.


However this does not mean I think any 18+ should 'get it on' with someone below the consensual age. On the contrary, keep yer mitts of me kids is more a thought in that scenario.





Ya know, let nature just run it's course. But I agree with what seems the majority, give them some damn information on what to use (not how to do -it-, but how to prevent unplanned pregnancy or anything else rather uncomfy.)

 

[Nisselue]

Funny reading what you all are writing especially all you who are talking about the kids need to be intellectually and emotionally ready before they can have sex.
Yes, the kids need to at least have an IQ of 82.5, minimum 8 years of school and they need to know what different emotions are before they can have sex or else they are going to die when they get an orgasm.

What do people mean when they say things like that? the kids need to be intellectually ready before they have sex? You guys talking about knowing when to say yes/no? When to use contraceptives? What to do and not to do? Right and Wrong? Isn't that really something the parents should tell their kids about? Isn't that something the school should educate in?

What are people afraid of? What is it that people are afraid of is going to happen if they have sex? Pregnancies and AIDS and stuff? Well shit, education is a dandy thing to have, in Norway teenage girls can go to the pharmacy (is that the right word?) and get birth-control-pills for free without needing to tell the parents. Same for boys too i believe with condoms.

 

[Zorak the Mantis]

I think as long as both partners are mature and safe enough it's ok, but definitely not any younger than 16 IMO.

 

[chadachada123]

I'd like to view underage se- wait a minute...

Anyway, if both parties consent, I have no problem with it. When both parties have reached puberty, they're going to do something like this even with strict laws in place, and punishing young kids with life-ruining punishments for a victimless crime helps no one.

Education is the answer, to prevent the spread of STDs and pregnancy.

Otherwise, have at, kiddies.

 

[chadachada123]

What's your view on underage sex, then?
It can be anywhere from sluts going around doing it in the toilets with three people a day, or mature rational 15 year olds (I say 15 as it's close to 16 - legal age here) who have talked about it a lot, and decided that as long as they're very very careful, then it's a good thing, as they believe they're in love.
Do you find both situations to be the same? Both unacceptable as the law is the law, or both fine as it's their lives?
Basically, what do you think on the matter?

Edit: I just saw how this could appear. I'm only asking because we had to sit through an assembly at school on it, and I was wondering about your opinions.

I am 17, and personally I find it idiotic. Sure, at my age it is okay to some degree, however at the age of 15?! What the hell is wrong with people. The thing is, they ARE NOT IN LOVE. They mistaken that "butterflies in the stomach" feeling for love, when all it is is ANXIETY. And once the Anxiety goes away and they become comfortable with the person, they start thinking they aren't in 'love' anymore.

To be honest, I don't really care if you have sex as long as you use a fucking condom (sorry, four people in the past year at my tiny school got pregnant because they are stupid and now I hate to be forced to hear the whining. God help me) and birth control pills. Use both. Safer that way. The thing that pisses me off is the "Oh I am in Love~!" when you are not. You are also not special in any way, shape, or form. You are a generic human being that may or may not be of any footnote in history.

P.S: Please note that the 'You' portions are not directed at the OP but more as a general populace sort of thing for the younger readers.

What if they never claim that love is the reason? What if they just want sex?

Once you get to be around my age (20), you'll see that 15 and 17 truly aren't very far apart at all concerning sexual maturity, and some people at 20 are less sexually promiscuous or curious than some people at 15. Everyone matures differently and the laws should take this into account when all parties are consenting (even if they are stupid).

 

[Mikeyfell]

I'm against arbitrary restrictions no matter what the form and "you have to be 18 to have sex" is as arbitrary as they get.

If you want to and you have the sort of relationship with someone who will let you, no one you don't know should be able to stop you.

 

[FamoFunk]

I don't care. As long as they have an understanding of STI's and contraception then they can carry on with it.
I don't think I could of waited til I was 16, either. Well, I didn't.

 

[Mafoobula]

You're 14 and you wanna have sex with another 14 year-old? Creepy, but more power to ya! What's that, you had a kid because one or both of you had the intellect of a piece of moldy bread? Serves you right, you thundering moron!

You're 16-20 and you wanna have sex with another 16-20 year-old? A blessing on your heads! What's that, you had a kid because one or both of you had the intellect of a piece of moldy bread? Well that's unfortunate, but something like this will make you learn really fast and I think will make you a better, smarter person in the long-run.

You're 24 and you wanna have sex with another 24 year-old? A blessing on your heads! What's that, you had a kid because one or both of you had the intellect of a piece of moldy bread? At this point, you need to be taken out of the gene pool.

If you're wondering why I threw in the bit with the hypothetical 24 year-olds, it's to illustrate that teenagers aren't the only ones who can be head-up-the-ass retarded, which coincidentally emphasizes my second paragraph about how older teens and young adults can be responsible and mature. 14 and under, and I'm not sure you're that mentally mature. Heck, I KNOW I was a friggin' idiot when I was in my early teens, even though I'm fairly sure I was still a step above the average back then.

 

[Hitokiri_Gensai]

i dont think any teenager has the emotional maturity to have sex and not get screwed up by it.

 

[Housebroken Lunatic]

I again stress that you inform your congressman that you are in favor of increased sexual education and distribution of contraceptives in schools.

I don't live i the U.S (and I'd never want to live in that crappy society either) so your solution is pretty much useless.

 

[Housebroken Lunatic]

There are a hell of a lot more important things you should be worried about your government spending your money on.

Excuse me?

That's just an arbitrary opinion on your part. It's my choice if I want to worry or care about whatever it is that my government spends my money on. And in this case I actually PAID for the right to have an opinion and views in regards to underage sex. You tried to argue the case that It's "none of my business", and when I called you out on it and illustrated what a bullshit argument that is, you put up a meek defense of "well there are more important things to care about".

It's still my choice what I care about or not, ESPECIALLY when it regards matters that im being obliged to finance with m7y own damn money.

The fact is that most sane, well adjusted teens with access to protection will use it.

Yeah, that's why there are truckloads of surveys and statistics showing that people IN GENERAL are fucking lousy at using contraception and STD's STILL run rampant.

Telling them not to do it won't help, there's a higher rate of teen pregnancy with families who regulate the subject more. Do you honestly think that we'd be able to restrict something as natural and essential as sex?, even if we don't say anything, kids will figure it out.

Im not saying that we're supposed to tell them not to do it. Regulation is prefectly possible. There's mandatory sterilization that can be reversed when the person in question reaches a legal age to procreate (that way they can fuck around all they want without running the risk of pregnancy). There's restriction to how underage girls and boys are allowed to interact with eachother socially etc.

All you need is a bit of creativity and you could regulate it just fine.

But that's beside the point since im not really interested in regulating it. What I am saying is that it's pretty fucking annoying that adult, hard-working taxpayers always have to pick up the cheque for what stupid teenagers do when they, in their naive little minds decide that they are "grown up enough" to drink themselves shitfaced and fuck around like little sluts (I use the term "slut" here in a gender neutral way, don't think for a second that you CAN'T be a slut just because you are male).

In fact, most of the time we have to pay for this even if we were smart enough not to put any wretched offspring of our own to this world. BUT STILL we are obliged to pay and repair the damages and general fuck ups caused by snot nosed little brats who are delusional to think they are "grown up enough".

And earlier you claimed that it's silly of us to have an opinion or views of their sexlife and general misbehaviour that WE, the taxpayers have to pay for. How's that fair? Is it not enough that our money is being stolen to fund something we'd NEVER willingly pay for if we actually had a choice, but we're not even supposed to be allowed to have an opinion of it? Really?

I think you'll find that sometimes it actually helps to think one step further than "whatever I do is my business and my business alone, and the rest of you aren't entitled to an opinion", because in most democratic societies, a system has been put in place that pretty much insures that actions that may SEEM like they are only affecting you, actually affect plenty of other people who REALLY don't wish to be involved in the slightest.

And I don't think the fact that you pay taxes gives you control over human will. Besides, by that logic everyone should have a say, yes?. Then what about people who disagree with you, or would use their money to support Neo-Nazis or the KKK?.

I never said that it gives me control of human will, but it DOES entitle me to an opinion. Neo-Nazis and the KKK are also entitled to their opinions. ESPECIALLY if they pay their taxes, because a taxpayer is actually supporting the democratic society (which do and SHOULD provide people with freedom of speech and freedom of opinions) rather than just sponge off of it.

An argument could also be made(And I'm playing devils advocate here) that it's not the mother you're helping, but the child unfortunate enough to be born as such.

I don't give a shit. Several hundred kids starve to death in certain ass-ends of the world as it is, but do you see me caring in the slightest? I don't have to care about them (luckily, because my government doesn't have jurisdiction in those countries), but im FORCED to care (at least financially speaking) about some teenage idiot mothers bastard offspring, and that irks me. ANd I see no reason as to why I should support it willingly or refrain from commenting and expressing my views and opinions of that particular phenomenon.

The situation is shit, but that doesn't mean you can just ignore it. Isn't it your responsibility as a human being to aid those in need?. I don't think so, but there are plenty of tax payers that do.

No it isn't my responsibility to aid anyone. Im being forced to take responsibility for the fuck-ups of teenagers by my government, and I have a right to have an opinion about that, that YOU certainly don't have the right to try and take away from me.

It's not the teenagers who are asking for your handout, it's the government that controls where tax money goes, if you have a problem, take it up with the people who control it, not the people who benefit from it.

If the teenagers stopped messing up all the time, then no money would have to be given to them for their fuck-ups. Ever heard of something called PERSONAL responsibility? Your argument basivally bottles down to that teenagers shouldn't have to assume any personal responsibility, and that I should complain to the government for the teenagers' idiocy.

I place the blame in it's rightful place.