You're a guy on a date. Who pays?

[Fetzenfisch]

Both contribute to it. If you go to the movies, one pays the tickets, the other the snacks for example. that evens out most of the time.
On some occasions you can if you like pay for all of it. But its neither expected from you nor should it be done all the time. I dont bribe or pay my dates for acompanying me.
I may purchase some drinks if i feel like it. But here we dont have that strange ritual of men buying their dates or women only interested in money.

 

[Custard_Angel]

I do.

Always.

Regardless.

 

[Slash Dementia]

I'd go 50/50 unless the person on the date is low on money, then I'll pay for it. But it would be me asking if it's okay if I payed before we went to whatever place.

 

[RobCoxxy]

If the date goes well, I pay.
Last time, however, she simply went on about her ex and her dead cat, a proper depressing date to say the least; so I paid for my meal only. And for some reason she found that weird and complained to everyone about it afterwards.

Ppph. Women.

By the way. I had Chicken Pie and it was fucking delicious.

 

[GigaHz]

Situational.

I've covered everything but sometimes they volunteer to cover 50%.

My rule of thumb is expect to pay for everything unless she is the one to suggest covering half. I would NEVER suggest for them to cover half just because I'd think I would come off as cheap. Just because more and more women are working hard for their dollars doesn't mean that they have to split on everything. It's supposed to be a treat after all.

Also, it has worked in my favour post-breakup. Usually stands out on her list of confessions for things I did right. Women still appreciate it folks.

 

[Commissar Sae]

My Girlfriend and I usually split things 50/50, ever so often I'll pay for everything but thats usually just when we go for ice cream or something.

 

[ThreeWords]

I follow the Gentleman's code, but things can get confused when your date is also a gentleman. There are no hard and fast rules, and I let things happen as they occur. Usually, I'm happy to cover the costs, but equally pleased to let my partner cover their half.

 

[Hides His Eyes]

A friend of mine said his mum gave him a piece of advice which I think is perfect: never go out with a girl who is unwilling to pay for her half. Which is not to say that you *should* always pay for her.

 

[moretwocents]

I'm gonna take the chivalrous route and say that I (the man) must pay. This is not because I don't think women can't pay, because I know they can, but it just seems right to do so. It's the gentlemanly thing to do.

 

[reckoner09]

Maybe I'm just old fashioned but I always pay, never even think about it.

Whoever initiated the date covers the costs. If I ask her out, I pay, if she asks me out, she pays. Fair enough, I say.

This makes sense to me. I'm always doing the asking anyway

 

[Benito Zamora]

I always pay. I've had a couple small arguments with girls, who said they wanted to pay all/half, but I don't like that.

 

[Senaro]

Whenever I take my girlfriend out, I always keep it in my mind to be the one to pay, but she always insists on paying for her own meals. I'm totally fine with that. However, I can't think of a single girl I've dated who hasn't done the same. I've never been on a date where the girl made me pay for any of her stuff.

Also, I like the "Whoever initiated the date" idea, but if I was asked out, I'd think that I'm only paying for my half.

 

[Voodoomancer]

No one, we bail before the check arrives xP

 

[GigaHz]

The "*****" always, always pays. Sometimes that's the guy, sometimes that's the girl.

Otherwise, unless you're in a serious relationship or doing a "hey I'll get lunch this time, you get it next time" - go dutch.

Women don't need their meals paid for by men in this day and age. There are more employed women in the US and in college than men right now, FYI.

Paying for a woman's meals and trying too hard is a sure way to get booted into "friend" status from "potential alpha male-boyfriend-lover" status.

That is the biggest load of bullshit I've ever read... well the first and last part.

You'd think that with the economy still in shambles, money would be a greater representation of power than it once was. What else screams 'provider' than a guy who is willing to cover an expensive meal like it was nothing? It has nothing to do with being a ***** or not. It shows that you are comfortable with your money. You'd probably look like more of a ***** if you never paid for her meal, or even got her to pay for your meal. One of my good friends has this problem. His exes all say the same thing. "He never really stepped up as a man financially."

Paying for a woman's meal is not trying too hard. Some women still appreciate the sentiment. And you can drop the whole 'friend-zone', 'alpha-male' garbage. The alpha mentality is used by people who are too insecure or stupid to be themselves around women and need to adopt someone else's methods to stand a chance at relationships. By your logic, I'd be friend zoned by a good 85% of my dates. If many of them didn't lead to a fun night in their bedroom or mine, it lead to a decent or strong relationship. Maybe a failure rate of 10% where nothing happens or we become friends. Still, nothing that would convince me to change my approach.

 

[aegix drakan_v1legacy]

I usually pay for at least part of it. I usually pay for her movie tickets and stuff, and she pays her own food.

I pay not because it's expected of me, but rather because its a nice thing to do, especially considering she pays rent, and I still live with my parents (I have way more disposable income).

 

[Timberwolf0924]

Guy should pay, reguardless. I don't know if that's old fashioned, or whatever. But pride in being a guy/respect for the lady should make you want to pay. Now if they want to go Dutch, then yes, do that.. But only if they offer

 

[Stako]

It depends on the people I guess. When I go out with a girl I usually really want to and I always insist on paying. I believe that men should pay, that's the way it is with everyone I know.

 

[For.I.Am.Mad]

You'll never get with the prom queen with that attitude.

 

[TheDooD]

If somebody want to treat for the meal let'em, it's not sexism.

 

[WhyBotherToTry]

I'd say split it evenly but if I were feeling gentlemanly or just trying to get with the girl I'd pay.