Let's be honest: if it was a boyfriend, spoken of in exactly the same manner, you wouldn't say it was "beating people in the head with it". People talk about opposite-sex partners like this in games all the time without a batted eye.
It would still be bad and still out of pocket for the kind of character Black Cat is. Especially when dealing with someone new.
That would be out of character, and make her even more unlikeable than this incarnation already is. She's done enough shitty manipulation as it is.
Meh manipulation is kind of the point of her whole thing. So not really.
Leave to the straight white guy to complain about someone discussing their non-straight sexuality/sexual preference and "beating them over the head with it". You know how you said you're okay with sexual representation and not going to complain "as long as they get it right"
Dude i even posted an example of them telling a gay love story in the game already. It was cute and well done imo.
I just dont like when the first priority we have to establish with existing characters is having them tell you "im gay now by the way." To make sure you know. It also goes against story telling principals of show dont tell. I stead of having the character explain things to you or outright tell you in dialog, show the play subtlety and let them work out details about the character without neeeding the character to spell it out.
In fact here is how you do it. During the Black Cat mission you are hunting her down in order to warn her about Kraven coming for her. You go to her house and its already fucked up, the hunters have already been here and shes gone. Spiderman investigates to try and guess where she might have escaped to. Here they could have had pictures of her with a woman, having dinner, kissing, whatever, and thus the player could have learned about her partner without Felicia needing to be uncharacteristically up front with a stranger. And id have nothing to complain about.