Choo choo! All aboard the Complain Train!
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I owe the feds 2K for having multiple jobs and not doing enough withholding, and that's not including my local/city taxes.
Edit: I paid it already, still annoying.
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Been going to the same church for 3 years; Overall, it has been an great experience.
But recently, we had someone new coming in. We tried to be welcoming, convice him to go through the same initiaion process as any one who wants to join our church; It's basically having small talks, talking about themselves, how they came to believe in Jesus, or how they came to this church, etc. You know, very friendly stuff. We do this on how and where the new member will best fit in small groups and teams in the church.
The dude rejected every time we asked him, and instead kept rambling on about how much his life sucks, how his wife left him, his family cut contacts with him, he doesn't have any place to live, what life goals he has, how he owns 6 properties and 2 start-up companies but "don't know" what to do with them, and keeping asking us to pray.
Which we don't mind at all, but we also want him to join our church officially so we can help him discover other resources he can utilize.
The dude didn't want to join our church, or stay for the sunday service. He has been dropping in unnanouced to the short prayer meeting before the service, and every week, he has repeated the same phrase that I mentioned above, and basically used us as a trauma dump.
Not to mention, when we first met him, he asked for all of our numbers which we all did because all he wanted was for us to pray with him on the phone. The dude would call any one of us randomly through the weekdays, and have us on the phone for more than 30 min sometimes over an hour, just for him to complain to us before actually praying together.
Then this past Suday, he actually yelled at the prayer group leader in front of the pastor. All she did was carefully suggest to join our church officially if he wants to keep being part of the prayer team. He said to her, and I quote, "backstabbing anti Christian, that I'm being offensive, discriminating him and destroying him" (her words). I was on the other side of a large hall and saw that he was frantically talking, but didn't understand what was said until now.
He yelled at her pretty bad and left, and she told me she was crying outsidee before coming in.
We have warned the leadership figures at the church about this guy. They wanted everyone to try to help him, but he keeps rejecting the help we can give him. I have also been carefully suggesting to restrict his access on which part of the building he can go, or quite possibly outright tresspass him. They did not want to go there.
But this time, many of the leaderships saw how he was yelling like that, so I am hoping they finally realize how serious this is becoming and more action will be done.
Also, we are moving to another room/place for the prayer meeting, and I also suggested have the men in the group escort her to the worship hall.
But recently, we had someone new coming in. We tried to be welcoming, convice him to go through the same initiaion process as any one who wants to join our church; It's basically having small talks, talking about themselves, how they came to believe in Jesus, or how they came to this church, etc. You know, very friendly stuff. We do this on how and where the new member will best fit in small groups and teams in the church.
The dude rejected every time we asked him, and instead kept rambling on about how much his life sucks, how his wife left him, his family cut contacts with him, he doesn't have any place to live, what life goals he has, how he owns 6 properties and 2 start-up companies but "don't know" what to do with them, and keeping asking us to pray.
Which we don't mind at all, but we also want him to join our church officially so we can help him discover other resources he can utilize.
The dude didn't want to join our church, or stay for the sunday service. He has been dropping in unnanouced to the short prayer meeting before the service, and every week, he has repeated the same phrase that I mentioned above, and basically used us as a trauma dump.
Not to mention, when we first met him, he asked for all of our numbers which we all did because all he wanted was for us to pray with him on the phone. The dude would call any one of us randomly through the weekdays, and have us on the phone for more than 30 min sometimes over an hour, just for him to complain to us before actually praying together.
Then this past Suday, he actually yelled at the prayer group leader in front of the pastor. All she did was carefully suggest to join our church officially if he wants to keep being part of the prayer team. He said to her, and I quote, "backstabbing anti Christian, that I'm being offensive, discriminating him and destroying him" (her words). I was on the other side of a large hall and saw that he was frantically talking, but didn't understand what was said until now.
He yelled at her pretty bad and left, and she told me she was crying outsidee before coming in.
We have warned the leadership figures at the church about this guy. They wanted everyone to try to help him, but he keeps rejecting the help we can give him. I have also been carefully suggesting to restrict his access on which part of the building he can go, or quite possibly outright tresspass him. They did not want to go there.
But this time, many of the leaderships saw how he was yelling like that, so I am hoping they finally realize how serious this is becoming and more action will be done.
Also, we are moving to another room/place for the prayer meeting, and I also suggested have the men in the group escort her to the worship hall.
Thinking of a certain speech from a certain movie.
Maybe that’s a bit extreme though.
The irony of that though is Jules reevaluates the speech at the end, while he’s got Pumpkin at gunpoint because by his own admission he thought it was just some ice cold shit to say before he capped a guy.
Still, this guy sounds like poison and the sooner he is exorcised from the congregation the better.
Haven't posted here in a while.
So my procratination-disorder is steadily getting worse - also the depression.
The last few weeks i have needed about 1-2 hours a day to get out of the bed in the morning. Have been working for months at maybe 20% capacity, drowning myself in short youtube clips or random timewasting games.
I am at a point where mostly can't take the time to even watch a movie or play a demanding game - just wasting hours sitting in my trash-filled apartment.
So a few days back i got myself to the doctor (After laying about 3 Hours in bed after waking that day and crying), got myself a sicknote for 2 days and looking to get myself back into therapy.
Man, i am feeling bad (Also my blood-pressure and general fitness is... wow REALLY terrible) You just live without motivation for 30 years and do nothing with your life and then BAM: Constant regret and avoidence. Would be nice if i had someone to blame, but it is just me and my sickness.
So yeah, i am complaining about myself wasting my own time, having ruined nearly all my potential.
So my procratination-disorder is steadily getting worse - also the depression.
The last few weeks i have needed about 1-2 hours a day to get out of the bed in the morning. Have been working for months at maybe 20% capacity, drowning myself in short youtube clips or random timewasting games.
I am at a point where mostly can't take the time to even watch a movie or play a demanding game - just wasting hours sitting in my trash-filled apartment.
So a few days back i got myself to the doctor (After laying about 3 Hours in bed after waking that day and crying), got myself a sicknote for 2 days and looking to get myself back into therapy.
Man, i am feeling bad (Also my blood-pressure and general fitness is... wow REALLY terrible) You just live without motivation for 30 years and do nothing with your life and then BAM: Constant regret and avoidence. Would be nice if i had someone to blame, but it is just me and my sickness.
So yeah, i am complaining about myself wasting my own time, having ruined nearly all my potential.
Recognizing your lack of motivation is the first step to remedying your situation, but don't just complain about it; DO something about it. That doesn't mean you change everything today, and everything will be perfect tomorrow; it will be a process. Set yourself small goals, and as you achieve them, they add up to the bigger goal of overall self-improvement. I've found that few things are a bigger motivator than knowing you can only let yourself down; when it becomes a conscious decision to do (or not do) the things you know you haven't (or have) done, accountability becomes undeniable.
Not saying it's easy, but I've seen enough people (including myself) make 180°s in my time that I know it's possible for anyone with enough determination. Messy apartment? Clean it. Doesn't have to be the whole thing in one go; start with one room at a time or one section of a room at a time, and watch how quickly you'll learn to hold your old self to account the moment a speck of trash treads on your efforts. Set a morning alarm with the one expectation that both feet be on the ground the moment it goes off, then look at the bed and know that the only thing waiting on that pillow is the person you DON'T want to be. Maybe a motivator could be to play a demanding game knowing that the quick, timewasting games are the opioid of the person you DON'T want to be, e.g.: set your alarm to wake up and dedicate the hour or two you would have wasted wallowing in bed to playing something that requires investment.
I'm no therapist, but these are my knee-jerk reactions to someone complaining (openly reaching out) about things that are completely within their control to change after they've recognized they need to change. So most importantly, get the therapy you need, and stay with it. Let a professional guide you on the path, but acknowledge that even someone like myself believes you can make your world better, and when you've got professionals and anonymous online people encouraging you, why wouldn't you encourage yourself?
Wishing you nothing but the best, my friend, but wishing for something I KNOW you can do is a weak way of saying "prove yourself wrong."
Second that, the first step is often the hardest, I find, do something small and you can build up momentum. And even if that's all you do, it's better than not having done it.
I find the physicality of making lists, checking boxes, crossing out items to be good for motivation. Just the act of crossing out a single thing off a list is a great motivator, and makes the next step slightly easier. You can even trick yourself by making the first thing in your list for the day something as basic as a shower or breakfast. That way you get the ball rolling. And it's good to reduce it to steps. That way it's more manageable. Shoot for "clean fridge" or "clean kitchen drawer", not "clean kitchen".
This might all seem frivolous if you insist of thinking in terms of ennui and existential angst and midlife crisis. Chip away every day, shape a foundation.
Got prescribed some new meds for my hypertension. Good new is the meds work quite well. But they also make me really sleepy all the time.
Man do I hate how people use "media literacy" as an insult! I don't think there's any other single term that makes me as angry as that one. I don't care if I agree with your larger argument or not, if you call someone media illiterate I'm going to lose all respect for you.
Also, this time I'm done with reddit. I swear!
Also, this time I'm done with reddit. I swear!
I've been going through a rough time and struggling with motivation for the past year myself. I've been reading a book called The Happiness Trap, by Russ Harris, and I think it's been helping. It's based on Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT). It has a lot of strategies for diffusing negative thoughts and dealing with urges that prevent you from taking action that would lead your life in the direction you want it to go. Maybe give it a read?
A few weeks ago, I was rear-ended by someone on the way to work. Today I was told that the other person's insurance company wanted to declare it a total loss. I don't want to go through the trouble of trying to find another car (it took me months to find the one I have), plus I like my little zoom machine, so I accepted their settlement and I'll be on the hook for anywhere from $500 to $1000 in repair costs.
Insurance is one of the biggest scams in the world. The fact that someone can smash into your vehicle and their insurance company can just look at it and say that your car isn't worth fixing and give you next to nothing for it is just straight up bullshit! I don't even understand the logic. A car isn't just the resale value, it's part of a person's livelihood and they should be paying additional damages for the inconvenience and stress they've caused, and also the fact that you've destroyed someone else's property! The fact that you are legally required to buy into this scam that doesn't actually benefit anybody but the insurance company is just the cherry on the cake.
Using this website these days is hilarious. If I'm on my phone, none of the YouTube embeds work (nor do I ever expect them to again) and if I'm on my desktop none of the twitter/X/BluSky embeds work because my ad-blocker annoys them.
Progress!
Progress!
Still, we've been through worse. I don't think it's nearly as bad as v1 was at times.
I caught a bit of a cold last weekend, didn't feel particularly ill, but very obvious sneezing, runny nose, hard to breath etc for a couple of days.
Cue all the man flu jokes from my my partner. I wasn't complaining, expecting looking after, taking time off work, anything like that, but on they came.
Come today, and she's got it now. Sitting on the sofa with real grump on.
If you never hear from me again, you'll know I couldn't resist the temptation.
Cue all the man flu jokes from my my partner. I wasn't complaining, expecting looking after, taking time off work, anything like that, but on they came.
Come today, and she's got it now. Sitting on the sofa with real grump on.
If you never hear from me again, you'll know I couldn't resist the temptation.