A Pathetic, Yet Earnest, Request

[BiscuitTrouser]

Good friends don't always make good girl/boy-friends. IF you take the people above me advice and it doesn't work out then maybe that's the case here.

Worked for me.

Take my advice and do something. DO SOMETHING NOW! I managed to get myself into action before it was too late and im so damn glad of that. Kiss her. Seriously, do it, it makes your life far easier and the "Will she wont she" question is answered in seconds. Try not to be too hesitant or nervous, just grab the single thought that says "i can do this" and GO DAMMIT GO. Also admit all your feelings. Being rather poetic i improvised a little speech when in your situation, which although wasnt poetry was quite good as far as i go. Let it all out if your any good with words, usually you dont need to be, if you love her as much as you say you do you should have plenty of things to say about how you feel, just make it artfull.

EDIT: I realised this came over incorrectly. Only say or do what you actually feel. This isnt designed to MAKE her love you, its designed to say "this is all i can be to you, its your choice" then let the question hang, leaving an ultimatum. Do not try and change to be what she wants.

From what you said shes telling you, you seem pretty open with feelings anyway. I talked about dating for months before i went out with my current girlfriend just in casualy convosation. This is a good sign, if its really awkward your going to have problems.

 

[fulano]

I'm cynical enough to say that you should resort to bribery. Usually a really expensive gift is the best way to tell her that you're are seriously serious. Hope it works out for you bud.

A true cynical man consults with his wallet first.

Your wallet respectfully declines your transaction.

As do the wallets of most cynical men.

More like most men period.

Because most men are cynical men... ...maybe that is why the kid is screwed.

 

[Baby Eater]

who wouldn't date a warhobo???

i have the same problem

 

[Warhobo]

Thank you all so far. I guess more details are in order; we met a few weeks ago, and have hung out about once a week since then. Neither of us were sure whether these meetings were friends getting together or dates. We are already fast friends - we can keep up silly conversations for extended periods of time. However, it seems every time we are together I slide farther towards "friend." My goal, my hope, my desire is to somehow reverse this trend. A flat out kiss scares me; what if I end up ruining our friendship? What clues towards her feelings should I keep an eye out for? Also, I notice no one has mocked me yet; I thank you for this.

Oh, and to asnwer a question posed earlier: I turned 21 on Tuesday. Yeah, I am inexperienced.

 

[MrSnugglesworth]

PIHB!



Oh god.


I'm so sorry, I used to troll around WoW OT.


*Represses bad memories*


OT: Just be yourself. Also, make sure you don't smell bad.

Not personal experience or anything >.>

 

[GHMonkey]

Fellow Escapists, I need advice. I have a friend whom I REALLY like: she is cute, funny, smart, witty, nerdy, loves video games and fantasy novels...essentially, if I were to imagine a PERFECT woman, she would be it. I asked her, and she agreed to go on a date with me! The only problem? The more we hang out, the more she says we feel "more friend-y, less couple-y," and thinks it will be the same after this date. We are planning on going to a ballet and dinner. Since my friends are all woefully inexperienced in this area, I turn to you: what can I do to win her heart? What can I do before, during, or after this date in order to facilitate her seeing me as more than a friend? I realize I am asking for romantic advice on the web, but I would truly appreciate any thoughtful answers.

right then, you have only one option my man: take her on that date and guess what? act like you don't care if she likes you or not, flirt with other girls, ask her oppinion on their asses, tease her, be playful and witty, be cocky but not arrogant, with any luck you'll get her, and if the still drops you in her friend zone then move on, it's her loss. rejection is a fact of life my friend, it happens to all men. exept the ones who lack the confidence to get out there and play the feild.

besides you're probably prescribing her atributes, some of which she doesn't have.


oh and for the record: MAKE A FUCKING MOVE ALREADY, NO WONDER SHE ASYS YOU'RE MORE LIKE A FIREWND IF YOU'RE NOT KISSING HER!!!! OR EVEN TRYING TO!!!!

damn dude, you are on the fucking ball dude. do what this guy says.

 

[thepj]

Thank you all so far. I guess more details are in order; we met a few weeks ago, and have hung out about once a week since then. Neither of us were sure whether these meetings were friends getting together or dates. We are already fast friends - we can keep up silly conversations for extended periods of time. However, it seems every time we are together I slide farther towards "friend." My goal, my hope, my desire is to somehow reverse this trend. A flat out kiss scares me; what if I end up ruining our friendship? What clues towards her feelings should I keep an eye out for? Also, I notice no one has mocked me yet; I thank you for this.

Oh, and to asnwer a question posed earlier: I turned 21 on Tuesday. Yeah, I am inexperienced.

uncertaity principle my friend, pm me if you want to know how to really go about this, in other words mate, if you never try you'll never know. SO FUCKING DO IT!!!!!!!!! if you really want this girls, and i mean WANT her then you shouldn't worry about the friend ship, you should worry about the romantic relatiopn ship, exept you shouldn't worry cause i want you to look yourself in a mirror and tell yourself: i'm the man till you belive it, and then i want to to go out and socialise, get some #'s and text during the date or some thin, the jealousy will be better than anything cause it makes her WANT you.

 

[Johnn Johnston]

At the risk of echoing everyone else, you'd need to move the relationship on a stage to avoid that feeling.

 

[Fritzvalt]

He's the bottom line. Nothing over the top and corn is going to work or her bullshit detector will go off. As this is a first date, I'd stay away from poetry, singing, or gushing in general. A good kiss would work in your favor more than anything else here. Get her blood a-pumpin' more than your own. I would assume it's pretty obvious how you feel about her, so don't go turning on the cold water or acting aloof, that, too, will set off the bullshit detector. Basically, my advice is this; stay calm, be yourself, don't be anything short of AWESOME.

 

[Stoic raptor]

Take her somewere you two have never been to before.

 

[Booze Zombie]

Try being yourself and don't get pushy.

 

[thepj]

Fellow Escapists, I need advice. I have a friend whom I REALLY like: she is cute, funny, smart, witty, nerdy, loves video games and fantasy novels...essentially, if I were to imagine a PERFECT woman, she would be it. I asked her, and she agreed to go on a date with me! The only problem? The more we hang out, the more she says we feel "more friend-y, less couple-y," and thinks it will be the same after this date. We are planning on going to a ballet and dinner. Since my friends are all woefully inexperienced in this area, I turn to you: what can I do to win her heart? What can I do before, during, or after this date in order to facilitate her seeing me as more than a friend? I realize I am asking for romantic advice on the web, but I would truly appreciate any thoughtful answers.

right then, you have only one option my man: take her on that date and guess what? act like you don't care if she likes you or not, flirt with other girls, ask her oppinion on their asses, tease her, be playful and witty, be cocky but not arrogant, with any luck you'll get her, and if the still drops you in her friend zone then move on, it's her loss. rejection is a fact of life my friend, it happens to all men. exept the ones who lack the confidence to get out there and play the feild.

besides you're probably prescribing her atributes, some of which she doesn't have.


oh and for the record: MAKE A FUCKING MOVE ALREADY, NO WONDER SHE ASYS YOU'RE MORE LIKE A FIREWND IF YOU'RE NOT KISSING HER!!!! OR EVEN TRYING TO!!!!

damn dude, you are on the fucking ball dude. do what this guy says.

thanks, it's good to be recognised, i love that avater by the way, so funny =D

 

[Fritzvalt]

I can think of no other way.

This method has never failed me.

 

[Florion]

Let her know you're serious, how much you like her. If she still says no, don't be too aggressive; just because you want her to be The One, doesn't mean she is. She might be perfect in your eyes, but the relationship can't be perfect unless she honestly thinks you're wonderful too.

 

[AkJay]

not one of these threads again, i mean seriously, for the love god. DO NOT USE THE INTERNET FOR DATING ADVICE!

 

[Raven's Nest]

Thank you all so far. I guess more details are in order; we met a few weeks ago, and have hung out about once a week since then. Neither of us were sure whether these meetings were friends getting together or dates. We are already fast friends - we can keep up silly conversations for extended periods of time. However, it seems every time we are together I slide farther towards "friend." My goal, my hope, my desire is to somehow reverse this trend. A flat out kiss scares me; what if I end up ruining our friendship? What clues towards her feelings should I keep an eye out for? Also, I notice no one has mocked me yet; I thank you for this.

Oh, and to asnwer a question posed earlier: I turned 21 on Tuesday. Yeah, I am inexperienced.

Just go for it mate as others described more eloquently than I will, If it works you'll have the girlfriend of your dreams.

If it doesn't you'll find out If she's a friend worth having. If she's cool she won't care, at least you tried.

Either way you've got nothing bad to lose...

 

[Lord Mountbatten Reborn]

Does she know what you think about her? That'd be a great first step otherwise.

Also, I agree that kissing her is a great way to try it.

 

[Darth Pope]

Thank you all so far. I guess more details are in order; we met a few weeks ago, and have hung out about once a week since then. Neither of us were sure whether these meetings were friends getting together or dates. We are already fast friends - we can keep up silly conversations for extended periods of time. However, it seems every time we are together I slide farther towards "friend." My goal, my hope, my desire is to somehow reverse this trend. A flat out kiss scares me; what if I end up ruining our friendship? What clues towards her feelings should I keep an eye out for? Also, I notice no one has mocked me yet; I thank you for this.


Oh, and to answer a question posed earlier: I turned 21 on Tuesday. Yeah, I am inexperienced.

Been there.Just steel yourself and do it.

 

[WlknCntrdiction]

Since I haven't given my advice yet(and BonsaiK doesn't seem to be answering my call) I think I'll give my two(not so common)sense(c wat I did thur?)on the subject. Kiss her, it's actually that simple. You kiss her you find out what she feels. It won't ruin your friendship unless you set about to ruin it. It sounds like you might though if you were to kiss her and it not go your way because you would be incapable of brushing it off and continuing as friends, bringing it up every now and again which would frustrate her making her annoyed at you, now that, would ruin your friendship. A simple kiss won't.

Kiss her, find out, then either get in a relationship with her or move on and be friends with her.

And also, 21!! Really??! Wow. I think that religious guy was right, Facebook(amongst other "social" networking sites)is killing our generations abilities to communicate face to face with fellow human beings, it's quite sad.